to hate parents who swear?

[ditsydoll]

So I have just been sat on the bus with DD and behind us where a woman and man with 3 young children effing and blinding about some woman. I ended up getting up and moving down the bus as Dd was listening and id rather she didn't repeat any of the choice language.

It's so unfair that we try so hard to protect our children and set a good example and they pick it up from some horrid other person on the bus, I feel sorry for their poor children.

it isn't great at all, but i do know some great parents who are quite sweary and there are worse things they could be.

hate isn't a very nice word now, is it?

The obvious response to this thread is, of course, oh FFS...

There's a lot worse parents can be doing to their kids than swearing in front of them....

I swear, not in public and not at DD though.
Hate's a bit of a strong word isn't it?

It's the children that swear that annoy me. They seem to know more words then me!

I think its disgusting to swear around your kids, yeah obviously there are worse things a parent could do but I really can't stand anything more than hearing a little one swear, is it really that hard to just NOT swear. Surely theres just no reason for it and especially to protect your little ones.

Protect my little ones? I'd rather protect them from the small minded and the judgemental.

If my DD swore and I knew she had heard it from me I definitely wouldn't be feeling like the best parent that's for sure.

Protect them from what? Seriously - from what? There's plenty you should be protecting them from but fucking swearing isn't up there! Get a grip! Your PFB will be fluent in cussing from day 1 at school!

I think it's wrong to swear at your kids,but it's a reality for kids to hear swearing.

I don't think its small minded to think that swearing infront of your kids is horrid..

yanbu me too

I swear in front of mine. I know I shouldnt but shit happens. Neither have imploded on impact from overhearing a few naughty words.

I do however strive to protect both my children from actual harm. Being hit by a car, from people who might not be very nice to them- for example. I feed them and clothe them and keep a roof over their heads. So really on balance, I (and their dad) are not doing too bad a job....

I have a potty mouth.

My kids know wine is for grown ups.
My kids know driving is for grown ups.
My kids know boiled sweets are for grown ups.
My kids know my bad words are for grown ups.

Absolutely right monkeyface.

There's no reason to swear in front of kids. Don't get me wrong, I love me a good swear and DP and I often sound like an episode of the Sopranos, but it's not fantastic to swear in front of kids. It's not fantastic to swear prolifically in public either. That's just basic politeness. So while YABU to use the word 'hate', YANBU unreasonable to have that opinion.

What monkey said.

I swear. I don't swear at my DS, but he has heard me swearing. He has also heard me teaching him, telling him he's the sweetest and most loved child in the whole wide world (true), heard me standing up for him, heard me protecting him. The odd FFS has not rocked his world.

And what monkey said, she's got her shit together that one.

I don't swear, not at all, in front of children or not. I don't think children should have to listen to it but then again, I don't think anybody should have to listen to it. That said, I don't react when I do hear it.

I do think that people who swear have no call though to say where others should and shouldn't swear. Swearing is either ok for you or it isn't.

I also agree with Monkeyface

I use industrial language on occasion.
I try to avoid it, and used to try and avoid swearing in front of women.

Now... sometimes I swear.
If my kids heard me swear, there were swears and bad swears . "Daddy's sorry he said that, that was a bad swear and I shouldn't have said it".

I'd love not to swear.
But I always fuck up.

I have a potty mouth, I controlled it when the kids were small but not so much now. My teenager actually responds better often when I swear for emphasis. He finds it much more sympathetic if I say "that sounds like a fucking awful day, I'm sorry hon." than "really awful day".

Kids are going to be exposed to stuff you don't like, you can't wrap them in cotton wool and you shouldn't. Use it as an opener to talk to your kids about bad language.