To write to the school about these disgusting graffiti/doodles inside toilet cubicles

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Dd attends an out of school activity on a Saturday morning in another school. It is a secondary school.

Today she wanted to use the loos before we left so I took her in and waited outside the cubicle.

She is 5 years old and has recently started "sounding out the words" and can read a lot of easy 3-4 letter words. She gets really proud when she reads something and so do I. Except for today.

On the cubicle walls someone had written sex, fuck, gay fucker, sexy gay....just an endless amount of the word "sex" combined with other terms. As dd was doing her business she sounded out the word and said "sex". When I told her to quieten down she said it again and asked me why I'm telling her to be quiet.

Now I know sex isn't a swear word, but it's not something I want to talk to my 5 year old about yet. Ofcourse I will talk to her openly about these things when she's older, but at 5 she is too young. I'm really angry. I don't know why. But I am. I suppose I'm angry because my innocent little pfb read something that shouldn't have been there.

My DH thinks I should phone up the school and tell them to clean it. Part of me thinks We're overreacting. Any views on this?

Where did the dripping willies come from?

And why did we all draw them the same.

One minute I was drawing Pierrot clowns with tears, or copying that 80s poster where a telephone melts and drips.

Then unfathomably I start drawing a willy with drips instead. The drips looked EXACTLY THE SAME as the pierrot tears

I want to know who passes this down to each generation

Cheryl, obviously the previous generation

Just goes to show that even though they use their smartphones to entertain them in the loo, the old stuff continues

I'd definitely tell the school- they would want to know.

It's the veins that gross me out. Boak.

Sounds like secondary school children in 2012 are exactly the same as the secondary school children in 1982.

Spurting willies on every available surface.

Wish I could say "happy memories", but they aren't.

I used to deface the groovy looking French kids in the Hexagone textbooks as well.

I wouldn't complain. I wouldn't want to explain it either, but I don't think it's strange for it to be there.

Ophelia Gay isn't a swear word, you know. Why does it only have one meaning in your house?

This is hilarious :)

I would be furious. I'd email the head teacher and cc the site manager and organiser of your child's activity that uses the school.

It's not ok. Any graffiti at our school was cleaned immediately so people didn't bother after a while. Each text book was numbered and signed out to an individual child. And checked for graffiti etc at the end of the year. If anything was written inside we were billed.

Do they still draw dripping willies on the chairs? So that if girls sit on them "they'll get pregnant"? Bane. Of. My. Life.

acid because I loathe the teen use of 'gay' as rubbish - ergo everytime someone announces something is gay, I immediately enquire how happy they are. Bit of mother/teen mutual irritation

Ophelia, my tactic every time the teenagers I teach announce something is gay is to say 'this worksheet is not gay, it doesn't have a sexuality, it doesn't fancy worksheets of the same sex' and bore them into submission. If they suggest they meant gay as crap, they'll then get my 'oh, do you think being gay is rubbish?' spiel about casual homophobia. They soon learn to choose their words more carefully :)

People who are delighted to hear that the modern generation are continuing the obsession with penis graffiti might also be gratified to know that 'tick here if bored' hasn't gone out of fashion either.

In our school we never had this kind of problem. Pictures and graffiti were removed quickly. Infact I can't remember ever seeing a picture of a penis drawn on a wall in our school. Maybe because it was a girls only school? I don't know.

I'm in the middle of writing the email right now.

Penises tend to be drawn by boys. A girl might give it a go to be edgy or one of the lads, but with boys it just seems to be a compulsion. Even bloody sixth formers draw willies on each other's folders.

Well that explains why I never saw a penis drawing whilst growing up. We had a few "X is a lesbian", "mrs x is a lesbian", but they were always removed. Writing lesbian was as far as it went in our school.

I can still remember my first day at all-girls grammar school...many years ago!...and my first trip to the toilets. No teacher ever ventured down there in the basement,and the graffiti on the walls was horrifying to a naive eleven year old! I remember feeling sick and a bit scared. A couple of years later,new headteacher had the toilet area decorated. She told the whole school that the painters asked her to come and look at the state of the walls. She said she had never been so horrified and embarassed in her life!

I actually remember one of the ones that was written in toilets I used in first year a secondary!

^If vodka was water and I was a duck
I'd sink to the bottom and never come up
But vodka aint water and I aint a duck
So pass me the bottle and shut the fuck up^

No idea why I still remember that one! The stuff written in the toilets was disgusting, you should tell them.

My DCs secondary school toilets have no graffiti whatsoever in them! My school toilets certainly didn't either!

In my school there were 'gay' everything. Gay steps, gay tiles, gay trees, gay chairs... Ridiculous.

And of course, an abundance of penis drawings. And yet girls never seem compelled to draw vaginas/vulvas everywhere...

And don't get me started on textbook graffiti!

The wooden science desks in my lab or over 30 years old, I have three decades of graffiti and it consists of penises, swear words and X woz ere 9T7 etc...

There's actually quite an impressive penis carved deeply into one of the benches.

They still do that thing in textbooks where it says 'turn to page 18' etc until eventually you get to a page with an insult on for being stupid enough to follow the instructions.