AIBU to leave DH to make his own way home?

[teenyweenytadpole]

DH due home from London tonight. I had to pick him up from the station as we are having car troubles. Told me he would be on the train arriving at 8.45. Texted me to say he was on train. Now I have been at work all day, come home, fed children, sorted house, been parent helper at guides also. Drove 20 mins in dark and rain to station, waited 25 mins as train was late due to weather. Train came in to station. Train left station. No DH. Called him, sent texts, no reply. So we drove home and the DD's are now in bed asleep. He has just rung, and clearly he has been drinking. The story is he fell asleep and missed his stop, went several stops down the line in fact and is now wending his way back home. I have told him to make his own way back from the station. Now this will be tricky as we live in the arse end of nowhere and there are no taxis. Station a good 10 miles away across country lanes. He clearly thinks I am being unreasonable for not collecting him. AIBU? WWYD?

If he's done this before he should have set an alarm on his phone or asked the conductor to make sure he go off at his stop. Fool.

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I think it's probably just as well you can't get hold of him tbh - he's stuffed himself really.

Don't leave the children, I can't believe some people are advising you do! Let him work it out.

Yanbu!

You've been out once for him already! It's not fair on you or your dds.

I would be furious!

He really is an inconsiderate arse. Drinking so much he falls asleep, doesn't care one bit that you've driven with your DDs to collect him. Then expecting you to go out again

If he had an ounce of decency he'd have apologised profusely for not being at the station, then told you he'd stay at the pub.

He's a grown man who created this situation, so let him sort himself out.

And I also agree, do not leave the children on their own.

He has a serious alcohol problem if he needs to start drinking from paper cups whole bottles of wine on the train, to the point that he is passing out drunk and misses his stop, on a regular basis.

How much is this costing you, in money, head aches, frustration and time?

I would not get my children up to get him at this time of night. He chose to drink on the train, therefore, his problem. I would not leave my children in bed because a) there might be some electrical fault which results in fire at home or b) some drunken idiot either driving a car smashes into me or is in my car and thinks its funny to wind me up by grabbing steering wheel causing a crash.

He is an adult and has made his choise which is drinking, you have been out once already to get him and he wasnt there so all his fault. He needs to learn there are consequences to his actions, you cannot be expected to bail him out every time.

Yes, my point about the wine was essentially that most of us can drink without becoming drunk and incapable. Drunkenness, not drinking necessarily, is a problem. It's the how and with what effect that's important (and having the self-knowledge and control to look after yourself).

He might point out that lots of people drink on trains, which we do but that's not the point. (Haven't read your other threads).

I wouldn't fetch him he made his bed....

I'd tell him that you are very angry and that you are locking the doors and going to bed.
Also that you do not expect to see him until tomorrow night when you need to have a serious talk.

Well, tried his phone again, no reply. I don't know where he is because I don't know how many stops past our station he actually went, so I don't know what train he was likely to be on coming back, if you see what I mean. There is one that arrives at our station at 11.34 which is possibly the one he would be on, but that seems a bit late to me to be leaving the DD's and definitely too late to be waking them. I don't know any of my neighbours well enough to ask them to sit with the girls at that time of night, and no family nearby. I need to go to bed as I am knackered and am supposed to be going on a course tomorrow - although probably will now have to go and collect him from whatever hedge he decides to sleep under. One time he did this he called me a bitch for not collecting him. He has recently been advertising himself on websites for people looking for extra marital affairs. Anyone fancy him??

no he sounds like a tosser, but thanks.

Go to bed. No one else wants him. LTB.

No.

Question is: Why do you fancy him and put up with him?

You should, however link to his 'affair' site and let a few of us leave messages. Mwahahahaha. Disclaimer: not really.

You honestly dont have to do anything. Stay home, keep safe, keep your children safe, and get yourself on your course tomorrow.

NOW is the time to start pretending to be single.

hang on..he wanted you to fetch him and didn't state his location??
pff nah stay with your girls.

He's a prick.

I very much think your dds shouldn't be subjected to this type of shit either.

Good god, he sounds like a right catch I don't think you could even give him away OP!

What?!?!?!?!

Go to bed, let him sort his own mess out, change the locks in the morning.

What an arsehole.

Well he sounds like the sale of the century! Leave the fucker out in the cold.

turn your phone off and go to bed. Preferably after double locking the doors. Wanker.

He sounds like a real catch.

I'd be making an appointment with a solicitor regarding divorce, if I was you.