A shopkeeper hit my baby

[LoopsInHoops]

Firstly, we're not in the UK, and here people to beat smack their kids. It is socially normal.

DD (17 months) had a bit of a breakdown in the chemists. She was tired and hungry. I was holding her and a few things at the checkout. She grabbed something and threw it on the floor and screamed. I was just about to pay, so couldn't really leave. She grabbed my neck and clawed me, then bit my shoulder. The shop assistant rang up the amout, then insisted on the correct change, which delayed things further, DD still screaming. She put the stuff in a bag, handed it to me, them smacked DD on the arm. Not hard, but deliberately. At this point she was screaming but not hurting or grabbing.

I didn't know what to do. I just glared at her and walked off. DD carried on screaming.

What should I have done? WIBU to walk off, or should I have said something?

[JaquelineHyde]

Oh my God you recruit teachers.

Can you name your school Snoopy as I for one would like to make sure my children never, ever go to it if we end up in your part of the world!

[LoopsInHoops]

Well, I have never heard of someone recruiting teachers and being their boss but not being a teacher. Unless you own schools? Possible, I suppose.

[slartybartfast]

WHY not keep a diary to remind you of the idioscyncracities ?? in malaysia, and hey, write a book/blog.

[IslaValargeone]

And people wonder why home educating is on the increase.

[LoopsInHoops]

That's a great idea slarty. I did think of it shortly after coming but I'm writing a novel, working full time and have two small kids. Hands a bit full! But yes, will try to.

[snooopy]

What the Hell do you think I do? Do you really think I am a kid or is that just what the troll hunting people just assume? I would happily post my business caed here except my boss has told me not to. Teenager? I wish, I am 39.

[RichardSimmonsTankTop]

Snoopy - you're being moronic.

OP - I would go back in and say something. Even if it's the cultural norm there, surely it's not normal to smack OTHER people's kids?

Are you able to speak the language well enough to get your point across?

I too am an expat and it's difficult trying to navigate your way through different cultural norms, so I get why you're uncertain.

[LoopsInHoops]

So

You recruit teachers
You are the boss of teachers
You have a boss

In my experience, that makes you a...

bullshitter.

[LoopsInHoops]

Hahahaha! so you had a conversation with your boss specifically asking him/her if you could post your business card on MN to resolve a dispute abut smacking in shops?

You are quite something.

[snooopy]

Oil not school. If I was a teacher why the Hell would I bother travelling

[hobnobsaremyfavourite]

Ha ha ha ha ha ha

[RichardSimmonsTankTop]

Come on snoopy, get your story straight now!

[snooopy]

I am the Head of HR for an Oil Company with responsibility for recruiting locals for non expert technicals and education, (we have already headhunted the experts) wherever I go. So far it has gone ok.

[Whatnowffs]

"if i were a teacher, why would i travel" oooh, i dunno snoopy, cultural enrichment??? Bless ya

[slartybartfast]

am lost here

[LoopsInHoops]

Head of HR = the boss of the HR people. Don't think you're more important than you are.
You seem quite obsessed with money. I wonder how you ended up working in Dubai for an oil company in HR

[Whatnowffs]

ooh, Do you work for BP then snooops? I'd be worrying about job security if i were you I'm surprised you have time to bother with Mnet. So, you don't use local "experts" then, you just use the locals for the donkey work - and you accuse the OP of unethical, but then again, you're not excatly telling the truth are you................tum te tum

[LoopsInHoops]

Shell. BP don't have their own schools.

Shell schools, incidentally, are well-known for being really shit.

[picnicbasketcase]

No idea why the amount of tax anyone pays has a bearing on whether random strangers should be allowed to hit children but I would be shocked and upset if someone had done it to mine.

[LoopsInHoops]

We have quite a lot of info on you snoopy. If you are who you say you are, I'd name change and possibly have your threads deleted. Your boss might not like you lying spouting shite on the internet (or did you ask him/her about each post?)

[littleducks]

I would have freaked out if it happened to me.

However I think slarty is the voice of reason. She was playing up, you weren't dealing with it she tried to help.

I'm guessing kids screaming and being ignored is less socially acceptable there. I think in future you need to be aware and remove yourself and dd from situations were you invite unwanted help/interverance

[Whatnowffs]

So then snoopy, you are a man?????? Because the head of HR for shell is a man! just saying like! if you are he, i suggest you namechange because you've just outed yourself dear

[snooopy]

I would rather die than work for BP. Don't work for Shell either, perish the thought. Keep on guessing love

[hobnobsaremyfavourite]

Posters like snoopy make me so happy....they remind me that I'm a nice, normal person.

[JacqueslePeacock]

(ignoring the mess that this thread has turned into)

I think you should go back to the shop and complain. I have lived in the Far East for extended periods* and never encountered this. Although it would have been ideal to have dealt with it then and there, it sounds like you were too shocked, which is not that surprising. I think it would be a good idea to go back and have a quiet word with the manager just so that she/he can make sure the staff have better training and don't hit anyone else's child in future.

*not for tax avoidance purposes, I hasten to stress (wtf??)