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To say I love you 4 months into a relationship

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Notalone · 05/11/2012 18:22

Been with someone for just over 4 months now. Was my second internet date so wasn't expecting to meet someone so soon and it really took me by surprise. He isn't my usual type and never tells me how he feels ever but shows me in practical and physical ways eg he holds me all night when he stays over, he cleaned up after my dog when he was hideously sick, has fixed loads of things round my house, drives me to work everytime he stays despite me working in the community which means he often drives miles out of his way etc. I feel so happy when I am with him and a bit empty when I am not and really think I am falling in love with him.

Trouble is I don't know what he will say if I say it, but I don't think he will ever say it first. Also without outing myself too much he achieved something really huge this weekend and has become quite well known in the area / filed he achieved it in as a result. He has already had lots of people, women included suddenly coming out of the woodwork when previously they never spoke to him and I don't want him to think I am only saying it because of this. But for the past few weeks I have really had to bite my tongue so I don't blurt it out.

So my question is, do I say it and if I do (in a few weeks bviously when this whole thing has died down a bit) do I say I have something to tell him or do I just slip it into conversation casually.

Oh and no laughing at me. I have only been in 2 relationships in my life, one for 15 years and another for a year so this is almost totally new to me. Thank you Smile

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Notalone · 07/11/2012 18:42

Ha ha - he is not a USA president or a vegetable grower Grin. I really can't say though because I will out myself which I don't want to do.

I think I am going to wait a while longer after reading this whole thread. I don't want to leave myself vulnerable or feeling worried if I get a luke warm response. I do think he is the type who struggles to talk about stuff like this but he has got a lot better over the past few months so we shall see I guess. Wish me luck Smile

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shewhowines · 07/11/2012 18:55

I'd wait a few more months - or at least until he replied that he was glad to meet me too.

ImperialBlether · 07/11/2012 18:59

Grin shewhowines, yes, that's a pretty basic prerequisite.

Ephiny · 07/11/2012 18:59

Do you love him? And what's your definition?

I don't really say this sort of thing, to me it's all a bit meaningless. I certainly couldn't be bothered with all the angst and second-guessing about Saying It, and rules about when you should, what the correct response is etc. It's really baffling to me.

DH said it to me once and I think I said 'aww, you're funny' or something and laughed because I thought he was joking Blush. He hasn't said it since, believe it or not. But we have got married since, so I guess it's implied!

reallyboredatwork · 07/11/2012 19:10

Put on a wedding dress and say it. And watch him ruuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuun.

reallyboredatwork · 07/11/2012 19:14

He's Bradley Wiggins.

Badgersnatch · 07/11/2012 19:51

If and when you do tell him you have to come back here and tell us what happens (or we'll hunt you down and tell him for you Grin)

sarahseashell · 07/11/2012 21:45

sounds like you want him to tell you and not the other way round. So don't do it, wait for him or wait a few more months and see how things are going. Also he might think it's been brought about by his sudden fame Wink

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