My ds would really like a drum kit and we are happy for him to have one. It has only just occurred to me that our neighbours may not be very happy about it - we live in a newish build mid terrace house. One one side we have a friendly, single guy in his 30's who is hardly ever there and is very good with our dc - on the other side we have a grumpy, retired man who is there all the time and is not good with the dc! Obviously we would monitor how much and when he played his drum kit, but I am certain that our neighbour would hear it when he does. The retired guy actually makes quite a bit of noise himself (drilling, loud tv, loud music), though I'm sure we do as well. We are civil, but it is quite obvious he doesn't exactly like living next door to a family with young dc (when he moved in it was just dh and I and just a young couple on his other side too - since then we've had 3dc and his other neighbour has had 2dc) - he has had a big parking wars thing with the neighbours on the other side (who we are good friends with) and has broken off a bit of our lovely tree because it was growing over his side a bit (obviously realise he is within his rights to do this - just wish he had asked us as he's done it really badly and we would have sorted it out properly for him). So, all in all not too bad a relationship, but not great either with a few small neighbourly niggles - I don't want to cause a problem, but I also don't want to deprive my ds! What do you reckon?