to hate parents who swear?

[ditsydoll]

So I have just been sat on the bus with DD and behind us where a woman and man with 3 young children effing and blinding about some woman. I ended up getting up and moving down the bus as Dd was listening and id rather she didn't repeat any of the choice language.

It's so unfair that we try so hard to protect our children and set a good example and they pick it up from some horrid other person on the bus, I feel sorry for their poor children.

'hate ??

'protect the children' ?

Wtf?

Oops sorry!

What monkeyface said

I really dislike adults swearing in front of children, and I think it's pretty rude to do it front of other people's little kids. It used to be a fairly basic social norm not to, yes, even on the bus!

OneMoreChap I agree that some swears are ones I'd rather not used in front of my DD's .
There's everyday swearing,and stronger language and while I think everyday swearing is a reality,I'd like to think I and others around my DD's would try to control bad swears.

I just can't see a huge issue with saying, 'oh shit, I forgot the milk', or 'ow fuck', when you stub your toe, or whatever.
It's just no biggie here, and DD doesn't swear at home fwiw, though I won't mind if she does in a few years.

Never mind twirling, where's my wine and boiled sweeties?

What nellybluth and UltraBOF said.
I don't "hate the parents" who can't control their mouths, but I do hate the swearing, and the fact some people seem incapable of completing a sentence without an expletive.
Feel quite sad that, on a parenting website, that view seems to be in the minority.

I think its disgusting to swear around your kids,
This is why I think the working classes shouldn't have children.

I just can't bring myself to care about whether people swear or not.

...nope, sorry op.

Also what monkey said. Thems the rules I go by too, my dd has sworn once in her life and she is 7 she was about 3 and said fuck I gave her 'the look' and she hasn't done it since.

I don't like anyone swearing in front of my DC whether they have their own DC or not.

I am the only person allowed to swear in front of my DC

The rule in this house is you may swear at inanimate objects.

You do not swear outside the house, yes that includes the garden even if next door do. the other neighbours don't.

You may not swear at each other and anyone who swears at a parent goes straight to their room. Same applies if you swear at your sister in a violent and nasty manner.

The person who breaks the rules is me
I has been known to storm out the house calling DH names and have once sworn very loudly at DD2 across a car park.

People looked round, I expected to see a MN thread about this terrible woman swearing at her cute little 9Y (actually she was being extremely stubborn and 9)

@ dawn

I think that's a lazy stereotype, Dawndonna. I come from a large working class family, and while I'm free enough with the swears on here and around adults, I don't remember any of my relatives swearing around us when we were kids.

Perspective is a great thing here:
Swearing at your DC = very bad indeed
Swearing in front of your DC = not great tbf
Expecting your DC to grow up without ever hearing a swear word = totally unrealistic.
And, sadly, in the grand scheme many, many DC are enduring a lot more than swearing.

Is it only working class people who swear then?

...and yes, I know you're joking, obviously- I'm just saying that it isn't a class thing. I was out recently with a real posho who was giving it the full cunt treatment over lunch with her three year old on her knee. Never would have happened in my family.

Don't like swearing, don't think it's needed unless you're in extreme pain or something horrendous has happened. And can't abide how it is now the norm for some people to drop swearing into their sentences every 3 or 4 words, without even noticing, like a reflex reaction much as someone else might say "erm" or "like".
Why is that necessary? Do they truly not realise they are doing it?

Can I ask the people who do swear in front of/at children, are there any words that are out of bounds? Also, do you want/care if your children grow up swearing freely in front of anyone?

Genuine question.

You're being unreasonable to hate parents who swear. You're not the language police, and there's no reason why breeding should disqualify one from being allowed to use certain words.

You're perfectly reasonable to dislike people - parents or otherwise - swearing at high volume in public places, as it shows a lack of awareness for other people, and is pretty rude.

My brother in law swears in front of my nieces all the time. They know plenty of bad words, and they also know when it's appropriate to use them. Surely teaching them about appropriate context is better than a blanket ban?

I dislike swearing especially in front of children or old people.Sometimes I cringe when I hear bad language openly spoken. In the future I think there will be no such thing as swearing because it seems to have become so accepted.Also,I find it amusing that there is a hierarchy with swearing, certain words are top of the scale and others not so bad.My Mum bless her soul used to say swearing was for thick people who are unable to express themselves, she even objected to me saying bloody. Lol at Dawndonna now I find it amusing when I hear posh people swear because it lacks the angst and venom that working class Mancunions use.

God yes, usual, my mum would kill me