To think it is unfair to call a child by it's mother/fathers name ?

[WildWoodFlower]

It seems to be most common amongst boys being named after their fathers especially in the states (Mike jnr etc..) .It doesn't seem to be that common for women to want to call their baby girl after themselves. I just feel apart from it being very confusing around the house having two names the same but i think somebody should be called a different name to their parents.I always think it is a lack of imagination from the parents but i might be wrong.Why do people do it?

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I think in this day and age I would find it strange for a parent to give their child their name.

My mother has her mother's name as a middle name; that sits better with me, particularly if it's a 'family' name already.

I know of a Marianne who called her daughter Annemarie. Am a tiny bit about that too.

My DD has the same initial as me, we don't have any confusion with mail, she's Miss and I'm Mrs, she also has my mother's name for her middle name.
DS1 is named after DH's Grandad (first name) and also follows DHs family's tradition of taking the fathers name as a middle name.
DS2 has my grandfathers name as his middle name.

Dp has the same first and middle name as his dad, although his dad was known by another name.

It does make life easier for family historians though!

In our family the eldest girl gets her Mum's name as a middle name.

DH comes from a family where it's the tradition that eldest sons are given the same name (they're all known by their middle names).

We have 2 girls, so never had to carry it on, not that I would have done anyway, I don't particularly like the name. Perhaps as a middle name

I know a mum and daughter with almost the same name the dd is double barrelled , it is strange for a female same name, My family is full of the same name there is Big alex wee alex , auntie's Alex it is so confusing

My grandmother had the same name as her mother. She spent her whole life going by her middle name - to the extent that I didn't realise she WASNT called that until i ordered her birth certificate when doing my family tree a few years ago!

My DH and fil have the same name but are called different versions of it, except by my dh's nan (fil's mum) who calls them both by their full name.... When I was pregnant last year I said if we had a boy I was happy to use the name as a second name but not for the first, I think 3 of them would have been a step to far.

I also know a family where all the first born boys have the same name but I called by their second name.

oH 5 Ive just remembered 1 of my aunts has the same name as my nana So maybe it isn't just a male thing ,

My brother is the 6th generation to have the same first, middle and last name.

I don't think it has caused too much confusion, although Dbro and dad said it was strange getting grandpa's death certificate and it having their name on it. Ditto to seeing his gravestone.

TBH its fairly straight forward as the first name is William and therefore there are lots of variations to use.

I have my mother's name as my middle name and DD1 has it as her middle name, not after me, but after both DM and MIL (Dbro's partner has the same name!).

I guess we don't have much imagination but I quite like it .

All the eldest sons in my DH's family have the same name, but with a hyphenated middle name (Portuguese family so hyphenated names are fairly normal). I tend only to use the middle names to differentiate. BUT the way surnames work is also different so fathers and sons don't have identical surnames, which probably makes for a bit less confusion.

To start with when we first got married and started talking about kids i was adamant that we would buck the trend and go for something different. But the more i think about it the more i think its a lovely tradition and i think i'll be persuaded!

YABU

My first name is my mother's middle name and my GM's first name (but she uses her middle name) .

If I had had a DD she would have had it as a middle name. By coincidence, it is also my MiL's middle name, so it would have been lovely for a DD to be named after her DM, both GMs and her GGM.

Got 2 DSs though, so that was the end of that.

"Family legend has it that my nan made sure her sons had the same first initial as her so she could open all the post!"

are you sure that's not a made up thing? it strikes me that someone who was so determined to open their dcs post as to name them all the same initial as her would just open the post herself anyway regardless of what initial was on it as she clearly thinks it her business.

It would be wrong to call a child by its parents' name. Surely it has its own.

I think it's a bit boring, unimaginative, egotistical, arrogant, etc to name a child after yourself. They deserve to be their own person and to grow into their own name.

" Mind you in another 100 years, half the kids won't have fathers names on birth certificates, so thats that problem solved "

why is that then?

in my mum's family all her siblings (and herself) all have the middle name mary, even the boys.

I have friends in the USA who are into 5th generation same name for the first son. I don't think of them as arrogant or I imaginative, it's just their family tradition. For them it means a lot.

Ds has the same name as his grandad. He was really touched that we used his name. I think it will give ds a sense of family history and I really doubt he will have any trouble forming his own identidy!
My db had the same name as my uncle and my late grandad. I think he might well continue the tradition which goes back to the 1830s and possibly even further.

I think each to his own really. But having said that there is no way I'd call my son after his dad. Could be quite embarrassing shouting 'cheating bastard' across the playground !!

I feel it is important to give a new born it's own identity therefore i feel it would not be suitable to name that child after one of it's parents.

Another family where the eldest's first son gets the 'family' forename. BIL hasn't had DC so there was pressure to give it to DS but managed to swerve as cousin on other side already has it. Also like many, they all go by their middle name so why the heck keep dishing it out?

It does seem a bit like tradition for the sake of tradition. However I do like using family names as middle names - it keeps those family links while still keeping DC's own identity.

YANBU

My DP has the same name as his father and grandfather.

He said 'if we have kids and it's a boy obviously well call him x'

Uh no we fucking won't! It's a boring name. It's boring giving everyone the same name. It's confusing. It's twee. Ugh, just ugh!

He tried to say it would cool cos then the kid will be x the fourth.

Luckily the family don't use senior, junior etc