DH likes sitting in a frigging dark room. I don't.

[MrsCantSayAnything]

He likes having only one very dim lamp on and the TV....I can't see the point in this.

I can't frigging see!

I have two or three lamps on myself.

I have agreed to having the lighting how he wants it because he's been working late and I've been here most of the evening.

But really. AIBU to think if you want a dark room, go to the cinema or to bed!!

YANBU. I hate bright central lights, but need 3 lamps on in the living room to create the ambiance I require. DP tries to get away with just putting the one nearest him on, which happens to be the dimmest. It lights up a tiny corner and the rest of the room just feels sad and gloomy.

Do couples really sit together in the cosy, darkened sitting room watching TV most evenings? I might have done that when we were first courting but now there is nothing on TV that we both enjoy and it is torture to have to sit through something you don't like. Perhaps we are in the minority but we very rarely sit together in the evenings, often one of us is out and about (gym/comittee meetings/voluntary work - nothing very exciting ) or if we are both in one of us might be using the PC which is in another room or helping with homework, clearing up the kitchen, having a long bath etc etc.

Some do, I do. Not until after nine or ten at night, but we like watching stuff together- Homeland is the current favourite, and we work our way through boxsets etc. or put a movie on. We also chat [SIOB], and I can often do both while MNing or reading my (beautifully low-lit) kindle. You've got to stop scurrying around at some point.

That's nice BOF - I love Homeland but DH hates it. We don't even like the same films . I am not really the scurrying around type but I tend to have all my down-time during the day (SAHM with school age child) so I guess I have to at least try and look busy in the evenings . Had a lovely lazy afternoon today with the fire lit, catching up with Downton - and the lights on !!

That sounds like bliss- apart from the lights

I can't stand this! I have to have the big floor lamp on at least if we're watching tv. DP will go to bed before me as I sort the dog out, loo, drink etc. and I get upstairs to find he's put the tv on and that's it, no lamps or anything! It hurts my eyes to watch tv in the dark, so I always annoy him by putting on my bedside lamp. You'd think after 6 years together he woukd know by now I need light to be able to watch tv!

Yanbu!!

APoppy - - DH and I have been together over 24 years and still can't agree on the lights, 6 years is nothing .

After 26 years we still don't agree on the lighting but we are exactly like BOF in our evening habits ie watch stuff together that we both want to or do additional stuff alongside if one of us is less interested. Programmes that really only interest one of us are saved for when we are apart.

Ragwort: My husband and I are the same as you and your DH. Hubby and I hardly do anything together in the evenings, aside from eating dinner*. He will watch the telly in one room while I waste time conduct research on the internet or read a book in another. We don't even go to bed at the same time!

*correction: two or three times a week, he and I will have some "adult time" together in the bedroom after the kiddo has gone to bed .