to report this child to the school because she's accused my dd of 'faking' an injury.

[Northernlurker]

Dd2 sprained her ankle at school in a PE lesson last week. It is a bad sprain and has been very painful for dd. She couldn't go to school for two days last week and one day this week because it simply hurt too much for her to be able to walk enough. Yesterday she went back with a walking stick to help her balance. We have taken her to A&E, it's been x-rayed and she has exercises to do. She's got through a lot of pain medication over the last few days. This morning she struggled to get out of bed because it was so sore (having stiffened up over night). Poor lamb sat on the edge of her bed and cried. Then she got up and got on and as the stiffness eased she felt she could manage at school. She's done really well but on the way home told me that whilst everybody else has been supportive one girl had told her repeatedly that she was faking it for attention and then started making faces at her. ( They are 11 btw - not primary age) I am livid about this and I've rung the school to report it. I hope they will treat it seriously as imo telling somebody they are faking an injury or illness is a really horrible way to behave. Dd is temporarily incapcitated but is this how this girl would treat the disabled too? I feel her ideas need adjusting sharpish. Or AIBU and over-reacting because I'm upset to see my sweet, active daughter in pain?

[AnyFucker]

Will pm you, NL.

[OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos]

A heat pad will help first thing in the morning, but when she has got it moving and the first bit of pain has lessened, then you should use cold.

[valiumredhead]

out I was told to alternate - no more than 10 mins each - as it improved circulation.

[Northernlurker]

Thanks AF.

I have to go buy more ibuprofen now as dd left ours in the medical room at school.

[valiumredhead]

Anyone know where I can get a cheapish wobble board from? The square sort that go up and down not the 'round' sort that go all ways? My one is falling apart and I nearly fainted when I saw the price of them!

[OwlLady]

I think it's quite easy for us to sit the other side of a screen and say you are over reacting but I cannot stand this kind of behaviour either and would most probably react in the same way :o

[OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos]

Yes, as far as I know alternating is good, but I would start with heat first thing in the morning, along with slow stretches to get it moving and loosen it up, and then cold to limit the resulting swelling. I'd guess both would help circulation too.

I'm no expert, just did a sports injuries course a few years ago!

[valiumredhead]

Another mums netter calls me mummy tiger when I get defensive of ds

We all do it, but you'd be put he school 10x a day if you complained about every vile thing that was said.

[valiumredhead]

out yeah makes sense. I am so interested in all things pysio as I spend half my life at the clinic!

[AnyFucker]

Wobble boards on Ebay ?

[OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos]

There's a wobble board on amazon

Not cheap, but you could probably sell it on when you're done with it.

[seeker]

I think a quiet word about this other girl to the school, but under no circumstances tell your dd that you've done it. And maybe (sorry) encouraging a bit of stoicism in your dd might be a good idea? Tell her to ignore and avoid the nasty girl and just get on with stuff. Robust resilience is the best thing we can teach our children.

[valiumredhead]

Oooooooo out that's a good price, that were over £50 last time I looked, thanks!

[amothersplaceisinthewrong]

Sorry, you have over reacted in reporting the school because a girl made faces at your daughter. Girls of that age are like this. Your daughter needs to learn to ignore.

[butisthismyname]

I was surrounded by a group of girls in my first year at secondatry who chanted at me about my disability. I told a teacher who smiled and said 'sticks and stones...' and told my mum who told me to stop showing off. I would be steaming too :(

[JamieandtheMagicTorch]

I agree withwhoknowswhocares. I think giving attention to what an ignorant 11 year old says is playing into her hands.

I totally sympathise though. I agree soft tissue injuries can be worse than broken bones. I think very many people, 11 year olds included, aren't aware of this. If there's no cast, it's not serious.

If she carries on, I'd have a word then.

[Fiderer]

My d just sent 3 weeks on crutches after a bad sprain. She missed a couple of days of school as the pain was so bad and a couple more once she got crutches because she bashed her foot falling down stairs and (I think) her arm/chest/back muscles were sore from hopping around on the crutches.

I didn't think it would take so long to heal. We were at an orthopaedic doctor (standard referral here in Germany) who said if she had broken her foot it would have healed more quickly and been less painful. She had a few snidey comments but luckily she brushed them off. Quite unlike her but she put them down to jealousy as she and an assigned friend were allowed to use the school lift

I sympathise. Another girl then came on crutches and got a lot of sniggering and criticism for copying my d and looking for sympathy. I work at the school too and brought the girls responsible into the office for a talk. Borrowed my d's crutches and sent the ringleader to potter about the playground on them and then come back and tell me how much fun it was that someone would fake having to do it.

[MrsBW]

I dislocated my collar bone at a similar age, had it in a sling and had other kids take the piss; one even poked me in the collar bone to prove I was 'faking it'. It wouldn't have occurred to me to tll my mother, and if she'd gone to the school about it, I'd have been mortified.

As an adult, I've sprained my ankle 3 times, x rayed twice (I play a lot of sport). Every time casualty has told me to do the RICE thing together with trying to walk on it gently after an initial 3 days of keeping the weight off as much as possible. I've always been told crutches are a no-no

Your daughter has my sympathy - a sprained ankle really is very painful.

[crashdoll]

As someone who has sprained both ankles so many times, she has destroyed the ligaments completely and needs surgical repair, I have a fair amount of experience in this area. Heat packs on swelling is a definite no-no.

[valiumredhead]

Tbh keth there is ime a massive difference between physios - the difference is like night and day between a good one and one who just hands you a sheet of exercises and tells you to get one with it.

[Boomerwang]

Tell your daughter to speak to the teacher if the kid keeps giving her hassle. Also to avoid getting into a conversation with the girl and ignore her taunts if she doesn't take the hint and shut up.

Until you've done something like this, it's unreasonable to rush off to the school and demand something be done about the bullying. How is your kid gonna get on in life if you have to do everything for her?

[MrsBW]

Heat pack? God, it would never occur to put a heat pack on a sprain. Ice all the way.

Best exercise I've found for strengthening ankles is closing my eyes while brushing my teeth and standing on one leg. Try it, but be careful...

[valiumredhead]

Heat is good just not immediately after injury. I often soak my foot in warm water to loosen it up and then do exercises.