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AIBU?

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To think these parents should bring their kids home

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AreYouADurtBirdOrALadyBird · 09/12/2012 08:03

I went out to dinner last night with dh and some friends. When we arrived we were seated next to a group at a larger table. At about 10:30pm one of the kids, looked about three, started crying and whining and throwing stuff. Then the baby started crying. The group was finished eating and were just chatting.
At around 11pm the waiting staff brought out a birthday cake to my friend as it was his birthday, so of course we sang Happy Birthday.
The mother of the two kids came over and told us to settle down because her children were trying to sleep (the baby was still crying ),so I said well maybe they would sleep better at home in bed. She called me a fucking cow and stomped back to her table.
So wibu? We left at 11:40 and they were still there.

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JellyMould · 09/12/2012 08:05

She sounds like a nutter to me! Who expects people to be quiet in a restaurant so children can sleep?

bradyismyfavouritewiseman · 09/12/2012 08:07

Please tell me you are joking.

Bananapickle · 09/12/2012 08:07

YWNBU. She can't expect a restaurant to be quiet enough for babies to sleep at 11 o'clock at night. Se was being ridiculous!

FamiliesShareGerms · 09/12/2012 08:07

Is this the family from the other thread about taking a six month old out, in some kind of MN small world-ness?

bubblepop · 09/12/2012 08:08

no, you are not being unreasonable. These sort of people are so selfish, poor kids. ive seen this so many times....little kids flopped out on someones settee, totally exhausted, while mummy and daddy are getting pissed out of their brains in the next room at a party....then staggering home with them at 3am. Im with you on this one. YANBU

bradyismyfavouritewiseman · 09/12/2012 08:09

In fact, I own a restaurant. Its quite small so no chance of baby sleeping in there. But I would have asked the woman to leave for calling another customer 'a fucking cow'.

Sirzy · 09/12/2012 08:11

If the children are happy then them being out in a restaurant is fine (although I wouldn't do it that late)

If the children are upset then they should leave

They certainly shouldn't expect others to change their behaviour to accomodate their children.

DragonMamma · 09/12/2012 08:11

She sounds like a nutter. I see this a lot, an acquaintance regularly brings her DS who is 13/14months out until 11pm and the poor kid is shattered and gets passed around everybody, fed endless chocolate to keep him quiet. All because she doesn't like to miss out and likes him to sleep until 9/10am the next day.

It seems really cruel if they are tired and desperate for sleep.

RooneyMara · 09/12/2012 08:13

She was a nutter.

Hopefully you didn't say what you said in a snarky way - I'd probably have not said that, exactly - but still she was making a very unreasonable request.

Groovee · 09/12/2012 08:14

She is being very unreasonable. Especially stomping over to your table to tell you to keep it down.

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AreYouADurtBirdOrALadyBird · 09/12/2012 08:16

Unfortunately I'm not joking and I hope its not connected to the other thread.
I don't get out much these days so it kind of put a dampness on the night.

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exoticfruits · 09/12/2012 08:18

A complete nutter- ignore!

exoticfruits · 09/12/2012 08:19

Feel sorry for the DCs though.

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AreYouADurtBirdOrALadyBird · 09/12/2012 08:19

I don't think I said it snarky,it was more direct.

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RooneyMara · 09/12/2012 08:21

It was a fair comment!

I think her children should have been taken home if she was that concerned for their sleep - did she really expect the whole place to be quiet so they could sleep?

That's just crazy. Poor things.

youarewinning · 09/12/2012 08:25

Having gone out for a meal last night as a group of 47 including 6 under 5's and other children aged 5-10yo - YAMostDNBU.

We left at 9.30pm as DS (8) was tired and found it too noisy - I wanted to stay but whats the point when they start flaking as the night ends badly and it's better to end on a good note.

Hope your friend had a lovely birthday.

sashh · 09/12/2012 08:27

I'm glad that most places around here have a sign saying children need to be off the premeses by 9pm.

Gillyweed001 · 09/12/2012 08:29

yanbu. I have (and will have when ds is older!) no issues with kids being in restaurants, no matter what the time, as long as they are happy. However, when they are overtired, and whingy,/screaming/running around too much, we will be leaving the restaurant, and getting them home.

JenaiMathis · 09/12/2012 08:30

I never saw anyone allow their children to be quite so intrusive in all my years of restaurant work, and I saw some horrors.

I'd have told the woman to leave after calling you names, as Brady says. In fact it wouldn't have reached that point because I'd have managed diplomatically top get the family out way before

JenaiMathis · 09/12/2012 08:31

I never saw anyone allow their children to be quite so intrusive in all my years of restaurant work, and I saw some horrors.

I'd have told the woman to leave after calling you names, as Brady says. In fact it wouldn't have reached that point because I'd have managed diplomatically top get the family out way before

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AreYouADurtBirdOrALadyBird · 09/12/2012 08:34

Yes my friend had a lovely birthday thanks winning
He got engaged so I think we will have that party in the house lol.

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bradyismyfavouritewiseman · 09/12/2012 08:34

I'm glad that most places around here have a sign saying children need to be off the premeses by 9pm.

I would hate to have to do that in our restuarant. Luckily the people who bring kids are responsible with them.

But we have had newborns in until late and no problems.

both our families are greek and my mum is Irish. We have a very family orientated atmosphere.

But some people take the piss.

FellatioNelson · 09/12/2012 08:39

Good grief - YADNBU the woman is a lunatic.

pumpkinsweetie · 09/12/2012 08:49

Yanbu-If the children were awake & happy that late, no problem, but for children to be soooo tired they fall to sleep in a restaurant, only for their mum to keep them there for her own selfish reasons and also telling everyone to be quiet is rude and not the behaviour of a good parent.

And then to swear at you, when you suggest a better alternative!!! There are no words.......

hermioneweasley · 09/12/2012 08:50

Agree, YANBU. Asking other diners to be quiet so your kids can sleep is madness.

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