Aibu to be one day in new home and miserable?

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Moved yesterday to small town after London. Have been looking forward to it for years but suddenly miserable and totally overwhelmed.

Sorry this is clearly a plea for encouragement but sitting here near tears.

The house is so so filthy. We've got so much stuff (used to have a cellar) and I've no idea where to start. Can't unpack into these filthy rooms and can't clean rooms full of boxes.

My toddler woke at 3 am and none of us have slept since. Have heard horror stories of moving really ruining toddlers sleep long term.

There's no cooker and I've run out of food.

Right I need to stop whinging. Sorry for that. Bucking up (whilst still crying just a bit).

Happy New Home!

I assume you moved for more outside space/fresh air etc? If so, try to concentrate on that when you are feeling a bit overwhelmed - that is ready and waiting after all. When we moved from a flat to a house last year it was incredibly hard and tiring, but each time I opened the front door onto my own front step my heart was lightened and I thought 'this is what I moved for!'

Good luck - even in a few days it will seem a lot better.

have you bought the house or a're you renting? if renting I would get in contact with the land Lord or estate agent and complain. kick up enough of a fuss and they may send some cleaners round or allow you to deduct the cost of cleaners from your rent.

I feel for you, I've been I've been there and its not fun but you will feel so much better after you' 're settled.

Happy new home!

The first few days after moving house are always tough, so be a bit easier on yourself.

If the house is rented, contact the landlord and kick up a fuss about the dirt. If not then consider whether it would be worth the cost of getting some professional cleaners in to help out.

One room at a time.

i felt the same when i moved, I had a 3 year old and a 3 month old.

I got rid of so much junk and things i would never use. Fast forward 3 years and now my home is redecorated and it was the best descion I ever made. I love my home.

just take it 1 room at the time . I always start with the kitchen, then bathroom, living room and then finally bedrooms.

Start off with food, sleep and heat. Sort out your food for the next week (where is the nearest chip shop / Chinese, food bought that can be cooked in the microwave, new oven ordered.) Then sleeping. Do you have toddler's bed all set up? And yours? Agree who gets up in the night with toddler and who does the mornings. Now is not the time to be tired. Then heat. Is the house warm enough? How can you fix that?

Once those things are sorted life should feel a bit more bearable.

Thanks lovely people.

I took nearly all this advice. Got an emergency cleaner in to just do the kitchen. Took them nearly 3 hours but so worth it as I could work on the bedroom and we're getting somewhere!

Starting to actually feel excited.

I had no idea it would be this daunting. You do just want to do everything at once.

Eat out a few times - even with the kitchen back it can save time and energy.

And if you have a spare room designate that to all the stuff that needs to be looked through and pop it in there to be looked through when the rest of the house is together ( and maybe after Christmas :))

Good move getting emergency cleaner. Get priorities sorted - for me this would be treat foods, drink, tv set up, somehwere to sit down and somewhere to lie down. Get a sainsburys/tesco delivery on internet - include anything that will make you feel better, cheese crackers and wine is a good start.

Congratulations! It will all start to feel better soon.

This is making me want to move house again!
Love it, love it, love it!

So, two rooms sorted now! Nice one.

What we've done, after plugging the kettle in, is to sort the kids' bedrooms first - bed/cot, essentials and toys.
Then the TV - plug in and set it on.
Then the bathroom -
Then the kitchen.

Keep one room for boxes - even if you need to be in the room as well - and reduce the pile slowly.

As for sleep disturbance - we have the world's most sleep-unreliable daughter.

She slept well the first night, as she was tired after a day at nursery, then the next afternoon, she marched into her new bedroom saying "I wanna sleepie....." and that was it.

She still wakes in the night occasionally, but it was and is nowt to do with the house.....and she doesn't like change! She adapted amazingly well.

Food - noodles and tins, as well as fresh fruit that doesn't need cooking or preparing.

Exciting! I feel butterflies just reading and writing this.

Look in one direction only, pick something, start, finish, congratulate yourself and then move on. Reduces the manic start everything and complete nothing spiral of panic.