To ask if you "announce" or let people know you're about to go to the loo?

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My DH and I are having a "discussion" about this. He thinks its stupid and rude to tell people with you that you're about to go and use the loo. He's telling me how he gets pissed off when people he works with tell him they're going to the toilet.

I think there's nothing wrong with it. It's good to tell people where you're going so they know. Infact I'd go as far to say its good manners to tell people you're with where you are off to for a few minutes.

Who is right?

I always used to make an announcement, but I seem to have noticed that in polite company generally one just slinks away.

I'll reply in a minute, I just need a wee. Brb.

If im at home i'll usually say to dp, "watch dd3 with my ipad while i run to the loo", If im at a friends house i'll usually mention it too (otherwise they might think it rude to just get up and go upstairs)

Depends entirely on context! I wouldn't usually announce it, no, but I would if I had to excuse myself in the middle of something!

Yeah if im with people i usually say "im just gonna pop to the loo" because if i dont and i just get up to go they will ask "where you going?"

I think its rude just to leave. I think saying 'im just popping to the loo' is much more polite than leaving.

Yes it is weird if you just get up and go in the middle of something!

Well its weird to just jump up and go without saying anything and you'll either seem really rude or people will ask where you are going/went anyway.

I just say 'just off to the loo'. End of.

At work I think you should let people know where you're going. As long as you're not saying "off for a massive shit chaps, back in 20" whilst reaching for a newspaper, then it's entirely appropriate!

Another 'just popping to the loo' here. I think it's quite rude just to disappear when you are just with one other person or in a small group. If I'm out with a bigger group of friends I say it quitely to the ones sitting near me though - I wouldn't 'tap my glass' and announce it to the whole group There are some men people who do 'announce' it thought, in situations where there's actually no need - it's almost like a boast - very odd I think!

At work I wouldn't, but at my house in company or at others yes I would.

I don't 'pop' anywhere. I just say to the person nest to me - not a stranger though - that I'm going 'to pay a visit'. Men go 'to see a man about a dog'.

People don't seem 'to spend a penny' though because they don't have to any more.

It's good to tell people where you're going so they know
Why do they have to know? Why would they care?

I've had to live 18 years with a mother who annouces each and every bowel movement. It's not funny. It's of no interest to anyone.

No one I know outside my weird family does this so I think YABU.

I announce loo visits in a jokey way. Come back and celebrate as if scoring a goal. It amuses me and others. But would not do it with strangers

my mum told me it was really naff to make any kind of announcement and one should just slip off...it is obvious where you are going anyway. So I am sticking to that.

LeBFG my dear old Dad used to do this for both bowel and bladder evacuation. I think it was being over praised during potty training that did it. He was still over sharing at 84!!

At work some US colleagues announce they need a 'comfort break'. Bleurgh.

I dO , I say " I'm touching cloth " or " I'm just dropping the kids off "
Tres amusing

its a good way of letting my colleagues know to avoid the toilet for around 10 mins

at comfort break. I like it actually.

Just say, 'excuse me, I'll be back shortly' if you feel the absolute need to say something.

I once had a crap secretary job, I was totally crap, completely not my thing. When the big boss went to the loo and a client phoned I would say, awfully politely like, 'oh, he's just gone to the toilet, can I take a message?' .

My line manager felt it neccessary to tell me this wasn't appropriate and just say he's unavailable.

Ok so some people think like my DH. I've always told him I'm going to the loo when we're in the living room. I never knew he was secretly wincing at me!

a simple, could you please excuse me for a few moments? will suffice shurely?

I think it's good manners - especially when you're at work.

it means that people know that you're away from your station, and roughly how long you'll be gone for.