To be saddened by teenagers of today

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Ive just been having a conversation with my niece. Apparently its the norm nowadays to "get with" (kiss)as many boys as possible at teenage parties. Parents even supply alcohol to 14/15 year olds.
Girls like this were called awful names if they behaved in such a way when I was at school, whats changed to make it acceptable?

Oh Fishwife the poor girl - it is the people passing it on and gossiping about her who are at fault and I would most definitely tell my son this, not collude about what a slag she was. This kind of behaviour from teenagers is far more saddening than doing lots of snogging, it is bullying and causes real hurt.

Then you need to tell your nephew and son not to be part of this, rather than use words like "dirty" and "tarty". If men are brought up to respect women, this shit won't happen any more.

AKissIsNotAContract and sadly some boys are like that

You can all fool yourselfs as much as you like but anyone on here who has a son will know that haveing multiple partners or being a bit loose in that way will have far less of an impact on there rep than if you had a girl

I not saying its right just living in the real worl

Ugh, yes, FishWife I think we all KNOW that girls get a reputation. We are saying that that SHOULD NOT HAPPEN.

It infuriates me more than almost anything else in the world.

Especially when the parents of sons do nothing to try to change it.

FromEsme its not about being part of not part there are just some young people boys and girls who are engaged in this bahviour

If girls respected themselves this wouldnt happen equally

I meant to add I was snogging boys at 15 snogging isn't a bad thing

FromEsme why dont the girls mothers do somthing eg telling ther girls not to send pictures of there bits for a start

I think my school must have been quite liberated/enlightened. I am 43 and was a teenager in the 80s and went to an all girls school. We definitely had snogging competitions at parties to see how many boys we could snog. In particular NYE was a goldmine and I think the record was 83 NYE snogs. We were running round the centre of Bristol shouting out our numbers at one another. Verr classy. It was nothing to do with "disrespecting" ourselves and everything to do with having fun.

I can't remember any girl at our school being classed a "slag" or gaining a "reputation". In fact I remember when the first few girls starting losing their virginity - at around 14 - we all used to sit around in awe listening to their tales at lunchtime. It just seemed soo exciting. I myself didn't have sex until 17 - at which point I just asked a male friend to shag me as I was dying of curiosity. If anything the girls who slept around a bit (in all honesty it was probably only about 3 blokes a year) were seen as very cool. I think it was a very healthy attitude to female sexuality.

Sorry but evan on facebook you should see some of the sexually expict messages some girls are sending to boys from his uni some of the pictures they have on there pages it makes me cringe

Its not just the boys the girls parents have to man up to

Mono we called it, back in the 1970s. And "The Kissing Disease".

I remember feeling mortified, like I would die with embarrassment, because I was 13 & certain I wouldn't lose my virginity until at least 16. I could not think of anything more shameful. I was actually 19 when I lost it, and it only happened because I asked a friend to do the favour, reckoned that might be my only chance, sob.

Did anyone actually LOL at thread title (like me)?
Sorry OP, I am horrible
The Youf of Today are not like when I was a Young'Un.

Coz my Lot were FAR WORSE.

Some of the stories i have heard Shock me to be honest more in the style of hordie shore tupe exploits which i dont think are healthy female exploits

Getting drunk sleeping with two or three men in one night ect

Certainly not just the "teenagers of today".

I don't think teenagers now are any better or worse than we were at that age - I really don't.

I like to tell my son when hes older that if he shags about it will effect his rep but i would be lying because most likey it wont were as if i had a daughter it is a likey to effect how her male peers view her

Not good but true

Whatever we think on here my nephew and his mates and most young guys are never gonna view a girl who gets drunk and sleeps with two or three guys on the same night as a nice girl sad but true and a girl who gets a rep for doing this is usually only going to get aprroched buy guys for this reason is a loop

I dont think so either I was drinking cider down the park although back then parents didn't buy it but i do think these parents are the minority though .

I have a son myslef not that old to be getting into this nephew is however any one who has a teenage daughter 15/16/17 i would be intested to know what you have told you duaghter about this type of thing

Eg lots of partners
Sending nude pictures
General sexual behaviour
That they will or wont be judge diffrent to boys

FFS Fishwife - you are not getting the point here at all - Yes sadly it is the way it is - girls gets the rep but people like you are perpetuating that - sounds like you sit around with your son looking at his laptop slagging off the loose girls. A friend of mine's daughter went through this at 13 - pic sent via mobile all around the school - it was awful - her boyfriend asked her to send it then shared it with the world.

We snogged a fair few boys at disco's in the 70's. I know a couple of 18 year old's who are waiting to meet someone special. Nothing has changed much really.

I have told my 15 year old daughter not to send nude pictures of herself as I know they will be round the school in a flash and others could make her life hell if she does that, but I think the same would apply to a boy who sent nude pics. One girl she knows did that and had to move school as others made it impossible for her to stay at the school. I hope I have taught her self respect, how to value herself and how to have fun in a safe way.

I also know my daughter will prob make mistakes, bad judgements etc - we are after all human aren't we and when I think back to my behaviour at that age I do cringe, but that doesn't make me a bad person. All part of growing up isn't it.

If my teenage son was telling me storys about what the girls he knew were getting up to and telling me he could name the dirty girls I'd be having words with him about showing some respect.

I'd also be a bit ashamed of my self for bringing him up to think it was ok to talk about girls like that, regardless of how many people they had slept with!

Greeneye

MY SON HAS NOT GOT A LAP TOP I understand you disagree with what i am saying but please dont start making stuff up

Its just my view its as if i dont say it it wont be true but it is girls ate judged much more harshly

I feel very sorry for your mates little girls but the exact reason my son dosent have a internet or photo abled phone

Actually a couple of years ago there was a video of a girl going around Facebook that someone had posted on all the kids fb wall, he reported it to fb.

fergoose i think thats very sad indeed i just dont think they really understand and think it will eaither make a boy like them when in reailty the boy usually just thinks there a bit easy

fergoose i think you have dont a good think with your girl just tutting and saying well boys should have some respect its not a resolution really its more in my view giving girls selfasteam were they dont feel they need to do things like this