AIBU if i don't like people saying to me..

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... mate,hun.babe,bud, and cheers mate/bud does my head in aswell.I just wish they would call me by my name .I don't like it when they they call me those things it gets on my nerves.If i wanted to be called by one of those names i would change my name to one of like Buddy Holly might have done.
Your thoughts please ?

Theres a woman if the shop near here who calls me "little girl". Which I find creepy and odd. She says "here you go little girl" or "im just about to serve the little girl".
I am nearly 30...

I hate being called "mate". Urgh, I am not your mate! I also despise "hun", it has such a fake ring to it.

But OP, don't you like calling people "dude"?

What's the difference?

DH calls people all kinds of things ie Chief, Fella etc. He says it is due to being a delivery driver to building sites and other manly environs. Lots of matey banter. I still went when he called the McDonalds server "big stuff" though

Big stuff

I don't like "mate" either. Or "love".

I have a colleague who calls everyone 'mate' or 'pal'. Male, female, client, colleague, friend - doesn't matter. I wince every time I hear it - sounds so unprofessional too.

I hate being called "love" or "darlin'" by strange men. It's so unnecessary. They can easily say "madam" or "miss". It mostly happens at the fruit market in our city.

Tweasles yes this is correct i will call people dudes when i enter a chat room full of those types of people(you get me bruv).Dudes is different somehow.tbh i don't really say dudes that much i was just trying to fit in tbh .Is that wrong ?

That's nothing - come to Bristol and complete strangers will refer to you as "my lover". Even women. Whaaaaat?!!

Quiet a few people like to say 'Boss' when they refer to somebody as in 'Ok Boss' I don't mind that one so much because it makes me feel special

I can't be doing with it either, properly winds me up.

DP is a builder and never calls anyone mate/luv etc because he knows how much it irks me, however he does insist on calling people by their names, over and over - like two or three times in a short exchange. I'm not sure if that isn't worse to be honest.

A guy called me "darling" on a job interview, it made me cringe and was part of the reason that i turned the job down. Yuck.

Yep, 'my lover' is totally different. Don't mind that at all

he sounds like a bloke that might say alright 'Sweetheart'

I notice still quiet a few strangers will still use the word 'darling ' to strangers (in a shop lets say) .Apparently that's bang out of order

I don't mind it tbh.
I get called variously:
Love
Sweetheart
Me duck (any midlands people will recognise this!)
Pet
Makes me :)

My DH ( much as I adore the man) insists on shortening peopels names - so Bernie becomes Bern, Trevor, Trev etc. I'm always so relived when someone introduces themselves as, say, Rob, because they would become Rob within seconds. It really annoys me!

I love "my lover". Hehe.

Some of my friends call each other Chick. They are in their thirties WTF?
If anyone called me Chick I would growl at them

I don't like being called "mate" by males.

or females actually, although I don't think that has ever happened?

I prefer a lot of those to dude

depends on the situation if it is in a patronising way no I do not like it more often it is not and I am not bothered at all

I think there is also a little bit of snobbery going on for some love, darling is the terminology used for those that have not yet reached middle class or maybe they have and have no desire to change the way they talk

I notice alot of people still make the mistake usually older generation this and they don't realize they are doing anything wrong by refering to a black person as a coloured person then thinking they are being really politically incorrect, the amount of time i've pulled people up on that and put them right(cos if you don't know that was the expression used in the eighties i do believe . People make that mistake or say something like that Indian man not realizing they should be saying Asain.Doh!
Finally i just wanna have a little bit of moan about people who say 'VERY' unique.You can not have something which is VERY unique because it is either unique or it is not.

**politically correct (sorry)