To re-register DD's birth with DP named as father instead of him adopting her and all the hassle which goes with that?

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I have a 10 year old DD who adores my DP and says he is the 'best Dad ever', etc etc. DP has expressed a wish to adopt her as I am 35 weeks pregnant and we would love to be a complete family.
DD has discussed this and would love for DP to be her 'real' dad (she knows he is not biologically).
She has never met her bio dad and he in turn does not wish to have any contact- I have given him numerous opportunities and choices over the years and he has only ever responded once to say he doesn't want to know.
There is no father named on DD's birth certificate and it strikes me that it is a much easier process to just name DP as the father on DD's birth certificate and re-register her birth- i stumbled across the info when looking at forms for DP to go and register our new baby's birth.
Can anyone see any potential problems with this? Is it morally wrong (everyone concerned knows the actual situation, nobody is being deceived- just would be so much easier!)

My aunt (in law) and uncle decided not to pursue him adopting her son because she would have had to put him up for adoption and them jointly adopt him. She was worried there was a minute risk she could lose him.

you won't - you are the biological parent
and as she has no named dad you are just designating a deemed dad
you do not even have to handle the biological dad issue - as I'd have had

Chubfuddler- thats what I meant. And would we have to go through all the checks etc that adopting parents have to, prying SW visitors (not that we have anything to hide!) etc etc

ah ok- it seems more research may be needed!

I just left it without DH adopting. It was for two reasons, firstly I wasn't going to adopt my own son and secondly I decided that he was a fit father and I wasn't going to involve an outsider making an judgement.

I think its can be quite complex - although not as much as adopting parents - I think if you and were married it can be relativity simple for him to get parental responsiablity - ie he would be counted as next of kin - so that might be worth looking into

I have no idea about the law etc but its so lovely your dd and dp have such a great relationship

It will be purjury if you do this ( which I don't think you will after reading the thread)

I can see why you want her father to be recognised legally, just do it the legal way

Perjury even

With something so important you must go through this in the correct and legal manner.

Thanks amarylis- yes they have a lovely relationship and I feel really happy that he suggested the adoption- even if we do just decide to do a PR thing instead of actual adoption I think the sentiment demonstrates to me the depth of his genuine feelings towards her.
I had a partner for 2 years when DD was small who I never felt loved her as much as me- which is fair enough as she wasn't his- but it was one of the reasons we split, as I would not have been confident that if I had had another child that they would have been treated the same.

We do plan to marry in the near future, does anyone know if that will make things easier?

Dh adopted my dd. I did have to adopt her myself iirc and there was a moment where technically she wasn't mine iyswim?dh and I were married already. There will be ss involvement to interview you, and someone for dd, but it was worth it. Dd is so secure within our family. All my inlaws came to the ceremony and I am so grateful to them for welcoming her in that way.

www.advicenow.org.uk/living-together/children/how-to-get-parental-responsibility-for-your-partners-children-html,257,FP.html

We were quite secure without - there was no way that I would have social services interviewing us.

It is up to you of course- if you feel happier then do it.

Notactually- how long did the process take? How much did it cost? It's so difficult to find any detailed info about this on the internet, I know we would find out if we contacted SS but I just want to have more of an idea before we decide which route to take (i mean between PR/adoption, not my original mad idea...)

exoticfruits that was just a comment about us, personally, not a dig at you. Its quite hard to share on here and then find someone's taken offence.

Exotic- I can understand that point of view and I really dislike the idea of someone else coming in and making judgements on us as parents- even though I feel secure that they would not find us lacking.
I feel that DP really wants it to be 'official' though, so I would like to at least look into the process.

Sorry - I did change it to 'do what suits you' - I looked into it but I couldn't take the fact that I had to adopt too. I also didn't like the fact that my decision had to be verified by someone else - although I know thy would have been fine. Everyone is different.

Thanks for that link Chub.
It seems from the info on there that even just applying for PR would involve interviews by CAFCASS officers so perhaps just as invasive as adoption process. Which might make it worth going the whole hog and DP applying for adoption, even if it means adopting my own child!

I don't recall it costing much. It was quite timeconsuming, and the discussions were fairly indepth. It might have been something like 6 months?

How long ago did you do it notactually? Was it recent?
6 months sounds reasonable. Do you mind saying what sort of things were discussed (please don't feel you have to)?

exotic thanks. I find it quite uncomfortable to be at odds on here!

It is a sensitive subject- I was just totally shocked at the time to discover what it involved.