Aibu in thinking my parents should want to see their grandchildren in their Xmas play?

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So for the first time in 4 years I managed to get extra tkts to my DCs Xmas play today! So I invited my parents... Bloody hell, I thought they would be excited but talk about hassle. First we had the tiniest bit of snow which made them um and ah and y'day I had a text to say they weren't going to come because of the ice on the roads (of which there isn't any now as the rain has melted it!)
In 2 minds to phone/text back and say whaaaaaat? But am losing patience! They show little interest in their grandchildren and everything is such a hassle to them... I just find it hard to believe that they wouldn't want to see their grandchildren in their Xmas performance?? aIBU?? Feeling very sad about the whole thing and girls are really disappointed that they're not coming:-(

I kinda know where you are coming from- my MIL is invited to Christmas every year, to spend a couple of days with us. She knows she will be well fed and watered, have her own space if she wants it, and be able to spend soem time with her gc, and see tham opening their presents on Christmas morning while they are still little enough to believe. but she declines, and goes to her friend (who has HER gc and family!) every year. Makes me a bit

But YABU re the school play- my dad who loves his gc to death HATEs school plays!!

I think you have to accept that different people have different interests in GCs, nieces and nephews. Personally I can't think of anything worse than having to go and see my nieces and nephews school performances. I visited them once and they insisted on showing me the DVD of their dance show, even this bits she wasn't in. I think you might have loved this but I found it excruciating and really rather rude.

When your DCs grow up, they will also have their own opinions on who they want to invite to what. They may feel the same as you and want grandparents to come to everything, but if they don't you will have to prepare yourself to respect their choices.

YANBU to be disappointed but YABU to expect them to behave about the GCs exactly how you have imagined. It is sad, but I think you are setting yourself up for disappointment and need to lower your expectations.

Surely adults don't go to Xmas plays because they love children stuffing up their lines and find the lines from a story we've all heard a million times before endlessly fascinating? They go because young children are generally thrilled that Grandma/Grandpa/Uncle/Auntie have come to see their moment of glory - don't they

My DS's face lights up when he spots grandma in the audience - she puts up with 40 mins of Xmas play for that alone. YANBU to wish your parents would feel the same but you can't make them different people.

(I quite like them and always cry last one this year - time goes too fast)

As this thread clearly shows some people love school plays, some don't. Parents who don't tend to sit in them out of duty. Anyway, it sounds like the OPs parents are nervous about travelling and she should show some understanding about that

Nervous about travelling? My dad used to do a 1.5 hr commute rough heavy traffic every working day up til 2 yrs ago when he retired at 59. We live 30 mins away max.
It's just a crAppy excuse and I'm fed up of it. As it goes the play was fab and lasted all of about 25 mins. Lots of songs and we had front row seats and my children were right in front of us. Was fab. They were so chuffed and their faces lit up when they saw me and DH.
Not heard a peep from my mum and really hacked off tbh. I was always so close to my mum growing up and that's prob why I'm so disappointed about this (and a thousand other things that have happened since we had kids) my brothers in laws are fab and all my friends parents are fab and I compare which I guess I just have to stop doing!! Got to get my head round it first!!