To think it is unfair to call a child by it's mother/fathers name ?

[WildWoodFlower]

It seems to be most common amongst boys being named after their fathers especially in the states (Mike jnr etc..) .It doesn't seem to be that common for women to want to call their baby girl after themselves. I just feel apart from it being very confusing around the house having two names the same but i think somebody should be called a different name to their parents.I always think it is a lack of imagination from the parents but i might be wrong.Why do people do it?

I bet there is a lot of wrongly opened post.

Easy mistake to make with the post .Oooops sorry i thought it was for me lol

I don't know. I know one family where dad is Tom and the DS is Thomas. Very confusing. At least use the nn for the child.

That said, me, DSIL and DD1 all have our mother's name as our second name,

My excuse for this vanity is our surnames can' t be double barelled, they rhyme.

I know father and son who are called Mark and Marcus

This gets my brothers goat. He has the English version of my df's name. It's the same letter, and yes, my db's post is nearly always open.
He says its irritating, so even having the same initial is confusing, hence why my dd's have different initials to us. Our initials actually spell CAKE although not on purpose.

My brother says that if they ever have a boy it will be called X-jr SIL thinks he's mad and so does the rest of the family and we joke but he is deadly serious. So far he has attempted to call all the cats and all the fish after himself and failed apart from one fish so hopefully his chances are slim for a poor child (and it would be a poor thing if it succeeded)

at your Db trying to call all the pets after himself! that is hilarious! i'm imagining 'matthew the fish'

i think it's vanity thing to name your child after yourself. i know a few families who have done this, one is where a father has given his DD his name but changed 1 letter so it is a female version but pronounced exactly the same. another is a mother and DD and they even share the same birthday so i think it's overkill that they DD is called the exact same hyphenated name as the mother (eg, mary-ann) when they could have used either mary or ann. the same family also gave the eldest son the dad's name so they have 2 dcs that have their parent's names and 2 dcs that dont. i do wonder how the dcs that aren't named after a parent feel about not having been bestowed that honour when their sibling has.

My FIL and BIL share a name.

It's not something I would ever do and I'm big on family names. There are sooo many names to choose from - why recycle one from only the previous generation, thereby having two family members in he house sharing a name, creating confusion? I mean, I know it's not back-breaking confusion along the lines of splitting the atom correctly or figuring out the theory of relativity, but it's still a PITA that you can do without...

I hate the Junior thing, seems like a cop out, no imagination.
I also read something years ago that there are more Juniors in jail than people who are not a Jr. I thought that was interesting.

I always find this one interesting.

I come at it from the opposite perspective being from a family where my brother has the same name as my father (and his father and his father). And then my DH has the same situation - his father, his grandfather, great grandfather etc. So I have ended up with my DS being named in the same fashion, after his father.

I don't think it's unfair, or unimaginative. It's just tradition, and it is rather lovely. As for confusion, within my immediate family Dad was always Dad and my brother was called by his name. But for cousins etc it was (and still is) Big X and Little X. And now for me we have Big Z and Baby Z. And Dad and my brother have always included their middle initial in all things, so post was never really a problem (and honestly, how much post do children get these days anyway... unless you have a stay at home forever Gen Y).

Although I do have visions of my now 14 month old son being a strapping 6 foot five man like his father and being routinely called Baby X....

I've got the same name as my Dad. It was traditional that the first born git that name.
DD didn't.

If you really want something outrageous - in my father's family ALL boys are christened with the same name and just called by their middle name. My grandfather was one of six boys who each had a good few sons.

I will draw the line at that!

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I have the same name as my mum. Is annoying. Was v v annoying when I was a teenager, pre- mobiles, and boyfriends would ring the house, my mum would answer, they would say "is moley there", she'd say "speaking" and they would likely say something inappropriate.

I've never felt hard done by though. Just mildly eye-rolly about it!!

I think they see it as tradition.

My father's family - the first born son is called Elijah

and known as Bob.

Mind boggling, it really is.

the older one is Bob and the son is Young Bob. When Bob dies, Young Bob is just Bob

think "naw then yung Bob." as a greeting

My Dad is known by some as Bob.

Despite the fact his mother refused to go along with this and his actual name is neither Elijah nor Robert.

People are weird!

I share a name with my mother and I like it, if I had had a girl I would have continued the tradition.

HEC wins the thread with that one.

I think it's rather nice when part of a long family tradition, but a bit odd when you start adding iii or junior- I like the person who used middle names, or traditionally you would call lots of girls Margaret, but call them meg, Molly, magpie, Peggy, daisy, etc.

Why thank you

My youngest son also has my father's first name as his middle name. This is because of my husband's naming tradition.

He is Kikuyu. It is their way of naming that the first boy is given the father's father's name, the second boy gets the mother's father's name. The first girl gets the father's mother's name, the second has the mother's mother's name. After that, it goes down zigzagging across brothers and sisters of the grandparents, eldest to youngest, alternating between father's and mother's family.

Family legend has it that my nan made sure her sons had the same first initial as her so she could open all the post! An ex of mine, his family had the tradition that the first born would always be called James, but it's use would skip a generation so his father was James but he was known by his middle name instead. My MIL and her 2 sisters all married men with the same name - quite frankly that's confusing enough without intending to do it!

I'm the 5th generation that has my name. Its a tradition. My brothers were both named after family members as well. 3 of us have the same initial too - Christmas cards were fun. It's not that traumatic but a little confusing on the odd occasion. YABU.

I think it shows tradition and consistency.

it's a bugger when you are researching family trees though. Especially when names were recycled due to infant mortality. Mind you in another 100 years, half the kids won't have fathers names on birth certificates, so thats that problem solved

I named my son after me but a boys version.He has dps surname so will be there will be no confusion over post

Oh I would hate to have my mother's name.. Its not a great name, I really wouldn't want it- helps that she doesn't like it either I guess (and the fact there's no name tradition).

I think kids deserve their own name and own identity. I don't mind a middle name being carried on but every kid deserves their own first name to be special and just for them, not just a copy of their mum/dads.