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What's the most rude thing anyone has ever said/done to you?

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gail734 · 07/12/2012 15:08

OK, I know it's not really an AIBU, but it features people being definitely U! I was just putting on some eyeshadow (as you do) and I remembered this: a) years ago, I was in a noisy pub and drunk man said to his wife, "Look at this girl, isn't she lovely?" His wife looked right at me and said, "She would be if she'd learn to do her eye makeup right." Still no idea what was wrong with my eye makeup, so presumably am still making the same terrible mistake!

b) I once went on a very short taxi journey and the fare was £5. I gave the taxi driver £5.50, ie a 10% tip. He looked down at it and said, (I kid you not) "That's not much of a tip." I just went, "Thanks! Bye!"

c) My boyfriend gave me a pair of earrings for my birthday. I said to my friend, "Oh, I see you're looking at my earrings. DP gave me them for my birthday." "Is that ALL he gave you?" "Yes. They ARE real." (They were pearls.) She then said, "Oh. They don't LOOK real."

d) I was once flashed at. A proper, open-up-your-brown-raincoat flash. I was about 23, and it was right in the centre of the city, in broad daylight. The thing was, the flasher was a bit of an amateur and got the timing wrong. He let me get too close to him before opening up the raincoat. I didn't look down, so I didn't see anything. Still rude though. Or am I being over-sensitive?

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FieryGingerBeer · 07/12/2012 21:51

Some great ones from first boyfriend.

Him: I just wanted to say, you don't need to worry about being small with me. I don't mind.
Me: (speechless) I'm not worried about my size.
Him: I mean it, I really don't mind. So don't worry.
Me: OK, well I've never worried before but I'm worried now. Thanks.

Me: ( trying to make a point about something he'd done to annoy me) Most girls wouldn't like it if xyz!
Him: Well, yes, but you're not a real girl, are you?

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FieryGingerBeer · 07/12/2012 21:55

Oh and this summer at a wedding a friend of DH's said 'Oh Fiery, you're looking good. Given that you only had DS2 a few months ago.'

Hmm

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RandallPinkFloyd · 07/12/2012 21:58

Classics from my mother include
"you know, everyone always said your sister was the pretty one but you're getting there yourself now."
"You're going out with your friends when you could be seeing 'then boyfriend'. You want to be careful, he's too good for you"

(He's now my stbXh as he couldn't keep it in his pants, no wonder really is it Hmm)

Best one on here - being told I probably had cunt aids. In her defence I think it was her idea of a joke but seeing as though I'd lost a friend the week before to HIV I didn't find it particularly funny.

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whois · 07/12/2012 21:58

Going out for a meal. I was maybe 16ish? I'd done my hair and put on some smart clothes (I'm a jeans and hoody kind of person) and my dad says "doesn't she look lovely".

To which my gran replied: "some see it through different eyes I suppose"

Well thank you very much gran!

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SproutsMakeRudolphPongwiffy · 07/12/2012 21:59

If you have another child you'll be getting rid of DD then. Said to me less than 2 weeks postnatal.

Still fucking angry.

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NanFucker · 07/12/2012 22:00

Leaving a pub after 'pulling' a man I'd liked for what felt like years, his brother came up to us and said 'For fuck's sake, if you just want a shag fine but at least chose someone decent not her '

still feel a bit sick about it now, 20 years later. No idea why he said it, I didn't know him and back then I was a nice, pretty young thing too. Not that if I hadn't been that would be any reason for him to say it anyway...

rather a lot of these are about weight and looks aren't they and addressed from men to women Angry Sad

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whois · 07/12/2012 22:03

Oh also this one.

I have a scar on my arm. A girl at school in 6th form saw it one day when I was wearing a short sleeves shirt. "ewwww what's that?" Luckily I'm not bothered by said scar and got in a quick reply all dead pan "A scar. What's that? Oh shit, it's your boney face." (she was v thin and didn't like people commenting on it, ugly face she did have too)

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saccrofolium · 07/12/2012 22:11

Paul Calf: "What your daughter lacks in looks, she makes up for with stamina."

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MadameCreeper · 07/12/2012 22:23

After a year of going out with a guy his Mum asked very loudly asked "what happened to that NICE girl you used to go out with?". She was a complete snob and looked down her nose at me, then she visited my parents house once and changed her tune Shock

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woopdiedoo · 07/12/2012 22:24

'God, you're a right mess down here!', from the nurse who was holding a potty underneath me so I could have a wee a short while after giving birth to DD2. Oh, thanks. I have just pushed a 10lb baby out.

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TheWalkingDead · 07/12/2012 22:24

In hospital after DS2 was born and talking to the MW at a shift handover, she reviewed the notes on DS and saw he was quite small for term (6lb4oz) and much smaller than the other elcs that day. We chatted about DS1 and I mentioned he was a lot heavier at birth, 8lb 10oz to which she exclaimed "oh my god, do they have the same dad?!"

