wibu to tell the chugger to f#$# off?

[fallingsun]

I was walking down the high street, hurrying as it was cold and I wanted to get home. A chugger bounced in and started cooing at 11mo dd, saying 'oh soooo cute' etc etc. I ignored her, partly as she hadn't addressed me and partly because running the gauntlet of chuggers really annoys me. Anyway, I blatantly wasn't interested, but the chugger kept going, trying to get in dds face and my way. When the chugger was still there despite me practically running to escape ten paces layer, I turned to her and quietly told her to f#ck off.

I'm don't normally swear, especially not at someone, but she really irritated me, I especially didn't like the fake cooing of dd as an excuse to get my attention. Wibu?

[JudeFawley]

I meant work, not walk.

[bradywasmyfavouriteking]

YABU. As far as I can see you didn't even tell her you weren't interested.

I would say that it was, perhaps, reasonable had you have asked her to go away a few times first.

[BoneyBackJefferson]

I like the ones that start with
"what have you done for x,Y,Z"

Because then I can list all of the overseas work that I have done and then ask them what they have done.

[SneakyNuts]

I was a chugger (years ago). I didn't feel comfortable doing it at all, I'm too polite! I lasted 3 weeks

That fuck off wont have been the first and it wont be the last to be honest.

Saying that, I was out in my old town a couple of months ago with baby DD. One of the lads came bounding over shouting "oi, yummy mummy!" . I turned around and he started his spiel. I politely declined and went to move on, so he decided to follow me and started touching my face and hair!

Then he received a big punch fuck off from me

[MoomieAndFreddie]

YABU for swearing

But YANBU for being fucked off that they used your baby as an excuse to talk to you, i am sure they are TRAINED to do this (has happened to me loads of times) and it pisses me right off

and i have also been called "sexy mummy" "yummy mummy" (boak) by them before trying to get my attention when i am with dcs, god do i look that DESPERATE that I will be so glad to be called sexy or whatever i will donate to them

sorry but if i want to give to charity i will do, i don't want someone all up in my face pretending they like me / fancy me / think my kids are cute just to get me to donate

[JudeFawley]

I sometimes say, 'I am in a GAYE scheme and so is my husband. We don't want to join another'. Then they will say, 'Not even £5 per month or a one-off donation?'

No!

[TheFarSide]

I wonder about the kind of people who actually do these jobs. Obviously there are the innocent students/first jobbers who don't realise what they're getting into and give up after a few days, but what about those who use every manipulative technique in the book to get you to give them money.

I must admit I'm not too fond of sales people in general.

[shriekingnora]

Someone from Oxfam knocked on my door yesterday and I opened the door a tiny crack and was very apologetic and told her we had no money and that I didn't want to open the door any further cause we have all had D&V all week.

I thought that would scare her off.

She looked me in the eye and said, 'Don't you want to help other people with D&V?'

[mrscumberbatch]

I usually pretend to be foreign.... they give up and walk away

[fallingsun]

Thanks all. I think on balance it sounds like I was bu. In future I will run faster say 'no thanks'. I do find chuggers very annoying, I have complained before to charities when I've had particularly aggressive ones. I do GAYE too, I would never give my bank details in the street either.

I had a chugger knock on my door three times in a day last week, despite there being a sign saying 'no cold callers' arrgghh, they drive me mad.

[FlangelinaBallerina]

Yanbu, she shouldn't have been getting in your baby's face. DH floored a chugger once. Not deliberately, but one grabbed him by the shoulder from behind, and his reflex action was to turn around and twat him. He was very apologetic to the bloke afterwards, but if you grab someone from behind you have to expect a slap!

[ravenAK]

I explain to them at great length why I never, ever give to charities that chug.

Well, I do my best. They generally leg it about 10 seconds in.

Agree 'Fuck off' is a bit much though; the fault's with the companies, not anyone desperate enough to take a job which basically = harassing people for a living. Poor sods.

