Aibu to be one day in new home and miserable?

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Moved yesterday to small town after London. Have been looking forward to it for years but suddenly miserable and totally overwhelmed.

Sorry this is clearly a plea for encouragement but sitting here near tears.

The house is so so filthy. We've got so much stuff (used to have a cellar) and I've no idea where to start. Can't unpack into these filthy rooms and can't clean rooms full of boxes.

My toddler woke at 3 am and none of us have slept since. Have heard horror stories of moving really ruining toddlers sleep long term.

There's no cooker and I've run out of food.

Right I need to stop whinging. Sorry for that. Bucking up (whilst still crying just a bit).

Close your eyes and imagine what it will be like when it is clean and filled with your furniture! Then tackle one room at a time. Bedroom first, so you have somewhere nice to sleep tonight. Good luck and remember it will be worth it.

Aw, here, let me pat you on the shoulder.....
Now, got a kettle? Get yourself a brew then figure out which room you can move boxes into so you can clean empty one. Then move the boxes in there, and repeat until all clean. This may take some time, but Rome wasn't built in a day, and with each room being sorted you'll feel better. Any move, no matter how much you've looked forward to it is incredibly stressful, and I know from experience, that even if you've completely outgrown your old house, you'll still feel sad leaving it and all it's memories.
Top that off with not much sleep and it's no wonder you're teary!
I've not heard about toddlers sleep being disrupted in the long term, so don't panic about that yet, definitely give them a week or two before you start worrying.
Oh and stick these into any available receptacle to brighten the new place up

I actually love you both. Thank you!

You'll be fine. Moving is really stressful at the best of times so you're bound to be knackered even without the lack of sleep! One room at a time, moving boxes to another room to make some space. Bedroom, then kitchen, then bathroom. If you can afford to, go to the supermarket and buy loads of cleaning wipes, kitchen towel, disposable mop heads, bin bags to make it as easy as you can. And nice snacks. Then turn up the music. Although not quite yet unless it's a detached house...

Cross post with 2blessed!

Moving home is one of the most stressful things you can do. i did it earlier this year with the difference of moving into a nice clean house but it was still overwhelming.

it all starts with a nice cup of tea and one box at a time. in a couple of weeks time you will be settled in your lovely new home and loving it.

Although we are now a lot of months down the line and there are still boxes that have not been unpacked, not sure what is in them!

I could have written this post 4 months ago! Moved from London to small town miles away. It took forever to complete so I had built a rose tinted version of our new home. On the actual moving day when we got here my first thought was "What the actual fuck have we done?"

But, it does get better. Once you start stripping away the previous owners decor (1980's textured wallpaper...anyone?) you'll start to feel much better.

My advice? Wherever you see a nail sticking out of the wall put one of you pictures on it. They may not stay forever but for the first couple of weeks it helps to make it feel yours.

Good luck!!!!

My 1st ever message and it's to you to say 'happy new home'. I felt just the same when we moved to our filthy tip shit of a house, in fact I cried and kept thinking 'what have we done'!As others have said, try to get all your boxes in one room whilst you sort out and clean the others (maybe a room for your toddler to play in 1st?) Other peoples dirt always seems worst than your own grime, so looking on the bright side at least you can see what needs doing. Take lots of photos so you can see your progress, I'm sure you'll be fine, life would be boring if you never challenged yourself to try/do new things. Flowers from me too, although I don't know how to put them on :)

You'll be fine. It'll all come together.

One thing at a time. Don't look round and see the whole of it, you'll feel overwhelmed. Pick one task. Maybe one room. See no further than that task.

If you break it down, it will feel more manageable.

Do one room first. Make it an oasis for yourselves - clean, comfy and safe for the DC. Get some flowers or something, or put up your decorations and make it somewhere you can all go and shut the door for an hour. Get the TV and DVD player set up and put on a Christmas film and start your first of many family Christmases! In years to come you will look back on this year and marvel at how far you've come.

Yes, boxes into one room, then clean all. prioritise unpacking as kitchen stuff first then bedding. If you can, make up a bed fully. I always go and do a decent sized shop as well, just three days worth or so. Knowing i can eat or rest as required really helps me.

This is going to be amazing. A chance to wipe the slate clean. A chance to organise and have the house you have always wanted.

Start with one room at a time. The bedroom then living room then kitchen. You can do this.

Also, don't worry about your toddler too much. I'm assuming they're in a routine? Keep it and see how they get on. It may be a bit strange in a new room but toddlers do get accustomed. Fast.

Right now, it's not your home. It will be though. Once its clean and everything has a place, it will be fine.

It'll be fine. I think everyone feels like that when they move into a house that isn't liveable straight away. If you can afford it, call a cleaning company and get them to do a one-off clean. If not, get as many boxes as possible out of one room, clean and unpack it. I'd start with the living room, so everyone has somewhere to retreat to. You should be able to get that sorted today and have a take away in there tonight!

