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To tell my friend she has a 'tache...

73 replies

PrettyFlyForAWifi · 03/12/2012 18:39

Ex colleague but good pal. Not many secrets between us. But noticed her incipient tache last week...what do I do? Assume she has it in hand and it was a minor grooming fail? Give her jolene as a hilarious Xmas gift? Ive no idea how to broach the subject - heeeeeeellllp!

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TidyDancer · 03/12/2012 18:40

Why do you think this is your business?

goralka · 03/12/2012 18:40

maybe she likes it?

HappyJustToBe · 03/12/2012 18:40

Leave her alone, I reckon.

SantyClaws · 03/12/2012 18:41

was it for Movember?

fantashtic · 03/12/2012 18:41

Leave her alone! She might know and not care, she might not know and not care, she might be mortified and saving for laser treatment - but why do you care and what difference will it make to you if you tell her,

Please don't make her feel uncomfortable for it for it either way.

EndoplasmicReticulum · 03/12/2012 18:42

I assume she's noticed it - after all she looks at herself every day. Maybe she was just between-grooming.

Maybe she's doing Movember?

Either way, none of your business.

EndoplasmicReticulum · 03/12/2012 18:43

I have one. I know, I don't need anyone pointing it out. Sometimes, when it gets particularly luxuriant, I wax it. If I can be bothered.

chrismissymoomoomee · 03/12/2012 18:43

Of course she will know and will probably be really paranoid about it. Don't do anything.

Startail · 03/12/2012 18:43

Not a word. We know, we just don't always have time to get out the lawn mower.

redexpat · 03/12/2012 18:43

Leave it for the beautician. I almost died a bit when she asked if she should do mine, but she did it in the nicest possible way.

HildaOgden · 03/12/2012 18:43

Just because you see something,doesn't mean you need to say something.

PrettyFlyForAWifi · 03/12/2012 18:45

No, I know her well enough to know she would want to know, have spent many an idle office hour discussing such things. I just don't know how to broach it.

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ChippingInLovesAutumn · 03/12/2012 18:47

Well, to completely buck the trend!! I'd want you to tell me - straight up would be fine :) I think it's easier to see a 'tach side on that it is facing the mirror. I suppose it depends on your relationship - but if you don't have many secrets, I can't see why it would be awful to mention it in a 'You might know and might not care, but I've only just noticed you have a bit of a 'tach coming on - did you know'? But my friends and I are close and would tell each other stuff like that.

scrivette · 03/12/2012 18:48

Don't mention it, she probably hasn't had the time to deal with it and it will be gone in a few days.

ChippingInLovesAutumn · 03/12/2012 18:48

x-post

Stop yer faffing and just tell her.

FurryDogMother · 03/12/2012 18:49

If she has a mirror, she knows already.

TidyDancer · 03/12/2012 18:51

Do not broach it. It is none of your business. It's like telling someone they need to lose weight. Do you not think they already know something like that?!

Virgil · 03/12/2012 18:52

I would want to know and I have one myself. I bleach it regularly but sometimes don't notice when the shadow is coming back until I suddenly look into the mirror in a particular type of light and scare myself. Tell her.

Kalisi · 03/12/2012 18:52

Neeeeewp! Not a good idea.

CuriosityCola · 03/12/2012 18:54

Can you mention yours and see if this makes her consider that she has one. I can only see mine in a certain light. I only found out mine was bad when getting my eyebrows threaded. I nearly died of embarrassment when the lady loudly asked, 'top lip?' Grin

ATouchOfStuffing · 03/12/2012 18:55

FWIW a friend of mine had one and her beautician told her it can be a sign of fybriods (or cysts on ovaries), so if she gets heavy periods you may want to mention that - my friend did have it as it turns out and they put her on a different type of pill which has helped periods and they have shrunk Xmas Smile

PrettyFlyForAWifi · 03/12/2012 18:58

That's a good idea, curiosity, ta.

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TheQueenOfSparta · 03/12/2012 19:05

None of your business.