Being called by your surname by your boss

[Kennyp]

I work in a classroom and the teacher mostly calls me by my surname which i hate and think its rude. Should i tell her i don,t like it?? I dont mean that my surname is rude (ie bugger or shit) but that she thinks its funny or cleverr??? But i just think it is totallyunfunny and unclever

She always calls me miss surname when the kids are there, but otherwise its mostly just surname

Tell her you'd prefer that she calls you [whatever]

How odd and rude.

I wouldn't like this either, could you politely point out that out of earshot of the children, you are happy to be called xxx (first name)?

YANBU. I think it is demeaning and to me harks back to master-servant relationships. I'd say something to her.

She is trying to tell you that you are inferior to her.

Correct her and then take it higher if it doesn't stop.

Hmmm, didnt think of the inferior angle. I do think it is damn rude but thought i might be over reacting

It reminds me of when chandlers boss always called him bing and then smacked him on the arse i am not matthew perry in disguise

It definitely sounds like 'putting you in your place'. I would tell her to stop it immediately but would be tempted to do it back

I would also be tempted but not have the guts to refer to her as "Smith" or whatever and if she questioned it, tell her thats how you thought you were referring to each other as.

Thanks old raver. I do not remotely act like i need to be put in my place, if i did i would realise why she is doing it.

I might call her by her surname only if she does it again tomorrow no doubt Good idea, thanks :).

how i am reading it is you boss calls you Kennyp and not title+Kennyp Is that right as i would find it very rude.

No, she only does it to me. I think she thinks genuinely that its funny but it reallllllllly gets my back up. Makes me hate work.

Its "smith, you can do that". Or "morning smith".

When the children are there she calls me miss smith but she rarely rarely uses my christian name when the children are out of the classroom. Thats when she calls me "smith".

I hope shes reading this but i bet shes not

YADNBU..
Totally out of line from her, and very unprofesional- whether shes' senior or not.

What is she- a Sergeant Major or something! Talk about superiority complex....

The next time she calls you by your surname, I would reply back to her with her surname, then make a point of how you feel this unprofessional manner is both unneccesary and will not be tolerated further- you are both collegues, and have to work together. Due to her attitude, you have organised a meeting with someone/anyone at a higher level where this can be addressed, and explained by her fully......

We had a problem like this in our office a few years ago- a senior calling a junior by her second name, she hated it and ended up in tears (the senior was given a formal warning though eventually!)

No its not a remotely amusing or entertaining surname

I find her attitude really rude and she doesnt call the other jobshare woman i work with by her surname

Yes, it does seem off. It's one step up from being called Girl. You Girl, do this, you girl, come here. It smacks of an attempt to indicate dominance.

If she pisses on your desk, you'll know for sure

I second the idea of replying using only her surname.

"smith, you can do that".
"ok jones, will do."

"morning smith".
"morning, jones"

Every single time.

And don't let it look like it's getting to you.

But you work in a classroom where all the students call you by your surname so why would the teacher call you anything else?

In every school I have worked in unless in the staffroom my colleagues and I havealways called each other 'Miss', 'Sir' and used surnames never forenames incase a student overhears

Its when the children are at break etc "smith do this, smith do that. Mrning smith, see you tomorrow smith, fill up the stapler smith, kiss my arse smith".

I will be super conscious of if she says my christian name at alll this week.

Off to bed but thanks for the ideas :)

Bloody hell! Start calling her by her surname when the kids aren't there too. Make a point of doing so. That would really piss me off!

It's also a habit as you are so used to using a surname or continues, in fact I can't remember the last time I used a forename at work!

Cricketballs - it's the fact it is just the surname that bothers the OP.

Not Miss smith.

Just 'Smith'

hey Smith.