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DH wearing his "Things need ironing T-shirt"....piss off DH!!!

46 replies

saladcreamwitheverything · 02/12/2012 02:41

......FFS. I knew I had a backlog. DH has "a" T-shirt that he insists on wearing as a cue for me to do some ironing...lol... He's a SAHD so does everything else...but the ironing....WIBU to tell him I've had a couple of glasses of wine so he can stick the ironing up his arse???

OP posts:
kickassangel · 02/12/2012 03:28

Hmm, signalling like that isn't v nice, but if he does everything else. Perhaps tell him that people tend to get what they want when they ask politely.

Unless you have special clothing for when he needs to cook dinner etc?

diddl · 02/12/2012 08:52

i´m a SAHM and do everything-that includes the ironing.

just saying.

GoldPlatedNineDoors · 02/12/2012 08:53

Do you do any chores / housework at all?

Flojo1979 · 02/12/2012 08:54

YABU by letting him do everything else. U should do your share.
.....but I do have to be in the mood for ironing!

GlitKnit · 02/12/2012 08:56

We don't have jobs. One of us does the ironing when needed.

It's called consideration

SoupDragon · 02/12/2012 08:56

Get a T Shirt that says "Men can iron too"

Whoknowswhocares · 02/12/2012 08:57

Burn the t shirt. Problem solved.

Unless the 'things' that need ironing are yours or critically important to the kids(school uniform) then ignore his passive aggressive bullshit. Definitely don't do any ironing of his....he can be crumpled or do it himself!

DameMargotFountain · 02/12/2012 09:00

i'd get the t-shirt and ram it up his ironed ass tbh

can he not use the iron himself?

soundevenfruity · 02/12/2012 09:00

Get a steam iron and an extra wide ironing table from Brabantia. Before long you will be fighting to do ironing. I got both and it made me realise how much me putting off ironing depended on having rubbish things to do it with.

MousyMouse · 02/12/2012 09:01

why do you have to do it?
give him the iron and bog off for the day.

AlwaysWantingMore · 02/12/2012 09:03

I wear an ironed item of clothing on average once a month. It has usually met the iron approximately an hour before I leave the house. I never have a backlog. Have you tried this approach? What is in the backlog and maybe we can help cut it down a bit?

WaitingForMe · 02/12/2012 09:04

Surely the only sensible response is a massive burn mark on the t-shirt Wink

DH learnt quickly that passive aggressive behaviour makes me aggressive Grin

GoldPlatedNineDoors · 02/12/2012 09:06

Hold the phone.

Scenario one: SAHMum does all chores and her dh does the ironing (only) and hasn't done it - outcry against the H

Scenario two: SAHDad does all the chores and his dw does the ironing (only) and hasn't done it - outcry against the H

Come on people!

RubberNeckerNicker · 02/12/2012 09:06

I'd iron his tshirt, with the iron on hot!

DameMargotFountain · 02/12/2012 09:07

i don't understand how ironing is housework

it doesn't benefit the household in any way or form, unlike vacuuming etc

soundevenfruity · 02/12/2012 09:11

GoldPlated, Grin

diddl · 02/12/2012 09:12

It´s the attitude of the OPs husband, though.

Obviously don´t know the ages of the children & how busy the husband is with the children.

OK, so the ironing isn´t his "job"-but perhaps sometimes if OP is struggling, he could do that instead of something else to help out.

As I said, I don´t go out to work & with 2 teenagers don´t do childcare!

But my husband still cooks at the weekend & helps me if I need/want it!

worsestershiresauce · 02/12/2012 09:12

I can see the funny side. If I was OP I'd probably laugh.

If he does everything else it doesn't seem unreasonable for OP to be responsible for the ironing.

Whoknowswhocares · 02/12/2012 09:18

Fair point, Goldplated

My objection is to the wearing a t shirt nonsense. If its an issue, why can't he talk to her like a normal, rational person? Would you expect the woman in your scenario to behave like a childish twat and wear a t shirt to make every point for her? No, thought not!

Fwiw as a SAHM I feel the ironing (and all the cleaning chores other than general tidying) should be mine....that is my contribution. Depends on the age of the kids though. Mine are teens so my 'job' is the house. With smaller kids and therefore a bigger workload, then chores should still be split

BadBuddha · 02/12/2012 09:18

What Goldplated said.

Plus, ironing is definitely part of the housework in this house. Don't enjoy it but (for me) it's just one of those things that has to be done.

theoriginalandbestrookie · 02/12/2012 09:21

Bit passive agressive no ?

Like whoknows says if the ironing needs done why can he not say, please can you do the ironing as there is quite a big bundle now.

Anyway just become like us only thing that gets ironed is DH's shirts and that is outsourced to an ironing company.

Sirzy · 02/12/2012 09:22

I was about to make the point gold plated made. (but she made it better than I could have!)

If they have the arrangement whereas he does everything other than the ironing then (unless there is something big going on which means she can't) then the OP should try to get at least some of it done.

That said, it would have been better for her husband to talk about it rather than make a point through clothing.

Hopeforever · 02/12/2012 09:27

Sounds like you are not happy with the way the household chores are chosen. Is it that he won't iron but happily does everything else or that he asks you agreed to iron if he did everything else

Maybe you could outsource the ironing and not spend the money on something else you enjoy but don't need?

Time to talk

IWipeArses · 02/12/2012 09:28

Adults should iron their own clothes imo. I hate feeling like anyone's valet.

DameMargotFountain · 02/12/2012 09:29

i'm still to be convinced that ironing is 'housework'