A bit of background: her baby is ten months old, mine is only three months so I have no experience at all of trying to wean a baby and how realistic or otherwise my ideas are. She has been a rock for me in these early weeks - always on the end of the phone with sane advice and support - so I would hate to upset or offend her.
Last weekend we stayed with her and her family and I was really surprised at what she fed her little girl. Every meal had an element of chocolate in it and there wasn't much that seemed immediately healthy. On Saturday for example she had toast with nutella for breakfast, a mid morning snack of quavers, lunch was pieces of cheese and ham with bread followed by a chocolate yoghurt and evening meal was more quavers and two jsffa cakes. I didn't want to sound critical but asked whether she ever did the mushed up fruit and vegetables I usually associated with weaning (yes I do know about blw but thought I would seem less critical phrasing it like that than just saying "wot no veg") she said that was the old-fashioned way and hers is the modern approach.
So my question is wibu to suggest her choice of food isn't great and suggest some more healthy alternatives or should I leave her to make her own decisions about her baby?