to report this child to the school because she's accused my dd of 'faking' an injury.

[Northernlurker]

Dd2 sprained her ankle at school in a PE lesson last week. It is a bad sprain and has been very painful for dd. She couldn't go to school for two days last week and one day this week because it simply hurt too much for her to be able to walk enough. Yesterday she went back with a walking stick to help her balance. We have taken her to A&E, it's been x-rayed and she has exercises to do. She's got through a lot of pain medication over the last few days. This morning she struggled to get out of bed because it was so sore (having stiffened up over night). Poor lamb sat on the edge of her bed and cried. Then she got up and got on and as the stiffness eased she felt she could manage at school. She's done really well but on the way home told me that whilst everybody else has been supportive one girl had told her repeatedly that she was faking it for attention and then started making faces at her. ( They are 11 btw - not primary age) I am livid about this and I've rung the school to report it. I hope they will treat it seriously as imo telling somebody they are faking an injury or illness is a really horrible way to behave. Dd is temporarily incapcitated but is this how this girl would treat the disabled too? I feel her ideas need adjusting sharpish. Or AIBU and over-reacting because I'm upset to see my sweet, active daughter in pain?

[valiumredhead]

Teachers won't take any responsibility for what happens off school property

This is such a myth and is mentioned a lot on MN, of course the school are interested in something that involves children at their school - but in this case it's better to teach your daughter to brush it off or teach her some sarky comebacks.

[AnyFucker]

That comment of mine wasn't a criticism, VR

[Northernlurker]

She is hobbling about now. For the first few days she couldn't even do that for any distance.
I would fully accept I am being a fierce grrrrh tiger mother about this. I am, of course, protective of dd. That said I don't accept that this is a natural consequence, that 11 yr olds must naturally be vile. I have three daughters. I am 100% sure none of them would talk to a clasmate like this. It's not ok. It wasn't a one off as such. She said the same sort of thing repeatedly through the day. I feel it is bullying behaviour and as such I don't feel like tolerating it.

Futurenannyogg - sorry you had such a horrible time.

AF - I've talked to a physio about crutches but their advice is that she really needs to use the foot as much as possible and she would be able to whizz around fine with crutches without using it so in the long term not helpful. There is a definate improvement today in that she can start to put her foot down a bit more and yes we've got through plenty of ibuprofen and calpol. She's done two full days at school now.

[Mrsjay]

Soft tissue damage is nasty.

yes I suppose you are right DD break healed fine she still has soft tissue swelling sometimes, still at school though

[AnyFucker]

Fair enough, NL. The people that know your dd's individual case know best.

From what you say though, it sounds like she should have been non weight bearing with crutches while she was "hobbling around" and in too much pain to go to school. Not for more than a couple of days though, like you said.

[valiumredhead]

Which bit anyfucker - bit about the sprain? I am still suffering 3 years on from extensive tissue damage after a bad accident, this subject is close to home! My rant about the schools was off topic - but I see it a lot on MN and ime it simply isn't true.

Anyway - we're good!

[thebody]

I think you were right to mention this to the school.

I work in a school and often a sharp word to a potential bulky bios it in the bud.

She sounds a bit jealous of the attention dd is getting so now get dd to tell tell her to do one or bodgr her with a crutch.

[valiumredhead]

OP - the pysio is right about crutches, best to avoid them if at all possible as it's easy to end up with other problems just from using them.

[thebody]

Bulky bios = bully nips!

[fanjoforthemammaries7850]

I would imagine AF knows a bit about crutches

[Whoknowswhocares]

Well the girl sounds like a right little cow!

That said, I think you complaining to the school is a massive overreaction and likely to do more harm than good. A one off should be laughed off. Or do you want this girl (and potential bully) to know that a one off comment has a big effect and therefore single your DD out as 'sensitive' and a potential future target?

[TheOriginalSteamingNit]

I agree with those saying you're over reacting, I'm afraid. Which seems to be the consensus so far...

[piratecat]

Northern, as a mum whose seen her dd in so many bouts of pain I understand how distressing it is.

I would have a word actually, because your dd doesn't need this shit. I wouldn't care if i seemed overprotective. Seen too much shit from other kids.

Hope she improves soon xx

[Northernlurker]

AF - part of me wishes we'd taken her back and demanded crutches on Saturday when it was really no better but you keep thinking it will change and the advice about trying to bear weight on it seemed right too. Today is really the first day that I can say 'yes that has improved' - and even then I'm dreading tomorrow morning. What's the best thing to do first thing do you think? (Other than dose her with Ibuprofen)

[valiumredhead]

I think that the thinking behind not having crutches is that the foot and tendons will heal 'shorter' as you aren't using them to their full extent, but I might be wrong.

I had to use crutches for well over a year, they are bastard things and still have arm problems now from using them.

[AnyFucker]

VR I assumed you were a teacher getting a bit offended by my comment that you highlighted, about teachers not taking responsibility for what goes on outside of school . I was being sympathetic to the plight of teachers not being able to control what goes on away from school premises (such as on FB etc)

But we all have different experiences, as highlighted by this thread

[valiumredhead]

Are you alternating with ice packs and heat pads - ten mins each? And keep it elevated when possible. Wrapping with cohesive bandages helps the swelling too.

[valiumredhead]

AF oh no no, sorry, got wires crossed there

[valiumredhead]

AF our school is mad hot on FB and all things twitter like etc - they haul kids in and demand they delete nasty comments, they are pretty good.

[AnyFucker]

VR it's me again . Using crutches for prolonged periods is deffo not recommended. A couple of days for the worst of the swelling and inflammation to go down (in a previously fit and healthy youngster) will aid healing. IMO.

[valiumredhead]

AF yeah that makes sense.

[AnyFucker]

Everybody else, just chat among yourselves for a moment, this is the VR and AF show

[AnyFucker]

Sounds like a good school, VR. Our school would like to deal better with bullying, and they try very hard under exceptional circumstances, I think. (It is two large comprehensives that merged a couple of years ago into a super-large one, with the associated massive building project required)

[OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos]

I think you are over reacting.

If every other child has been supportive, why are you focussing on the one who is probably just jealous that your dd is getting attention.

Don't credit it with your worry.

[valiumredhead]

I have physio next week, I am totally seized up, I can't WAIT!