to have got angry at her? hair dye kid ?

[TysonsMummy]

this woman in the cresh said it can be bad for toddles if you put dye in there hair but on tyson its only a little bit of semi permenant on the tips of his hair its got no bad chemicals in its 1 that dont contain them !! my child my rules i was like well im sure your not perfect yourself no way and she was like im just saying i said WELL DONT JUST SAY cuz i dont want to hear your shit !! and then i said about how i like her childs coat and it looks like tysons and she couldnt take the complament i can tell

im the op

Perhaps other people din't want to trigger the reaction that she received.
If you are bolshie, thin-skinned and aggressive then most people will say nothing, whatever their opinions.

It shouldn't matter really, but it does to a lot of MNetters.

Spelling is a touchy subject, one half of MN think they are spelling police, the other half think it is unfair to judge a poster on their ability to spell.

Using text speak and slang is generally frowned upon by most posters and will influence the way people reply to you.

Wrt your OP I agree with Tantrum's last post. Dying the hair of a child that young will draw unwanted attention and might attract some comments. If you are not prepared to deal with that then maybe wait until he is older. I can't imagine that it will be allowed when he starts nursery anyway, so it might be better to prepare him for not being able to experiment with his hair now.

I would have just ignored the woman who commented. Dd1 turned a few heads when she dyed purple streaks in her hair over summer but I realised that would happen before she did it. No-one said anything to us, but she was 8 not 3.

It's also going to cause people to judge you as a parent and might influence the kinds of friends your son mixes with and the impression that teachers have of him.

folkgirl no not 1 bad thing happen & that was with a much worse dye ..

So because no-one else has ever approached it that means it's fine? I think at some point you will have to accept either you are wrong and stop posting, or that some strangers on the internet really have no right to comment on what you do, and stop posting. You will not convince us you are in the right, sorry.

OP, are you Sharon ??

OK, OP, since you asked, no I'm not perfect and yes, YABU.

And for the sake of further clarity, the dihydrogen monoxide I referred to in my links - that really harmful stuff - is water. You're confusing it with hydrogen peroxide which, of course, is a bleach and an irritant.

Nothing is chemical free. No doubt, today, you will eat lycopene, theobromine and xanthophylls in some quantity, specially if you're fond of tomato ketchup and chocolate. They're all naturally occurring in edible plants. Of coruse, natural does not necessarily equal harmless, since tobacco, cannabis, opium poppies, deadly nightshade and foxgloves are all plants with extracts that have various effects on the human body, not all good, some very bad.

teabag HOW DARE you judge on how some1 looks i am teachin him that it dont matter what others think when hes older he can dress how he wants n look how he wants its got nothing to do with anything else n calling people chavs is discusting .. & saying what my son will end up like ..... the most clever boy in my year at school had a blue mohican n stretched ears so what does that tell ya ?

Why would anyone want to dye their child's hair?
I am genuinely gobsmacked.

Caring I am.

What you see?

Tells me a lot about the school

Thing is we live in a society that does care about appearance. Teaching your son that his looks don't matter could well be very detrimental.

teabag who do you think you are ?? discusting thing to say !! you cant insult my son .......you dont know what he will grow up like ...

Some people are unable to spell and punctuate as well as some MN posters, but the MN posters think that's an acceptable reason to be rude and condescending about the OP's parenting?

How does a bit of colour+text speak=bad parent?

Teabag I wish you wouldn't mention age or education. I am 21, I have a 14mo DS and am pg (contraception failure).

I don't have a decent education either due to problems at school, I left at 14 (mostly due to disability but most people in rl wouldn't know this).

I am on ESA because I haven't been able to work (I am now in contact with a disabilty to work agency because I do actually want to work), so really, most people who don't know me will think I am just a common chav with 2 kids at 22 and on the dole.

What I am getting at here is, in others view I would probably fit this stereotype, however I don't for one second think it is okay to dye a toddlers hair, pierce their ears or give them a skinhead.

I really hate it when people mention age or education on these threads.

OP, rightly or wrongly people judge on appearance.

My DS is 13. He cannot walk the dog alone after 6pm because he gets stopped by the police every time. He can't be on the street with his friends in a group because people assume he is going to mug or stab someone.

He is judged because he is a mixed race, hoodie wearing teenager and where we live people assume that equals trouble.

So yes, other people make judgments based on how you look.

teabag you shouldnt judge on looks .. or call people chavs ... i am giving him an education .. i will make him go to school .. stop judging on looks !! all that matters is he is happy thats all that matters

that is so discusting calling me a chav n saying my son has a bad future how dare you .. you have took it to far ..

No one can possibly predict what Tyson will become in the future, and it would be foolish to try. I have had a number of children delight and disappoint me over the years, the children in the first class I taught are now 40 years old.
Some past pupils are a success, some are criminals, most are ordinary and several are dead. Piercings, dye and name choices notwithstanding.

In all fairness Tysons, you are making some bad decisions for your child and others will judge.

Remember these posters are real people too, they will be thinking the same as most other people you come across in rl and it will be affecting others view about you and unfortunately, your child as well.

Teabag is perfectly showing you what is going to happen for the rest if your life here. People will make assumptions about you send your son, not always pleasant ones. Him being happy is very important but it is not all that matters.

it is spelled 'disgusting' :-)