A bit dissapointed in my own brother?

[pamelat]

my brother is lovely

He's thoughtful, Sensitive and a nice guy

His wife is due to give birth tomorrow to their first child

We met them tonight for a meal and he'd had 6 pints

Im quite shocked but wonder if I'm being self righteous

Dh didn't drink in that last week or so "just I'm case"

My brother was drunk. He couldn't speak properly. He definately couldn't drive

I love my brother and his pregnant wife was not concerned at all as she doesn't feel the baby will come tonight

They only live 20/25 mins from the hospital so am I being a prude? My dh is really annoyed at him so we left the meal early :-(

[WorraLiberty]

I have to say OP it does sound as though deep down you don't really agree with your DH's take on this and you're disappointed in yourself for leaving early with him.

If your DH hadn't wanted to leave, would you in all honesty have suggested leaving because of this?

Hand on heart?

[Bessie123]

What annoys me most about this is op's persistent misspelling of 'disappointed'.

[AgentZigzag]

I've never known a woman late on in her pregnancy not feel able to speak her mind worra

[ethelb]

It sounds like he's really stressed and coping with it badly. Does he normally drink so heavily. I wouldn't like to spend an evening with someone who had drunk 6 pints but yabu to leave without speaking to him first.
Though it would take 12 hours for the alcohol to leave his system.

[OddBoots]

I'm more surprised that people think this is a normal amount to drink, a modern normal strength lager is just under 3 units per pint so 6 pints is probably about 16 units with more than 8 units being binge drinking for a man. That seems a lot to me.

[Floralnomad]

I don't think anyone has said that its a normal amount / acceptable amount to drink the point here is if the pregnant wife wasn't bothered then its their business not anyone else's.

[RinderThrillerNight]

Hmm tricky one, compounded by the fact your DH is playing family tit for tat . Probably not the best thing for harmonious relations.

However, by drinking 6 pints, your brother has probably consumed between 15 and 18 units of alcohol, which is probably not the wisest thing to do when your wife is due to give birth quite so imminently. He will not be within the legal driving limit until midday tomorrow at the earliest. If their plan is that he drives her to hospital, then he should be aware of how many units he's had to drink and how long it will take for that to pass through his body.

So, after rambling on, I reckon yanbu.

[AgentZigzag]

Look, everyone on here who's had the prospect of an impending newborn, can you really blame him for shitting himself and over downing the pints??

I would've if I could've

[Iamnotamindreader]

Sorry I'm in the its not ok camp.

Have seen the trail of devastation the stupidity that alcoholism and its only a couple leads to. It disrupts and destroy all normality. So I have little tolerance for drunk people. a little fuzzy I can cope with but it makes me uneasy to be around anyone who has gone beyond that and I don't like to get beyond tipsy myself.

Perhaps my view is skewed.

The baby may come tonight, it may not. Labours don't always go smoothly and having had both a premature labour and a placental abrubtion in seperate pregnancies I am very aware if you do find yourself in one of those situations its astounding how quick it all goes wrong while you're left wondering what the hell just happened.

With a drunk or hungover husband on top of that it would be too much to cope with.
For my own part yanbu to feel dissapointed with your brother but the thought of the what ifs probably haven't entered his head and luckily most of us don't have to cross that bridge.

[missingmumxox]

maybe the reason she wasn't worried is that they had agreed before you arrived this was his last hurrah before baby and if it all kicked off he would just have to suck it up, call a taxi and sit in the hospital feeling like crapola. because his sister was visiting.
Me and DH did this he got ratted the night before the night he had to get to the hospital for my 9 am c-section I was an inpatient for 6 weeks before hand, it was agreed, I could have gone into labour and he was under orders to get a taxi.
I did it the night before my IVF inplantation, it was my birthday and I went for it, and was possibly still drunk when the inplantation was done, but I figured most people are drunk when they have sex and concieve, my mum blamed whiskey for me, and my Gran Snappes for her youngest at 47 :)

[missingmumxox]

nothing to do with the OP but I know the clocks are changing but Iamnot is time stamped at 01.54:52 and it is actually 01.25? according to my clock?

[missingmumxox]

I am a time traveller
Sorry I'm in the its not ok camp.

Have seen the trail of devastation the stupidity that alcoholism and its only a couple leads to. It disrupts and destroy all normality. So I have little tolerance for drunk people. a little fuzzy I can cope with but it makes me uneasy to be around anyone who has gone beyond that and I don't like to get beyond tipsy myself.

Perhaps my view is skewed.

The baby may come tonight, it may not. Labours don't always go smoothly and having had both a premature labour and a placental abrubtion in seperate pregnancies I am very aware if you do find yourself in one of those situations its astounding how quick it all goes wrong while you're left wondering what the hell just happened.

With a drunk or hungover husband on top of that it would be too much to cope with.
For my own part yanbu to feel dissapointed with your brother but the thought of the what ifs probably haven't entered his head and luckily most of us don't have to cross that bridge.

did that work?

[differentnameforthis]

I love my brother and his pregnant wife was not concerned at all as she doesn't feel the baby will come tonight

That. It is not your place to be disappointed in him at all. And as for leaving early because it ... really!?

[differentnameforthis]

but to be fair to him it's because I was upset about his mum upsetting me a few weeks ago

How long are you going to hold onto that? A few weeks ago your dh's mum upset you, so you decided to get upset with YOUR family? You sound rather childish actually, letting someone else (who isn't even there) upset your evening.

[manticlimactic]

Are you sure you're not a mind reader iamnnotamindreader because you've just posted what missingmumxox just said

[manticlimactic]

Um it appears I am now a mind reader.

What the hell??

[manticlimactic]

OK Iamnot you're posts keep appearing after mine.

[missingmumxox]

no not mind reader...time traveller, enjoy the ride :)

[missingmumxox]

I am getting confused now, who said what and when? the Doctor should be sainted it isn't easy

Got to get this in before the fixed event at 01.54:52. just done it and saved the universe...I hope?.. see you on the other side [hgrim]

[missingmumxox]

I am reversing the polarity of the nutron flow, hold on every one

[missingmumxox]

is every one okay? bumpy landing, but basically intact?

[missingmumxox]

YAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY the space time continuium is A OKAY!

[manticlimactic]

Are you iamnot missingmum? You both have been saying the same thing - and if there's something different in those posts, then I am far too drunk so shall retire to bed.

[manticlimactic]

[missingmumxox]

night, no I am not, iamnot just her post kept being behind mine. so I could pretend to post before her.