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To feel sorry for hoax call Djs

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PearlyWhites · 10/12/2012 14:02

I don't agree with the hoax call, they didn't think it through but no one could have foreseen what was to happen.

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Sallyingforth · 12/12/2012 17:11

And I agree with you! See my 16:10:11

RabidCarrot · 13/12/2012 13:47

the woman clearly had some under lying issue
To borrow someone else's phrase, you know this how?

Sane people do not kill them-self over a joke

DoesntTurkeyNSproutSoupDragOn · 13/12/2012 14:18

I thought she came from a culture where to have brought "shame" on the family like this would be intolerable.

Sallyingforth · 13/12/2012 19:42

a joke?

a fucking joke?

Let's see you held up to ridicule in front of the world Carrot and see if you call it a joke.

RabidCarrot · 14/12/2012 06:46

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everlong · 14/12/2012 07:07

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DoesntTurkeyNSproutSoupDragOn · 14/12/2012 07:08

You are coming across as being deliberately foul.

festivelyfocussed · 14/12/2012 08:55

Rabid, your last comment was deeply offensive and unreasonably flippant.
Please remember this is a public forum and as such is accessible to all, including the deceased woman's family. I do not believe it's acceptable to disregard all decency and inflict emotional pain to a bereaved family simply in order for you to try support your "argument".
Your comments indicate you have very little understanding with regard to the factors that can influence a person to take their own life.

shesariver · 14/12/2012 09:01

Remember they are both experienced presenters so can be relied upon to put on a good performance

Playing records on an Australian radio station is hardly in the same league as actors.

Sallyingforth · 14/12/2012 12:31

No they are not actors, but they host other public activities and are confident at appearing in front of microphones and cameras. Even so many viewers felt that he could not disguise his underlying attitude.

SusannahL · 14/12/2012 13:24

Of COURSE the suicide was a gross over-reation, and the woman must have had mental health problems, but of course the DJs would have had no way of knowing this.

I thoiught they both seemed genuinely upset. Neither of them came across as insincere to me. Thye obviously did have to be careful about what they said though.

The point was this prank, though silly was only intended to be just that - a prank and until this death the whole thing would have blown over quickly.

Even Prince Charles, (before the suicide obviously) mentioned the hoax call to some reporters, and made light of it.

everlong · 14/12/2012 13:38

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becstarlightstarbright · 14/12/2012 13:56

I don't feel sorry for them.

Medical confidentiality should be sacrosanct. Giving people their privacy in hospital is just common decency. That's why some of the stuff that came out at Leveson was so shocking - stealing the records of Gordon Brown's son etc. That's private, it shouldn't be accessible to the media.

The DJs knew that they were breaking that privacy, and they didn't have enough instinctive morality to say 'no, that's a hospital, the people we'd be distracting would be nurses who would otherwise be caring for sick people, and that's someone's private medical condition, so that's not funny'. They were still boasting about what they'd done on Twitter with no thought of how it might have affected the nurse and receptionist, and the radio station were still playing the clip after Jacintha's suicide had been confirmed.

Even if this suicide hadn't occurred, did they not think that the nurse and receptionist would be suffering terrible humiliation, shame and fear of losing their jobs? The DJs weren't sorry until it started to look like it might affect their career.

And the repeated 'we thought they'd just hang up on us'. Well could they not hear the accents of the people working at the hospital? It's hard to spot a 'bad accent' if English isn't your first language and many of the dedicated and essential staff in British hospitals speak English as a second language. They're not qualified in linguistics. It's a way of deflecting blame back onto the people who took the call (Jacintha and the nurse) for not spotting them instead of knowing that they just shouldn't have played the prank in the first place.

And I don't think you have to have a pre-existing mental health condition to be at risk of suicide when suddenly placed under extreme stress, especially where shame is a factor.

Bleargh. Don't feel sorry for them. They're polluting my keyboard by my even typing about them. Self-promoting media types.

SusannahL · 14/12/2012 14:03

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DoesntTurkeyNSproutSoupDragOn · 14/12/2012 14:09

Because of her culture and background Confused
Not that difficult TBH.

everlong · 14/12/2012 14:11

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SusannahL · 14/12/2012 14:56

Yes that's quite true. None of us on here know all the ins and outs of the case. All we can do is comment on what we do know, and try to draw our own conclusions.

A terribly said business all round.

Terrible also for the unfortunate person who found her - especailly now we learn that she hanged herself.

everlong · 14/12/2012 16:26

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festivelyfocussed · 14/12/2012 16:39

It is not true that a person who commits suicide must always have a pre existing mental health problem.
The repeated posting of this type of comment is not opinion. It is inaccurate and also insulting to the memory of the deceased and to her family. Say what you will in private but please not here on a public forum.

everlong · 14/12/2012 16:46

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festivelyfocussed · 14/12/2012 17:20

Everlong, I'm so sorry that you lost your son.

Bakingnovice · 14/12/2012 17:26

Everlong I'm so sorry to hear about your son. X

Sallyingforth · 14/12/2012 17:38

Everlong you must be offended by the quite thoughtless, uninformed comments above.
Coming after the loss of your son it must be particularly hurtful and I'm very sorry for what you have been through.

everlong · 14/12/2012 18:02

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Sallyingforth · 14/12/2012 18:13

you can't stop an arse hole can you

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