I wince when women refer to being a mum as "a job"

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It's so mimsy ish, so martyr and yet at the same time.

Our parents would never have said this, is it just the heightened expectations everyone has for everything thee days ?
Would dads say this?

Eg I have two jobs, I'm a mother (or worse "mummy ") and a hat maker." (or whatever )

Fuck off.

Why does labelling mothering as a job give it status? Seriously? Why not just accept it for what it is? Being a mother is lovely/frustrating/boring/rewarding whatever but it isn't a job.

It all seems a bit pointless tbh OP.

We are all parents, some people stay at home with their DCs because they choose too
Some work outside the home.

Does it matter what people decide to call their current occupation?
Why would it actually make you cringe?

Do you ask a lot of people their occupation, for this to bother you this much?

DH is cooking my tea. It doesn't mean he has a job as a chef.

The sahm v wohm thing I have only ever encountered on MN never ever have any of my RL mates ever mentioned it in the way it is here.

The term working mum is a little too close to working girl, dontcha think?

DH and I agree it is rude to just ask outright of a relative stranger what they do...especially in such economic times. So it really doesn't matter of a person what they do. If you like someone, does that likeness waver if they don't have a job or occupation you approve of? Because if so, we are really becoming a more shallow society. Sad.

YANBU

It's not a "job"

You wouldn't refer to being a wife or a daughter as a job, so why do it for mother.

I hate "full time mum" as well

None of us are fekcing part time.

i'm a chef, and i'm cooking dinner, AND a mum

fuck me, THAT'S multi-tasking

So, in your opinion, what should women say about parenthood?

VivienneMary, for some though the flexibility and commitment one person can give to paid employment as a result of the other being a full time SAHP reaps much greater monetary reward than 2 incomes minus the child care. In some cases the value of the SAHP is £100,000 if not a lot greater.

Why not just say - I am a mother

There's no need to add to that really is there?

I came across a girl I went to school with no Facebook. She had her employment status as 'fulltime mummy' with her employer listed as 'DSS'

I judged.

I was being a bit snippy Goldenbear. Sorry! I agree that a lot of people couldn't do the jobs that entailed working away from home a great deal and travelling abroad unless they had support from the other parent. But somebody will come on and say they could probably. But I think it would be difficult. You have got a point there!

If looking after children is not a job then why are those parents who work outside the home paying nurseries,childminders,au pairs,whatever a small fortune?-surely if its not a job then they should be doing it for free? just saying.....

My friends who work dont feel the need to question the fact that I dont-they dont give a shit but then they are secure in their choices....

I just hoiked my jps a little MrsK :)

Being a parent is not a job it is a role. And we each fullfill our roles differently. I cannot see how for one parent it is a job but for others it isn't.

breadcrumbs on the top or not?

So just to be clear

SAHMs have 1 job

WOHMs have 2 jobs

I just don't consider taking care of my child a "job".

I say I am a live-in dog-walker and chid-wrangler. If they seem judgy I judge them right back, file them away under "Twat" and carry on with my day.

Yes to the breadcrumbs, DameMargot, mmmmmm

shall i put some garlic butter in the bread before i heat it up?

Yes.

Taking care of someone elses children for money is a job. Looking after your own children is not a job

Doing someone elses cleaning for money is a job. Cleaning your own house is not a job