To have blocked this person? Another Facebook thread, sorry

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One of my vaguely acquainted friends' daughter wrote some daft comments on her mums Facebook page. Inevitably someone used the 'fraped' word. I commented on how awful that word is and immediately got shot down in flames. Told to chill, get a grip, etc. so in a fit of pique I blocked the person.

Was that a slight overreaction or was I right to take a bit of offence at people stil using that horrible bloody word?

Well not really as I am able to see the broader meaning of the word, you seem to be stuck on it's sexual reference. There is nothing sexual about 'fraping' so I don't really understand why it is taken in the way in which it means an act of forceful sex. I'm just confused as I have never heard anyone use it in reference to anything sexual, or for shock factor. I just think it's an over reaction to a word that doesn't hold any intent to mock the act of rape. I myself don't even use the word. I just think the people I know that do use it would never mock rape or try to make light of it.

Good heavens.

I like FB, but YANB at all U to block whoever you feel like, for whatever reason.
I only have people I know well IRL or extremely well online as friends.

Frape is, as others have said, in very common usage and if it offends you, by all means tell someone.

They may well point out it isn't a reference to sexual rape, or say "But that's not what it means, dude" or tell you to get a chill pill and block you. IJTIND

Your reactions are your own, and I'm unsure why you feel the need to seek validation from some anonymous people on the internet, when known people have already given you feedback.

Perhaps you need new, nicer friends on Facebook?

fair point catwoman. And Mumsnet make the decisions.

I never no which word to use coloured/ black, I always thought black was offensive to them oops

Black isn't offensive as it's the truth... same as I wouldn't call myself white. Arterialspurtmonkey, I use the word rape to describe other things that have been ruined or destroyed by something else by force. So I don't see how you can call me wrong if it is a word I use in a way that does not relate to an act of forceful sex, also I think my english tutor friend would agree with me as it is used in a lot of literature in the way I am referring to. Sorry that you are not able to broaden your vocabulary because of the restrictions you set yourself. Gay is more often used in the term homosexual, but again, it is still used for the other meaning as well. What my point is, just because your mind only goes to one meaning, doesn't mean everyone elses does as in EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT, if they are using a word that has a different meaning and aren't intending to use it in an offensive way, then I don't see how you can really complain.

would* call myself white

YA never BU when you tell someone in a polite way that you find something they do or say offensive. You shouldn't be surprised though when you get some abuse back as most people don't like to be disagreed with. I bet in the 1970s if someone had told jimmy savile they disapproved of him taking teenage girls to his dressing room they would have got some abuse, and I bet there are a fair few people around now who wished they had said something about that rather than going along with the majority.

I never use frape and would be appalled if any of my fb friends did - I would challenge them if it happened.

Imagine if you were a woman or man who had been raped, seeing that word casually bandied around? It could be triggering and very upsetting.

Of course, the 'PC gorn mad' brigade may feel differently

BoerWarKids problem is, lots of things are triggering to lots of people.

I try and remember to give a trigger warning if I'm talking about violence, but I trigger on EA from women.

Me? I have to learn to deal with it.

I had a similar experience with a cousin on FB who posted a joke about a 'bukake' party.
I didn't know what it meant so googled it (don't google it, it's horrible) and I was upset and shocked that he could find this violence against women a suitable subject for a joke. I asked that he take it down but he just deleted my post and left the joke there. So I blocked him.
Anyway, I have now been uninvited to family parties due to speaking my mind. He is a misogynistic twat and I'm glad

Bukkake video: www.youtube.com/watch?gl=GB&hl=en-GB&v=UFSBfVh5Hbc

It doesn't seem very hygienic, I have to say.