to hide the fact that my home is HA?

[mykidskeepmegoing]

Hi all.
Generally i hide the fact that my home is housing association. It looks like any other semi-detached house that you would find in the suburbs.
Anyway, today i was paying my rent in my local post office and one of the women from my kids school noticed my rent card. As i was lighting a ciggerette outside she asked if she could have a word.
She had a go at me for living in my home because i work. Her daughter has just had twins and her and her boyfriend are finding it hard to get a ha home (not many round here). So they live with her and her other 2 children.
Private rents around here are well overpriced, so i was very lucky to get my beloved home. I'm dreading going to get my kids from school in case she has a go again in front of other mums. I don't want anybody knowing my home is HA.
After the year i've had, i really don't need anymore grief :/

[mykidskeepmegoing]

@nfk what is the need for that?

[MulledWineOnTheBusLady]

She's a loon, OP. Just tell her calmly it's none of her business. What else is there to say?

[Feminine]

Well if she comes over to you again tell her to "fuck off" .

I think that if she has the nerve to bother you about your home, then she would respond very nicely to a sharp response.

Still don't know why you would hide the fact you live in an HA home though?

[MulledWineOnTheBusLady]

I mean the woman from school, not nfk obviously.

[nkf]

Need? No need. It just made me laugh.

[mykidskeepmegoing]

You know what. I geniunelly came on here to ask for help. I don't have many friends and people generally use me as an emotional punchbag.
This woman is known to give people grief and i really am worried about what she's going to say. Thanks very much.

[nkf]

Stop thinking about it. That would be my advice.

[Feminine]

What is the worst she can say?

If she hassles you at the school, call the police.

[MulledWineOnTheBusLady]

I am treating this as genuine because I've read your other threads, mykids, maybe others haven't.

But either way, the answer I think you'd get is still the same. If she's known to be a bit of a nutjob, then what possible impact can her "opinion" have on you? Nutjobs are unreasonable and they do not matter. All you can do is say "It's none of your business" and walk away. Or just ignore her. Literally say nothing. That's all you have to do. What's she going to do then, hit you? Go to the police, in that case.

[HullyEastergully]

give her your house you ol meanie pants

and a fag

[InNeedOfBrandy]

Has she not got room for the goat to?

[HecatePropylaea]

Just tell her "it's got bog all to do with you and perhaps you daughter or her boyfriend should consider getting a job and renting privately instead of you assuming they're got more right to my home than I have because they're on their backsides all day."

When someone gives you such shit, I think it's not unreasonable to unleash your inner cow. Although I know the mature thing is to take the moral highground and with my sensible head on I suppose the best thing is to just ignore her.

(I do not believe that there's any shame in not being able to find work. I've been there. I know that one parent being at home with their children is not a bad thing. I've been there too. There was a time it was both of us because our children's disabilities required two people. I am just suggesting going in for the kill with her, in that situation, with that provocation, because I have a petty side and I tend to come out fighting when someone attempts to crap all over me and I see no reason why anyone should bend over and take it up the arse. )

What you don't do, is worry yourself over what some woman may possibly say to you. so she thinks that because you work, you should hand over the keys of your house to her daughter, so what? Even if you did move out, her daughter probably wouldn't get it. There'll likely be people higher on the waiting list than her.

Just hold your head high and let her choke on her sour grapes.

[AitchTwoOhOneTwo]

if you suspect trolling, report it and let HQ decide.
sorry you had such a loony encounter, mykids. it's no-one's business who your house belongs to, although i'd rather your rent money paid into the council coffers than some private landlord.

[lovebunny]

in principle, people who are working should not take housing association properties - they are there to subsidise the needy, not those who just like to have more of their income to spend on themselves. but that is a principle.

people outside the family do not know the particular circumstances. a family coping with a lot of other pressures might look like they are doing well, living it up in subsidised housing, while they are actually struggling but holding things together. so, people should not be taking each other aside and 'having a word'. it is up to the families involved to understand that it is unfair and unreasonable to take subsidised accommodation when they don't really need it.

and it is up to the rest of society to make it generally known that 'having a word' and living in subsidised housing when you don't really need it are both unacceptable - this can be done through soaps, commentaries etc and needn't involve victimising individuals or families.

[mykidskeepmegoing]

I'm going to speak to the pcso. She's already barred from the shop i work at because she's so aggressive.
She's never bothered me before and always says hello. But i know what she can be like with other people. I hope she doesn't say anything in front my kids.

[InNeedOfBrandy]

HA like council were not made for the needy FACT. They were created to house normal working familys actually.

[AitchTwoOhOneTwo]

i disagree, lovebunny. in social housing it's essential to have working families present, and key workers, so that a good mix is present. particularly in high priced areas.

[mykidskeepmegoing]

I've got myself worked up into a right panic. I don't need this, i really don't.

[CrikeyOHare]

On what basis exactly have people decided that this thread is "fake".

I hope you're right, nfk (or whatever) and this is a wind-up, because if not then you've just rather spitefully bullied someone who came on here for help. How very lovely.

[MulledWineOnTheBusLady]

That sounds sensible, OP. Hope the PCSO reassures you. Try not to dwell on it too much, honestly, loons are not worth it.

[Feminine]

lovebunny

HA homes should be for all, except very wealthy obviously.

They used to be.

No wonder there is so much silly misconceptions about socialized homes.

[thumper1806]

Let's face it, you've probably jumped through hoops to get a HA home, so are considered worthy.

I would take the number of your local HA to school with you and if she says anything just tell her they obviously need more experienced people like her deciding who gets to live where, and that she should give them a call, and that she might even get a job out of it