To be pissed off at SIL? Baby name related

[strawberrypenguin]

My SIL had her DS a couple of weeks ago. He was nameless until yesterday. SIL and BIL had been making comments over the last couple of weeks as to how they couldn't use certain names because they would sound silly with my DS's name when they were said together (my DS is just over a year old)
They announced a name yesterday and its my DS's middle name! Now I know logically that no one 'owns' a name but I'm rather pissed off by this AIBU? I should also say that I do have some SIL issues (shes hardly spoken to me since she found out I was pg a couple of years ago although she does still see DH and DS) so not sure if this is colouring my opinion on this.

Feel sorry for Sikh families then...

Yep, YABU!

OP, It will wear off in time. when DH's cousin named his DD the same first name as ours I felt a bit flummoxed and annoyed at first (though there were a few family members that were far more annoyed about it as I was). Now, it's viewed as cute/family oddity.

Personally, I would likely be more annoyed at someone close using one of their middle name. We chose very neutral English friendly first names to avoid as many issues as possible, but their middle names are their Hebrew names that I chose very carefully for their meanings and love them. I use them regularly though so pretty much everyone knows them if a bit by them.

does it really matter? You really are over reacting.

My only quibble with it would be that assuming its not a "family" name, then its a bit unimaginative. I can't believe that someone names their child solely for the purpose of pissing someone else off tbh.

It always makes me laugh when DCs and family pets have the same names. My friend has a DC with the same name as her Dsis horse fgs! Not only is that unimaginative, it means that people have to say " the DC not the horse" in conversation . I mean, why would you do that when the animal came first?

My brother's baby has the same first name as my ds1's middle name, and I have the same first name as my cousin. Meh.

Oh I don't think it was done to piss me off no that would be v weird! It has though even if I am being unreasonable about it!

If dd had been a boy, she would probably have been given the name which is my nephew's middle name. It never occurred to me that this might be a problem....(now feeling relieved she was a girl!).

My SIL did exactly the same thing. Gave her DD my DD's middle name as a first name (born 18 months apart). I was a bit at first, but I don't have any rights over its usage and SIL is lovely and wouldnt have done it if she had thought I would be upset, so I'm erring towards the 'feeling flattered that she wanted to copy camp'.

DH on the other hand was fuming. It was my great grandmother's name so special to me, nothing special to SIL other than she liked the name.

My sister in law did the same thing and it annoyed me too, but I am also aware I'm that in my case probably because a lot of things my sister in law does irritate me and I was a bit hormonal too. It still irks me slightly but I am aware that is more because of me rather than her.

Funnily enough I am less irritated by my sister in law in her presence and we seem to get on quite well. Therefore I do believe the problem is down to me.

My sil has a son (eg) Daniel. Her brother is expecting a son and had also decided to call him Daniel so the cousins will have the same name. She's so angry she has disowned him, which is a slight overreaction imo!

carabos my son has a very similar name to my nannys dog, ds2 is Samuel, dog is Sam. My family make a huge fuss over it, eg they'll say, Sam did... Oh the dog not the child! I feel like saying well obviously ffs, as ds2 is called Samuel (e never call him Sam!)

both my dn's have my ds's middle names , at first i thought weird , as they picked both and my boys were about 8 years older , but hey some people like original some play safe , they have to live with the names :)

You are pissed off because your SIL named her son by your son's middle name that he doesn't get out more??

Hmmm - I think you may need to get out a bit more!

YABU

My nephew has the same first and middle name as my son. It wasn't at all intentional as my brother and I hadn't spoken for quite some time. It was sheer coincidence that they chose the same names six months after me. It didn't bother me in the slightest. It just meant we had similar taste.

On the other hand I know someone who has two sons with the same two names. Think, for example, John Peter and Peter John. Now that's weird.

Personally I dont see the point in middle names at all - they never get used in normal day to day life and are just words on a a bit of paper really, sometimes paying homage to a family member if nothing else.

When I was pregnant with DS we had boys and girls names picked out, I told my Dsis what we were planning on calling him if he was a boy or a girl.

She must have told her SIL, as a year later when I was pregnant with DD1, her SIL named her baby girl the name we had picked, using the same first and middle name so it can't have been an accident.

We had to pick new names for our DD1 or mt niece and nephew would have had baby cousins with the same name.

I was a little cross with Dsis, but she wasn't to know that this would happen.

And in answer to a question posed earlier I know my nieces and nephews middle names as well as my godchildrens middle names, but I quite like middle names (not middle and first names) being shared in the family, most of us on both sides of the family share at our middle names with someone else.