To say no you can't come to visit on Christmas morning?

[MrsChestysGlitteryBaubles]

Sorry, another Christmas one!!

We are having MIL over for dinner this year, absolutely fine, I will love having her and DH and the DDs will too, not a problem to take her.

BUT it was dictated that we would take her from SIL, ie "we had her last year and other SIL the year before so its your turn", again, ok fine fair enough, my issue here is she can't stay away from her house any other day of the year. I should point put she isn't elderly, doesn't need looking after so no

The plan was then to see my family on Boxing Day, it's a bit of a drive to go to them anyway and try be back to make Christmas dinner.

The previous years we've had DHs family over for brunch before heading to my mums so that we can see everyone and as we weren't preparing a dinner in our house it only seemed fair. Ive also went to mass on Christmas Eve knowing his family would be over early in the morning.

SIL has just informed me that they'll be coming to ours again in the morning so they can all see MIL at the one time. So that will be 7 adults and 5 children under 4 whilst I am trying to prepare Christmas dinner. I also wanted the family to go to mass together on Christmas Day seeing as we'll be staying close to home this year.

Would I be unseasonable to say no you can't come over on Christmas morning?

[DontmindifIdo]

It's ok that your SIL sees you as an outsider, that means you get to be separate and keep her at arms distance. This can be a good thing for you.

[MrsChestysGlitteryBaubles]

She's slightly insane, it's a whole other thread!

I think she's is annoyed I'm so close to MIL.

But yes, a cup of tea wouldn't be enough and they don't offer any help. Incidentally SIL no 2 is also lovely, can see SIL no 1 is slightly insane but is far too loyal to say.

[AnyFuckerForAMincePie]

Stop indulging her then. Unless you are geared up for another 40 years (or whatever) of bullying at her hands.