DH and I have 8mo dd and he has 2 dc (11 and 10) from previous marriage. I am down at the moment, DH suggested it would do me good to have an evening with friends once in a while to get away from just being mum which I was excited about today and asked him last week if he could have dd as my mum is at a party herself tonight. He said it was fine at the time and even confirmed this morning that he;ll be back to give dd tea and do bedtime.
Just had a text from DH saying he forgot its his turn to take the girls to hockey club tonight and to get my mum to watch dd instead. I know the girls have hockey on a fri night and DH usually takes them (supposed to take in turns with exw but thats another story) which is why i asked last week and assumed he'd arranged for exw to take tonight otherwise we wouldn't have arranged an evening out.
this isn't the first time he has cancelled on me at the last minute and it seems if his ex needs him to have the girls anytime he'll bend over backwards to be there. he's out 2 evenings a week with them and everyother friday and weekend. then it turns into every weekend which i'm not complaining about i'm glad he has contact with them but then hardly sees dd in the week and at the weekend as always ends up taking them out riding or going to friends houses with them which he says is not appropriate for dd so young.
So about tonight I'm gutted, had my dress all picked out and friends excited etc but now i can't go but friends are going anyway and sounds shallow i know but i hadly ever get chance to go out have fun. it winds me up that his exw will suddenly change her plans and DH will drop everything here to suit her but we (me and DD) always end up being dropped and have to arrange alternative childcare which isn't fair as she his dd too and why should i have to change my plans when he could just say to ex he can't tonight and they can swap as she always does.
sorry if this doesn't make sense, im very frustrated.
oh AIBU to think it isn't much to ask that he tell me at time if he can't have her save me feeling let down like this or ask ex to rearrange?