to think that you don't do this?

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I don't have kids so I want a parents perspective on this.

My sister and I fell out a few months ago because she thinks I (verbally) attacked her children. I didn't, and have tried to explain but she won't listen to me.

Today we had a family occasion at my mums house. She wasn't there but her 5-year old son (my nephew) was.

He said to me 'mummy said I'm not allowed to talk to you and if I do then I'm not allowed to go to nanny's house anymore'.

I was shocked and upset.

AIBU in thinking that you don't do this or is this fair game considering she thinks I have been horrible about her children?

I think if wasn't the food she was ranting about it would be something else. The issue is she doesn't like you and will throw any old thing at you as a 'reason' to be unpleasant. You dont appear to be that fond of her do step away.

Send the kids cards/pressure at celebrations and smile and make general chit chat when you see them so they grow up knowing you didn't have issues with them.

But for now you and the sister need to keep away from each other cos you will just keep finding battles.

Pancake - I have been doing that. This row has been going in since beg of aug. I've stayed away but last night was a family occasion that couldn't be avoided. Incidentally there was food there but she asked her kids if they wanted KFC! Ha ha!!

If you don't argue back then it's not an argument. Neither of you rate each other. So just stop thinking anything about it. You won't get her to see your point of view and vice versa.

Or go in for a huge brawl if that's what you want.

So this is it forever? We never talk again?

PS I haven't argued back as she hasn't spoken to me since August!

Blimey op, maybe her gift should be a book on children's nutrition! Joke before the pro offended start with the food police comments.

No - just give each other a very wide berth until you have both got off your high horses. Could take months, could take years. But you don't rate each other very much so it should a relief ( unless you like tension).

McDonalds or KFC? Which was it?

Mamma McD's at the wedding; KFC at the recent family do.