Thought that was pretty rude and even my DH was gobsmacked.

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HuggleBuggleBear · 07/12/2012 22:25

I've remembered another, at a funeral, distant male relative approached me saying "hi tubs" he also tapped my stomach.

I was 6 months pregnant. (He knew this). Size 10. Still in my pre-pregnancy clothes. He was very over weight.

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Corygal · 07/12/2012 22:35

"Never mind dear, you've got a nice personality."

Great-aunt.

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VitoCorleone · 07/12/2012 22:50

I was in a pub years ago with a friend, i ordered a coke and my friend ordered a diet coke. Some drunk arsehole came over and said "i think you two should swap drinks" points to me and says "you should be on the diet coke" i wouldnt care but we where both 5'2" and size 8.

An ex of mine once while drunk told me "you're alright, but you look better in dimmed lights"

And my neighbour, a couple of weeks after having my second son i was stood on the back door step, neighbour walks down her path and says "god, you still not had that baby?" i replied with "yeah, ive had him" she looked at my stomach and said "no you havent!" i was devastated.

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Bumblequeen · 08/12/2012 02:06

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PerryCombover · 08/12/2012 02:23

Nice boss at work

"I dunno about cellulite, even my baby daughter has it. Can't be toxins etc"

Nasty bitch I worked with

"Maybe it's genetic"

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Lavenderhoney · 08/12/2012 03:45

My mother:
on my failing my driving test first time " you are really useless, there's no point you bothering again"
"aren't you supposed to wear long t shirts to cover your bottom, when it's big like yours"
On visiting me after emcs- " you don't have a clue with that baby do you, poor little thing. I'll get a nurse to show you how to hold it"
On hearing pgnt with much wanted dd " is ths good news"
On dh" he won't stick around, what with him being a bit younger, and his thighs are slimmer than yours"
Exbf " he is very handsome and so successful , don't know what he sees in you" hahahha
Later, after I dumped exbf for affairs" you won't get anyone else though. You should beg him to stop and try cooking proper dinners for him"

Arriving at family wedding, all glammed up and climbed out of taxi. Sis and family standing waiting for me. Sis" your hair looks dreadful, really horrible ( hahahha) don't you even brush it?" even her dc where going " mum!!!!"

I could go on. Trouble is when people are horrible it always takes me a while to realise and they get away with it. I thnk " did x just say that to me? It must be a mistake, I thought they liked me" and I ignore it...

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flyingspaghettimonster · 08/12/2012 12:29

At uni, a "friend" invited me tobhang out with her and her flat mates. she took great pleasure in telling me that they had called me a 'fat, ugly munter' when she told them i was coming. I was so hurt by that.

My step father never had praise for anything i did growing up. So when i won 100quid in a debenhams art contest with the first painting i ever did as an adult, i took it to show him. He glanced at it, grunted 'they can't have had any other entries then' and tossed it aside. I was so crushed i never looked at that picture again, even though i had been so proud of it.

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kitsmummy · 08/12/2012 12:48

My friend at Uni introducing me to her friend. It wasn't a set-up or anything like that, no romantic interest, merely an introduction as we were both there at the same time

Friend: "this is my friend, Kitsmummy"
Idiot: "sorry, you're not my type" Shock

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pinkyredrose · 08/12/2012 16:42

Me in a bar about 20 yrs ago.

"Can i have a coke please?"
Barman "diet coke?"
Me "no normal coke please.
Barman "ice?"
Me "yes please"
Barman to other barman "do we have any diet ice?"
Other barman "no no 'till next week"
Me Sad

I still remember it after all these years.

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Wishfulmakeupping · 08/12/2012 17:11

God this thread just goes to show what utter twats there are in this world- thing is I bet they don't realise how cruel they are

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TessGoesDirectToBethlehem · 08/12/2012 17:22

"Well, as long as YOU like it, that's the main thing"

Said to me by a colleague after I had a radical haircut. Despite many other compliments - that comment has always stuck with me.

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SalagadooLamagicaboo · 08/12/2012 17:30

two weeks after dd's birth, recovering from an emcs,

dh's friend and his wife came to meet dd, the only thing the wife said to me was

"gosh you are so much fatter than last time I saw you!" Shock

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Alliwantisaroomsomewhere · 08/12/2012 17:43

At my wedding, in front of all the guests (v small wedding) my new SIL asked me "Do you get a British passport now?"

I am South African. I pointed out to her that I already had one.

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KindleMum · 08/12/2012 17:44

DH's boss said when DS was born - he's such a beautiful baby, it's hard to believe you and your wife had a baby like him!

Never claimed to be Miss World but, hey, I don't curdle milk!

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