Being called by your surname by your boss

[Kennyp]

I work in a classroom and the teacher mostly calls me by my surname which i hate and think its rude. Should i tell her i don,t like it?? I dont mean that my surname is rude (ie bugger or shit) but that she thinks its funny or cleverr??? But i just think it is totallyunfunny and unclever

She always calls me miss surname when the kids are there, but otherwise its mostly just surname

I would ask her to call me Christian name each and every time.

Morning smith - oh morning, please call me pickled

Pass me this smith - please call me pickled I don't like smith makes me sound like the parlour maid off downtown abbey.

And you ain't no lady! Punch.

Or something along those lines.

apologies, I didn't see the part where she didn't say Miss Smith; if it bothers you op then say so. I do get called cricketballs rather than Miss cricketballs but, I know that its in jest and I call my colleague lots of different names

A boss did this to me once and i pointed out this was not public school or the army

are you sure she doesn't think your surname is your first name???

I think you need to garner all your courage and just say, "X, I really dislike it when you call me by my surname. Please would you not do that in future?"

Then pick up your things and leave the room. No need to wait for an answer.

I knew someone who used to call her DP by his surname, it wasnt ever used as a nickname like the way blokes sometimes do and i'd never heard anyone refer to him as such.
So i never understood why she did it....now i know, as she certainly did wear the trousers in thier relationship!!!!

OP, I think its rude and disrespectful and you need to correct her each and everytime she does it. If she still continues take it to the head.

No it's rude. I presume like me you are a TA? I would just tell her that you find it unacceptable and she stops it now.

How very stupid and strange of her.

I've known it where everyone calls someone by his surname, usually a throwback from school. There's no such tradition with this woman and you need to stop her in her tracks.

Could be a form of affection (I do know people who do this) but if you don't like it just tell her. If she doesn't take it on board then start ignoring her ehen she calls you, and then say 'oh were you talking to me? But my name is Miss X. if you want to get my attention it's best to use my actual name'.

No it's rude!! Tell her straight that you don't like it. I know this could be hard but if it bothers you I think you need o say. I am an LSA and have worked with very odd teachers in the past.

Do they have a military background ?

Another vote for consistently and inconsequentially calling them by their surname.
Practice on a friend first.

Oh, you haven't got a surname like Murray or James or Jayne etc, which is commonly used as a forename ?

Just found this thread, I get called by my surname by my boss, though never when anyone is around, it's always "Brown can you do this" but when other employees are around it's first names.
I know she's going through a tough time at home, and to be honest other than these lapses is perfectly pleasant. I've not made an issue of it, but she said early on when I joined the company she didn't believe in being over familiar with her staff due to issues in the past

just smile and say ' It's Mrs smith or Kenny please' politely.

Are you sure that she knows your first name?

I did work experience in a law firm where one of the senior partners referred to all the trainees as "Trainee" and then a number. No attempt to learn names at all.

Otoh, I am a teacher by trade and I have NEVER referred to my TAs as "Smith". Incredible.