Letting granny take kids to santa?

[muddledmamma]

Hehehe this is a true unseasonable.

Ok. I've got my period so it's possible I'm BU. DP is taking DC's to in-laws this weekend without me. MIL wants to take them to see santa. My youngest is 3 and this is the first year he has a clue what's going on. I was kinda looking forward to doing that myself with him. DP thinks I'm unr/seasonable. What do you think? Cos like, I really don't think IBU, obv. Thank you, hormones

People throw the word precious around a lot here with not just a little smugness.

For us it's an important moment in a young child's life. So for us as parents we wanted to be there as its his first Christmas getting the Santa thing. I agree, what is special about lining up and waiting (and waiting) to see Santa a second time?

its hardly the end of the world but yes, she should have asked.

Besides, not all family dynamics are the same....I know my mother and it was likely less about enjoying a special moment than trying to assert herself as "the best" mother/parent etc - that is just her shtick.

Generally it isn't a special moment as generally small DCs won't go near him!

I think that some parents have an idealised picture of how it will be and it is nothing like!

Sometimes it's important to make a stand for what we believe in
I'm not ill wishing you muddledmamma, but there is every chance that your child will scream blue murder and have nightmares for a week afterwards.
How will you deal with that? You seem to have so much invested in this that you're riding for a fall.

Even if it goes well he'll have forgotten it by January.
Keep your "stands" for the big stuff.

Make a stand for what we believe in
Jesus wept. It's a man in a red suit. Get a grip

YABU - how sad to begrudge in laws a special moment with their grandchild, as many others have said you would probably only go once with grandparents and once with parents so no big deal.

And if you we're so sure you were being reasonable why did you ask for opinions on a public forum??

Poppy that is a horrible spiteful thing to do are you always so bitter and take joy out of others upset ,

OP you are being a little U it is just a man in a beard santa lives in lapland doesn't he so it isnt the real santa granny is part of the family too and she will enjoy taking them will be a nice memory of granny took us to see santa, dont be hormonal upset about it just enjoy the stories when the children come back

Generally it isn't a special moment as generally small DCs won't go near him!

this my mum has a photo of me at about 3/4 and I look bloody terrified sitting on his knee

My DH has never taken our DD to see Father Christmas, but I've taken her to baby/toddler grps with one there, and endured her crying/hiding etc.

My MIL was looking after DD recently as we've just had DS & the GP were being helpful & making sure DD felt spoilt. MIL took DD to a Xmas fair at the village hall along her road. DD saw Santa, & did lots of other fun things, & it was the first time DD wasn't scared of him. She's 2.7yo.

Tbh I did feel a bit :( that I hadn't been there BUT a) I will take her to a proper 'grotto' to see FC, b) it was very cute when she told me about seeing a man with a beard, stroking her chin to demonstrate a beard and c) it was nice thing for MIL to do.

So YABU to say they shouldn't go bit YANBU to be a little :( about missing it.