To tell dd this is out of order!

[mosschops30]

Dd (16) announces tonight that she is going to town with - lets call him shaun.
So i say isnt shaun 'katies' boyfriend?
Yes but hes my friend too says dd

Me and dh say its not appropriate to go to the cinema with your friends boyf when she doesnt know
Dd says things have 'changed since your day'

so ive told her she needs to message him and say 'sorry cant do this weekend shaun, but woud love to see you and katie soon'

Shes in a strop now.

So AIBU

[CarolynKnappShappey]

I'd advise her that if she doesn't tell the female friend their plans she may be heading towards a messy situation, so she should have a bit of a think, and that it is then her decision. Unless Katy is a knife wielding gang member, in which case I'd put my POV a bit more strongly.

[OHforDUCKScake]

What a palava about nothing.

Gawd forbid your daughter is going to the cinema with a male as a friend. Is it so hard to believe that your daughter can be friends with a male? Ive been best friends with a guy, been close friends with his gf and managed to not strip off and shag him.

That aside, if they were did fancy one another and were growing closer, and this was their route then leave them to it! Be a mum and there to pick up the pieces, hopefully she'd only do it once, but you giving her ear ache wont stop her.

But dont doubt her in the first place, you have to at least give her the benefit of the doubt!

And if you never thought she'd do the naughties, and you always trusted her and just thought it was 'not the right thing' then butt out. What on earth are you on about?

[BeauNeidel]

YANBU.

A sixteen year old, who let's face it, might change boyfriends like underpants but might also have a very fragile ego, I think it is important to still be teaching them that it's not nice to go behind someone's back. It may be totally platonic - but they are keeping it a secret which suggests not.

If they have been friends since childhood it's different; your post suggests not. As a teenager, I would have been really hurt and upset had I found out that my boyfriend gone out with one of my friends. Now, no I wouldn't be, but I'm an adult now with a fully developed sense of self and would be totally confident in my relationship.

Teenagers still test boundaries like smaller children do, and this is a good example. I would have made my opinions known but probably wouldn't have told her to text him.