AIBU to be glad that I don't have a bastard to leave?

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...because I don't think I am.

I love being single!

just read that back and it sounds as if I am being critical, not my intention, more a sort of philisophical muse over how do we stop our ds being the bastards (or our dds for that matter)

I have three daughters and one son. I think (hope) he's turned out ok. I certainly did the best I could anyway. No doubt, though, since I'm not a perfect parent, he won't be perfect either - as none of us are!

My dp is not a bastard either. The relationship board always horrified me .

I do try and remind myself of this when I'm looking at him snoring blissfully unaware of the baby screaming less than four feet away from his head. He is a good egg really.

If I was single though I'd have loads more room. He has so much stuff.

I'll have to see what I can do, Princess

(non committal parenting type answer!)

if my H ever fucks off with his secretary, I shall remain happily single

casting young men aside as I shag them out

I also enjoyed being single. I do enjoy being married too, but to the right fellow. I certainly have a list of poor choices behind me!

And as far as sex goes, well, there's sex and then there are orgasms.

I think the worst situation is when (as someone else said) a woman isn't happy being single to the point that she will date any old bastard just so she's not alone.

I don't love being single but nor do I not love it, it just is the status quo and has been the status quo for so long now, I'm completely used to it and can't even imagine being in a relationship. The idea of being old(er) and alone scares me though. I don't want to spend all of my life alone (I'm 32), particularly after DS leaves when's older (six).

Having children and grandchildren - and working full time - means that I am not really ever alone. In fact I crave being alone sometimes. I went away for a few days on my own recently and absolutely loved it. I will definitely do it again.

I suppose, to be fair, I may feel differently about being single if I didn't have my family.

I like being single. Its been really good to have time to reflect on past mistakes and find out who I really am after a lifetime of being someones daughter/girlfriend/wife/mum etc.

I don't miss sex or companionship for the moment, that might change in the future, who knows? And if it does, maybe I'll have a rethink.

I'm very glad I don't I have a bastard to leave :o

Having been married to and divorced from a total bastard, I do understand the sentiment of the OP.

However, I am now married to the kindest, funniest most generous man. They are out there. I had to wait until I was 42 to meet him though.

My son is a good one too, but I suppose I would say that.

Good for you OP, I enjoyed it for a long I'm too when I was younger. Confused a lot of people, but I was happy so it didn't matter. I hope you continue to enjoy your life

Is this a boast thread?
[Kicks snoring dh]

Adora I'm intrigued by your use of the past tense. Did you stop being single, or stop enjoying it?

I hope you don't mind me asking.

What AnyFucker says.

DH is one of the goodun's (well I think so anyway).

But if I found myself single I would be staying that way and having lots of friends with benefits.

He snores, he farts, he puts the fucking dishes on top of the dishwasher, I wouldn't be without him, but I wouldn't seek to replace him either.

Enjoy yourself.

What's that saying? A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle.

They are a nice to have (if you are in the mood) but hardly necessary for long term happiness.

My mum has been single for the last 20 years. She is very rarely alone, in fact she goes on holidays to try and get away a bit.

I don't think being in a couple is for everyone. I like being married but then dh isn't a bastard.

I would prefer to be single than with a bastard.

One of the most liberating moments of my life was when I acknowledged that I didn't want to be in a relationship or need one. I love being single most of the time, I have good friends.

I am not looking for a friend with benefits either as my past means I just don't enjoy sex (counselling going on+++). I am not ever going to make myself have sex again just to keep a man happy.

Well my DH is a good one too.

But the saddest thing I ever saw was my divorced mum lurching from one relationship to another whilst declaring herself a strong woman.

I loved being single. If anything was to separate me and my DH then being single would be fine by me!

I don't have a bastard to leave either.

No because I'm single, but because I don't live with a bastard.

Nobody could ever be unreasonable for being glad they didn't live with a bastard - that's kind of implied when you say "bastard".