Went out for a meal with DP's friends and now he wants to move out.

[Screamfromtherooftops]

Have just got back from a meal with my DP and his friends, I have only met 2 of his friends once since me and DP have been together and there was 4 others with us.

I am undergoing talking therapy for anxiety issues, I get very scared when I go out on my own let alone for a meal.

I get very nervous when plans change too and DP's friends changed the time and place 3 times this morning as we were getting ready.

We brought our 13 month old son and he was quite restless though out the meal so I spent a lot of the time talking to/entertaining him.

I didn't ignore anyone but none of his friends spoke a word to me and when I tried to make a conversation with DP he was ignore/cut me off. They were having plenty of conversations with DP and the other people at the table and I was trying to be as involved as I could just listening, Smiling and nodding along with them.

It was very awkward for me and a big step in helping my anxiety.

Now we are back DP said that I ruined the meal and made it awkward and that he is thinking about packing his bags and leaving.

Please tell me if I ABU because I am really upset at the moment and need honesty.

Have you introduced him to your friends OP? Only we have to question why someone who truly adores us would not want the world to see....

Scream my cousin was always very social. In her mid thirties she got married to a man who is very keen on 'image' and how people see him. He is very critical about how people chat or eat. As a result my cousin now suffers from social anxiety.

I'm not saying that this is your case and he has caused it. But maybe he makes it worse?

I don't know much about social anxiety but i think it enforcing going for meal it wasn't good idea. It was recipe for disaster anyway a) you didn't want to go b) they were all his friends c) you were the only one with a baby d) you didn't plan together a coping stragety and he wasn't helpful.

Baby steps i.e. with your family and close friends would be easier imo. Please dont beat yourself up.