To think these parents should bring their kids home

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I went out to dinner last night with dh and some friends. When we arrived we were seated next to a group at a larger table. At about 10:30pm one of the kids, looked about three, started crying and whining and throwing stuff. Then the baby started crying. The group was finished eating and were just chatting.
At around 11pm the waiting staff brought out a birthday cake to my friend as it was his birthday, so of course we sang Happy Birthday.
The mother of the two kids came over and told us to settle down because her children were trying to sleep (the baby was still crying ),so I said well maybe they would sleep better at home in bed. She called me a fucking cow and stomped back to her table.
So wibu? We left at 11:40 and they were still there.

I saw a similar thing happen once. I said on the "6 month at a restaurant" thread that we lived about 100 yards from a quiet, gastro-type pub when DS1 was a baby. He was a solid sleeper so we quite often used to go along for a drink or dinner with him asleep in the sling or his car-seat. During the week there were usually only a handful of people in there, and we used to sit in a smaller room, away from the main bar area. We quite often had it to ourselves.

One night near Christmas there was an office party there. They weren't particularly rowdy, but obviously it made it a lot noisier than usual. We were fine because nothing woke DS1 once he was asleep, so he just snored under the table in his car seat. However, there was another couple in there with an older baby in a pram. The baby kept waking and crying and the woman was obviously starting to get annoyed with the group from the looks she was shooting at them - the group were also obviously irritated with the crying baby and, to be fair, there was a large notice on the pub door saying "Babies welcome in the evening but if they cry please take them out as our customers enjoy the peaceful atmosphere in our pub" or words to that effect.

Eventually, the woman got up and went over to the group and asked them to keep the noise down as they kept waking the baby, and because this was supposed to be a family pub. The group were quite polite but one of the men said he was a little surprised to be asked to whisper in a pub for a sleeping baby, particularly when they hadn't tried to enforce the "take crying babies out" rule, despite being disturbed by the noise.

The woman didn't swear or shout, but she did say something like "oh thank you for your consideration" in a sarcastic voice and stomp back to their table where they glared and muttered at the group for the rest of their meal. And made no attempt to take their baby out, even temporarily.

It is unfair on the children to linger in such unsuitable surroundings. We have been known to take DS home from child parties because they are too loud for him and he hates it (no SN or sensory issues; he's just a small boy, and just that can be enough!).

As for telling people - other restaurant-goers, behaving in a fashion appropriate and civilised for adults - to hush up? Hahahahaha. Monstrously rude, and would even be funny if it weren't sad for the children.

Fine for children to be there if they are asleep or behaving appropriately. Not fine to expect other people to change their behaviour or put up with bad behaviour/prolonged crying.

It's almost unbelievable that there are people this thick in the world.
Actually expecting an entire pub / restaurant to be quiet so your baby can sleep... It's nearly funny, in a bizarre sort of way.