[percythepenguin]

I did the same last week and am still about it but I'd had a MC 3 days before and was not in the mood for a friendly chat! I'd made sure I looked busy and avoided eye contact, I'd said no thanks and he just kept talking so it did take the 'fuck off' to get rid of him.

[babesdontlie]

I was walking through Manchester town centre the other week, minding my own business, chatting to DH when a chugger did a massive star jump and landed directly in my path blocking me -
I can honestly say my first reaction was to say 'fuck off', luckily for her just as I started 'f...' my DH started babbling in a made up foreign language - that always put them off as they have no idea what he's on about (and he does it surprisingly well!)

[CaptainVonTrapp]

Not the most polite response obviously but YWNBU. Pursue people down the street with fake fawning whilst warming up to the opener "Would you like to help a dying child?" They're going to have to expect a few 'fuck off's.

[StateofConfusion]

Argh I hate them too, I got collared christmas eve, thing is I'd have happily put a few £ in a pot but no he wanted a £10 pcm direct debit. Ironically he was from shelter and despite me saying yes I know what you do he told me, at length.

When he'd finished I replied again, I know all about what shelter does, they worked with my family this year when we were homeless. His response... He laughed, "we help the 'real' homeless" at which point I snapped so 5 months of our stuff in storage, and NO HOME stuck in a single room at a bnb isn't homeless, I had to walk away, fecking twat bag.

Also tescos now having fecking virgin holidays in, same women approached me 3 times this week, NO I don't want a fucking disney world/cruise brochure so I can feel bad as the dcs pour over it in the car and say wow, feck off.

[MadameCreeper]

Say no thanks or I'm not interested, if they persist I often ask if they think that will make me change my mind. Any unwanted or aggressive tactics then call and report them. Get their badge number or name if possible, thats one way to get them to piss off, get out your phone and take a pic of their ID ;) If not note the street and time, then call or email the charity they're collecting from. I know charities use agencies but ultimately it's up to them, reputation and goodwill is everything to a charity.

[DinosaursOnAnAdventCalender]

I've only ended up giving my details to a charity collector once.

It was when ds3 was a few months old and I was tired, feeling frumpy and fat. He stopped me in the street, cooed over ds and chatted me up I didn't have my bank card and said I couldn't sign up so he asked for my phone number and in my sleep deprived haze I thought he actually liked me he called me in the evening, we had a nice chat and he asked for the card details which I have him. He then said "Great, thanks bye" and put the phone down.

What a mug

And it was for a years subscription to candis or whatever the magazine is called so about £30!!

[CiderwithBuda]

Having lived overseas for years and now being resident in UK I still find the best response is still 'sorry I am not resident in the UK." works a treat.

[ravenAK]

I do think it's a shame if people like OldBag's ds who are merely naive & pleased to have a job get told to fuck off.

Just explain why chuggers are A Bad Thing, & you won't be donating, & email the charity to tell them they've just crossed themselves off the list of causes you'll consider donating to.

Unless a chugger is completely out of order & making a nuisance of themselves (& some certainly are, including OP's example), telling some well-meaning job-hungry teenager to fuck off is rather playing the player, not the ball?

[wonderstuff]

Dinosaurs Candis is a profit making magazine club thing that donate a small amount of their profit to charity - so he wasn't a charity collector he was sales rep.
I got stung for the candis thing even though I should have know better.

[MadameCreeper]

I was going to ask if Candis was a charity.

If anyone has signed up to a dd for a charity you can call and get it cancelled, or ask if they can reduce the amount for the product you signed up for. There are may worthwhile charities out there who provide much needed services.

[DinosaursOnAnAdventCalender]

I had no idea what I was signing up for, I was to taken in by the blatantly false flirting - including (to my shame) him asking if I was old enough to have a debit card as I looked so young bastard

I couldn't even cancel the damn thing either. I must remember to call them and make sure they won't be taking next years subscription out of the bank or something. I never even read the stupid things.