I know you are boo hooing but I'm so very excited for you! It sounds so great and what an opportunity to mak e it yours. It's exactly what we want to do, but I know I'll feel like you do on the first day, and by the end of the first week I'll be impatient. Your toddler will be fine.

At least you have the Internet!

We moved the week before Christmas a few years ago.

It is not as awful as it seems. Get your toddler a duster to "help" while you get one room clean. Then stick toys telly sofa in there - a few days of wall-to-wall CBeebies might be in order! I would then start with your toddlers bedroom so she has her own bed etc to sleep in tonight - that will help with the transition. My DS1 was about 18mo when we moved and he slept fine after the first night, fingers crossed your DD will do the same!

Take plenty of breaks - a walk, find a cafe and have a bacon sarnie for lunch, explore the park / garden, find nearest charity shop
to offload the things you don't need any more but packed anyway! Don't overdo it. A box at a time is easier than a room at a time!

Oh you poor thing, it's so hard moving into a grimy house. Are you renting or have you bought? Is the cooker something you have sort out yourself? Not having a cooker is going to make it harder than it needs to be, but at least make sure your microwave is put somewhere accessible.

I actually think there are some parts of the kitchen that need cleaning before any other room, especially given that it's the morning and you won't need to sleep for awhile yet. Start with the fridge (if not your own) and the counters and at least one kitchen cupboard for your food. Set up your microwave, and some crockery, just enough to get you through emergency meals. Get online and get a list of some delivery places, or get to your supermarket and get some microwaveable meals. Set up some chairs, even if they are against the counter only. You need to eat regularly, and have somewhere to sit while you do.

THEN do your todler's sleeping area, followed by your own. Not necessarily the whole room, but enough that you can settle down for the night.

Hugs and to you, because it's not fun moving with a toddler, especially when you've moved away from all your friends (assuming you have as you've moved out of London) and therefore away from your support base.

You poor thing - I think the anticipation and buildup to a move gets so massive that once it's happened the sense of anti-climax is hard to deal with. It really will be fine, though - you'll put your mark on it and gradually you'll realise that actually, you do love the house.

I think you should go out and find a nice cafe to treat yourself to some breakfast, then come home and do one room at a time, make toddler a box racing car/castle/rocket and enjoy unpacking all your lovely things.

Pick up some easy sandwhich bits for lunch and treat yourself to a takeaway tonight.

take photos! You will look back at this time with fond memories :)

and congratulations!

I felt like that when we moved into our current home.

It had been repossessed and we had no gas and hence no cooking other than microwave, heating or hot water for a week. We had one room piled floor to ceiling with stuff needing to be sorted. I thought we'd made a huge expensive mistake...

We've been there 5 years now and wouldn't have not moved for the world.

We moved 2 years ago and I still haven't unpacked everything. Don't put so much pressure on yourself. I agree with everyone else about prioritising. If you decide you're going to clean all the skirting boards first, it would take you ages and you wouldn't feel like you'd made any difference.

I've used appliances online/empire, who I think are the same company but have different prices/delivery costs for each website. They were good, competitive and delivered really quickly. I think you could do without a cooker for a bit, but if you're stuck in the house cleaning/unpacking, now might be a good time to get one delivered. Make sure you measure the gap it's going into carefully.

It will all be ok!

Great advice already, just wanted to reassure you - we moved with a toddler and it didn't disturb her sleep long-term (if at all).

Congratulations on your new home!

I sat and sobbed in my new home while removal men tiptoed around me. The previous owner left it absolutely filthy and still partially full of his crap. It was disgusting and I thought we'd made the biggest mistake ever.

But we got it cleaned up in the end (I stank of bleach for days) and now it is home. You will get there. I agree with the idea of going out for a nice breakfast and then going home via the supermarket to get all the easy cleaning products. Choose one room to do first, and when it is shiny and lovely you'll feel so much better about it. Promise.

Also, have you had your champagne and take away dinner yet to christen the new house? Got to be done. There is something lovely about sitting on the floor amongst boxes drinking champagne.

Lots of really good advice on here already. We have just survived four months staying in a student house (no students in it but still) and six weeks in our house with intermittent hot water, no kitchen (in fact no useable downstairs at all) and all our stuff in boxes ( building work not moving) so I can empathise.

Take it one room at a time; can you get all the boxes squashed up so you have two empty rooms one to make into a living room aea and one to revolve boxes through to clean? Also if you didn't as you were packing (and even if you were it is amazing how a different space makes you feel) be ruthless with getting rid of stuff as you unpack. I would also give a big vote if you can afford it to disposable floor and surface wipes.

Good luck and repeat as a mantra 'This will all be worth it', I did and it most definitely was!