To think that 'a couple of hours' is not 4.

[thenightsky]

DH said he was off the gym at at 2.30pm 'for a couple of hours'. I prepared dinner with roasties and everthing to be ready at 5pm. He is still not home. Oven now turned off and everything is congealing.

Why didn't you eat it?

I would eat without him, leave his in the kitchen along with the washing up. What have you done?

I'd leave his outside for the foxes. Fuck that for rude behaviour - has he got form for this kind of thing?

Did he know you were cooking roast for that time? If so, HWBU.
If not, he probably just didnt think there was a reason to be back.

'Has he got form'

Seriously, its worse than'epic' doing the rounds

Everyone on MN is starting this now.

Yes he knew... well at least I think he did. I said I would. He did that 'ok, yeah, whatever' thing as he went out of the door.

I would just plate it up, eat mine and leave his to be reheated later. I don't think he is BU if you didn't tell him that dinner would be ready at 5.

Yes he has 'form'.

But who the fuck needs 4 hours in gym???

Have you got form for frothing about a turn of phrase duck?

Plate his up and leave it in the microwave, eat yours and carry on with your evening as you wish....
He is an arse!

Yes. But this one is the worst recently.

Goats are involved.

Definitely eat your own dinner, why should you go hungry.

But: are you used to him disappearing for longer than he said he would? Is he vague on time, or does he enjoy jerking you around and accusing you of 'nagging'? Or did you cook dinner as a way to try and oblige him to come home and spend time with you?

Why didn't you eat it?

I'd eaten mine and left his on the plate to be re-heated. I don't know how long "gym" takes. Have you rang him to check all is well before putting dinner in the bin? Could he have gone for a pint or something afterwards? Bumped into a pal? Who knows? If he didn't know to be back then YAB a bit U. Unless he does this all the time and usually rolls in steaming drunk at 11pm.

No goats here, honest

I'm away to eat MY dinner!

I'd have eaten mine....

So AIBU... is a couple of hours classed as four hours?

I call it two.

It is two. But unless there were plans/a reason to come back he obviously didnt have a sense of urgency.

Im guessing he's back now? What has he said?

I don't think YABU but if he's done it before, perhaps better to be specific with him? Some -men- people need details eg 'ok but be home by 5 for dinner please'

Crossing out fail

I did say.... I'll be producing dinner for approx 5pm as he went out. He said.. 'great, yeah, fine, whatever'.

So I took he was actually listening to me.

No he is not back yet.

sod him.

enjoy your dinner

I'd eat his too

YANBU.

'A couple' of hours is two - a couple = two.

I'd plate up his food and put it in the fridge for me and the DC to eat tomorrow and let him sort out his own tea.

whats he likely to have gone off to do? pub with mates after the gym? does he have a mobile with him? sorry to ask the obvious.....

'A couple' does vary in context. A couple of weeks of holiday will always be two. A couple of maltesers could easily be 4. I looked after my friend's kid for a couple of hours could be anything between 1.5 and 3 (but not 4). A couple of hours at the gym could certainly never be more than 2, unless this gym is an hour's drive away.