To ask DMIL not to take DS out all day?

[LittlePebble]

This is not a MIL bashing thread. I lovey
mIL and currently have chest infection which I'm taking antibiotics for, then this morning was sick I'm not sure if its a reaction to antibiotics or something else. DH took DS (1yr old) down to work with him then called his mum and asked if she could look after him for a few hours. MIL then popped in here to get DS changing bag/ food etc. and told me she and her partner thought they'd take him out to a place 1/2 hr away. When I asked what time they'd be back she said 4pm. I got a bit upset as I worked all day yesterday and the weekend is only time I get to see DS for two days in a row (work mon/wed/fri). MIL has now changed plans and is going to bring him back at lunch time and said they'd take him to this place another day when we can all go.
I feel awful as I don't want to stop them having a lovely time and I'm sure DS would have fun, do you think it's selfish of me to have stopped them going so I can see him this afternoon?

I'm spurting coffee out of my nostrils here!

Lovebunny's managed to turn a loving grandparent into a child snatcher

Excellent! Lol

"no-one should take your baby away. insist that the baby stays with you, or if he must go, that he is brought back asap.
you are right not to want people (no matter how close or lovely) to pack up your baby and remove him. you're his mum, even on days when you need a hand. what's wrong with people staying at yours and looking after the baby? i had a glorious nine hours at my daughter's yesterday, most of the time playing little games with my grandaughter (almost 1yo)."

The single stupidest post I have ever seen on mumsnet. And there has been some pretty stiff competition!

Oh, apart from the "some people actually love their children" one.

At list it keeps them off the streets usual

list?? least ...I can't type for laughing!

Yes you must really hate your child if you are letting him be snatched from you for a whole day of fun with Granny.
You won't remember this in a few weeks. He won't remember this tomorrow. But it will all be part of the great relationship children can build with grandparents. My eldest chose to spend her holiday with my DM and DF when she was 18 as she loved spending time with them so much. Yes, I hated my children so much I regularly let them go for days and weeks to stay with their grandparents.
Call MIL back, say you've changed your mind, enjoy a rest and love your DS when he gets back.

Brilliant!

Seriously I'd enjoy the rest and let them go out. Unless you have serious concerns or they have asked for his passport then you should call the authorities.

Howls laughing at lovebunny and cannot be arsed to point out the zillions of reasons why lovebunny is talking utter crap.

Well I agree that YABU.

4o´clock isn´t so late as to have no time!

But as a pp said, you can apologise.

Sounds as if you get on well with MIL.

The single stupidest post I have ever seen on mumsnet. And there has been some pretty stiff competition!
hmm, yes, there is competition. from the half-baked types who think its ok to palm a baby off on anyone.

Taking the child away???

MN has been a bit bizarre lately but that's got to be the winner.

OP, if you think you were being a little bit U can you call MIL and ask her to take him all day?
I think you would probably have a nicer evening if you rest today.

And, honestly, your MIL is not taking your child away, she's just doing a nice thing.

The MIL sounds lovely, I'm glad the OP appreciates here.

She's been called to DH's work at very short notice to pick the baby up and do them both a favour by looking after him, planned a little day out (and 4pm is a little day)...then told the OP's not happy so immediately changed plans.

Not exactly 'packing the baby up and taking him away from his Mum'....

Who is half-baked lovebunny?

I wish I had family around to be with the kids. I am sure everyone would benefit greatly from not being with me 24/7.

Palming a baby off on anyone?

Mum is sick
Grandparents offer to take child out for a nice day.

Where is the palming?

I mean, if the op had knocked on my door and asked me, a total stranger, to look after the child then ok.
but it's the grandparents

hmm, yes, there is competition. from the half-baked types who think its ok to palm a baby off on anyone

Ok so the OP's DH is 'palming the baby off to the Grandmother' and the Grandmother is 'taking the baby away'?

Meanwhile, the OP and her DH don't love their baby because they've asked for a bit of help due to one having a chest infection and one having to go to work?

Righto....

worra don't you know by now parents should have their DCs glued to their hips until they go to school?

You cannot ever be sick, go to work, let your child see other family members.

I mean why bother having children if you don't want to look after them?
All those precious moments you would miss.
Won't someone please think of the children?

Quit right Tantrums and even when they start school, Mothers should hang around outside the gate at lunch times...poking their nipples through the railings for a quick fix of breast milk.

My 7 yr

Of course.

Rule number one of being a "good" mother is never let your children out of your sight until they are married

My 7 yr old loves the fact I am at his side at the birthday parties he is invited to. It was handy him being in my baby sling at laser quest last week - we won...

Ring MIL and say on reflection, you could really do with the rest so your dc can stay out with her longer.

Take the time to rest so that you can really enjoy tomorrow with your dc!

All our parents are dead, what we wouldn't give for our dc's to still have their grandparents around. Honestly, make the most of the support whilst it's there .

Marriage? No no no. You cannot let your children do that, then you will have MIL's in your life.