To have asked a 4 year old and 2 year old to let me sit down in the Doctors pharmacy?

[CandyLoo]

At a small, tightly packed, busy pharmacy opposite Doctors surgery.
3 chairs (barely any standing room).
A lady, and the 2 children taking up the 3 chairs.
2 children not ill, in there with their Mum collecting a prescription.
No free chairs, I asked if I could sit in one of the chairs.
Mum moved one of her children, the other moved to stand with her sister.
Mutterings from the lady next to me, and when she left, said rather pointedly to the child, 'Here you are love, sit in my seat'. They left soon after.
By this stage, the pharmacy was very busy, I have no qualms giving up my seat to anyone older than me or simply if anyone needs it.
AIBU? The lady sitting next to me obviously thought I was, rude comments about me to her husband when she was outside.

I wouldn't do it myself and I think it sounds a bit mad but to compare it to slavery is barking. You're both nuts!

Also, comparing it to slavery is not only wrong-headed but actually pretty bloody insulting to the people who are slaves and civil rights leaders everywhere.

Children have to be protected by legislation to stop being took advantage of even today.

I could link but only a few years ago there was an under cover sweat shop in the news in London where children who were illegal immigrants were working for basically nothing. Google it if you want.

Why do you think an adult is better then a child? The same question could be changed to why does a white person think they are better then a black person.

It is actually sickening the amount of people on this thread that feel they are above anyone just because of their age, the same ignorant attitudes when people thought they were above anyone just because of their skin colour or sexual preferances.

The same question could be changed to why does a white person think they are better then a black person.

The question could be changed yes, but then it wouldn't be the same question. Hth.

'Here ds3 sit on my lap so the lady can sit down'. "Ds2 stand up for a minute to the gentleman can have a seat'

Yes exactly like sweatshops and slavery. How could I possibly have missed the obvious similarities?

How would it not be the same? How is anyone thinking they are better then anyone else not the same?

The lady who said in her own words she wanted them them to show her respect just for being born a few years earlier.

Like white people wanting respect just because they were born white.

How do you not see this?

I must have missed the bit in the story where the OP forcibly removed millions of people from their homes and shipped them off to the other side of the world in order to have them work for her for no money on pain of death. All that I got was her asking to sit down in a shop.

Should have gone to Specsavers, obv.

Oh yeah and killed them. I missed the bit where she killed them as well.

Right,calm down. If my 89 year old DF had walked into this tiny waiting room what would you do? He Never asks for a seat-but he needs one.

Obviously you should have wallison.

Bigotry in any form is disgusting. Ageism, sexism, racism, homophobia...

Who is thinking anyone is better than anyone else?

I get my children to stand because it's polite. Not in order to ensure they are oppressed. I don't think that when I tell them to stand or perch on my knee they think 'oh gosh that man/woman is so much better than me'. They get thanked, and carry on talking (probably about minecraft.)

Admittedly politeness sometime causes problems. Yesterday ds2 stopped to hold a door open for 2 adults (is that oppression as well?) and ds1 almost hit the roof as he thought ds2 wasn't following.

How is an elderly person who needs a seat the same as a 38 yr old woman who wants to make a 2yr and 4 yr old show her respect?

Ageism

The OP did with

CandyLoo Thu 08-Nov-12 13:38:11
No, I don't have a medical condition.
It's just I feel the children should let adults sit down in what is obviously a busy pharmacy.
Just the way I was brought up, think it shows a lack of respect.

Do you not feel ageism is an issue?

I would answer that question but I'm too busy teaching my son the lyrics to the song 'Say it Loud (I'm Under 18 and I'm Proud). They don't quite scan but we'll get over it.

Look the OP didn't want to kids to lick her feet. To her polite children stand (or rather polite mothers get their children to move), these ones didn't. So she felt they were impolite. It's presumably a reflection of what was considered good manners in her house rather than a desire of hers to enslave all children.

Utter twaddle and nonsense. Adults are deserving of respect from children because of the adults' (usually vastly) greater life experience; their knowledge and judgement; and their efforts and contributions to society. What a grim fucking world when children are allowed to have all the same privileges and none of the responsibilities of adults.

It is moronic to compare this to racism.

"Respect' in the same way we had to stand when an adult walked into the room at school. We weren't then whipped and forced to eat gruel. We were taught that it was 'respectful'. I don't think we interpreted that in quite the same way as you are.

incidentally that customary way of showing respect must still exist as one head showing us around a secondary school recently made a point of saying that he didn't get the students to do that.

Oh crossed with brdgrl - obviously agree with her post.

Why should a child respect you just because your an adult?

WTF have you done to earn any respect apart from in bupcakes words fall out a fanjo a few years before

Respect is a 2 way street

I'm a bit confused - as far as I can see the mother was happy to move her children, but it was some random stranger who commented?

I think the answer is don't take any notice of random strangers.

OMG. This thread has SO lost the plot. Where is the love, people?

Share the chairs and teach your children to offer them to older people. Blimey.

The OP was rude!

The question is not whether you would teach your DC to give up a seat to an adult, but rather whether she was reasonable to ask for the seat.

If they had been setting fire to her coat, and she asked the mother to get them to stop, that would've been reasonable. Asking for the seat? Unreasonable!