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to be upset my dd was left with her shoes on the wrong feet

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juedanlil · 25/10/2012 23:06

My dd is in reception and they held a spooky disco tonite. Teachers offered to get the children changed should they want to dress up . Went to pick her up and she has shoes on wrong feet , not impressed as there would have been lots of adults in the hall as there were 3 years taking part.
So changes her shoes over and goes home . Got really cross thinking bout how she had been left like that for the whole disco .
Gets home takes her costume of ect and her little feet have been rubbed so they are now sore.
Am I over thinking this or would you think at leasts one adult would have told her change them over . ??:(

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freddiefrog · 25/10/2012 23:21

My DD at 7 quite often has her shoes on the wrong feet, they have to change into plimsoles at school, and I don't usually notice until half way home/she's taking then off

But, then I went out in odd Converse a couple of weeks ago, one red and one white and didn't notice until the middle of harvest festival assembly

usualsuspect3 · 25/10/2012 23:21

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MrsKeithRichards · 25/10/2012 23:21

Only having his shoes on his wrong feet is a good day for ds. He excelled himself last week. Trousers inside out, one gym and one school shoe and someone else's lunchbox.

CoolaSchmoola · 25/10/2012 23:21

You are overthinking this and being just a little PFB. Her rubbed "little feet" can't have hurt that much or surely she would have told someone, or told you the minute you arrived rather than not giving them any thought until you noticed?

I don't get why you got "really cross" - this happens with children all the time, your DD is one amongst hordes, she was dressed, the shoes were an oversight, get over it. Maybe when they agreed to get them changed they meant costumes, meaning clothes, and didn't even consider shoes? I wouldn't have as long as they were dressed.

Or and here's a thought you could avoid such awful situations by teaching her which feet her shoes go on. She's in reception, maybe the teachers thought she would know this and changed her clothes but didn't check her shoes.

I tend to like the "There is a 'L' on your left hand and a 'L' in your left shoe" (drawn in with pen) "Put your 'L' shoe on the foot below your 'L' hand". Works well with Reception age kids.

In case anyone is wondering if you hold your left hand upright in front of you and look at the side, then drop your thumb - ta daaaaa! There is an 'L'. There isn't one on the right so no confusion. I also find this works well for adults who still haven't learnt their left from their right.

MissMyBellyButton · 25/10/2012 23:23

I would have been sad too in your place but I am sure your DS won't care or remember.

I dropped my DS to nursery in his wellies the other day and was gutted to find him still wearing them when I collected him that lunchtime .

Procrasstinator · 25/10/2012 23:23

have you never had such a great time out dancing, that you never noticed your blisters till you got home??

MissMyBellyButton · 25/10/2012 23:24

Sorry, your DD.

Tincletoes · 25/10/2012 23:24

I think I will be a bit sad the day I can't tell when DS1 has pe. At the moment he nearly always comes out with some sort of sign - the wrong jumper, polo shirt inside out, shorts wrong way round, or just totally dishevelled. When he gets it all perfectly it will be a sign he's getting too big!

ChippingInLovesAutumn · 25/10/2012 23:28

Tincletoes - it is sad when that happens... it seems to overnight :( It was lovely the other day though, I collected my friends little one from school and he was amazed that I knew he'd had PE that day

OP - I'm glad you have come to your senses

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juedanlil · 25/10/2012 23:33

Coola -thanks for your positive comments!! She has got sore feet and didn't notice until she sat still ! She is only just 4 so I don't think I am falling short with teaching her anything just yet !! O and they were her school shoes I didn't send any other shoes in !

Procrass - my thoughts exactly !!

That's afor all comments yes I over thought it !!

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stretch · 25/10/2012 23:34

Ack, I wouldn't worry, with DD1 (now 10), I got her some new shoes, got her home, wore them out for a few days a while, then realised that one was a 6 and one was 9!! Clarks do a 'pair checked' thing on their receipt now!

ImperialBlether · 26/10/2012 00:24

I'm sorry, OP, but I'm laughing at your daughter's feet looking like a penguin's.

Couldn't you just take a photo of her in them and have a laugh with her about it?

I went out in a pair of shoes that didn't match - one was red with a high heel, one was black with a low heel - yes, they hurt me and no, I didn't realise why until I was 3 miles from home, but hey, did I cry? (Actually I did, but with laughter.)

mamamibbo · 26/10/2012 00:27

i put marks in marker on the inside of my 3 year old shoes, if she puts the dots together then her shoes are on the right feet, it works :)

Morloth · 26/10/2012 00:53

LOL up until the age of about 7 DS1 had his shoes on the wrong feet about 50% of the time, still happens sometimes.

I do it to DS2 all the time.

Nothing bad will happen.

unexpectediteminbaggingarea · 26/10/2012 00:55

yabu. my son came out of school with his trousers on backwards the other day. we were falling about laughing. he almost always puts his wellies on the wrong feet and often his shoes.

Startailoforangeandgold · 26/10/2012 00:57

I've help with swimming at school and lots of the DCs stick their shoes on the wrong feet and don't seem in any hurry to swap them back if you notice.

Boomerwang · 26/10/2012 00:59

Read the first few posts.

You're not overthinking this. It'd have pissed me off too. Shoes are the simplest things to get right and they'd have to have been looking in an entirely different direction to cock it up. I'm not saying this leads to questions about security, but I am saying they were prioritising the wrong thing if the hurry was such that shoes were put on the wrong feet.

I'd be angry about it, but I'd leave it unless more stuff of a similar nature occurred.

Some people can be incredibly stupid. When I worked in respite I reported a day centre for sending someone home with an incontinence pad on that was inside out, leaving her pissing down her leg in the cold. I was furious.

WorraLiberty · 26/10/2012 01:05

Oh goodness me, the chances are the shoes were on the wrong feet because the OP's DD was encouraged to be independent and put them on herself....like most reception kids are encouraged to do.

pigletmania · 26/10/2012 06:42

Yabvu no big deal. The main thing is your dd had a good time. Priorites

exoticfruits · 26/10/2012 07:19

Exactly- priorities. She had a good time, she was being encouraged to be independent. It is no big deal. She now understands there is a right foot- we all learn by our own mistakes far more than someone telling us.

AmazingBouncingFerret · 26/10/2012 07:29

I once went to work with odd shoes on, didnt notice until walking back to the carpark after my shift. It's possible that nobody noticed your DD's feet.

Sirzy · 26/10/2012 07:36

Draw half a smily face in each shoe, teach her to make a smily face before she puts them on then they SHOULD end up on the right feet.

To the poster who was upset their child still had wellies on at nursery why? Ds would live in his and has actually worn them to bed!

exoticfruits · 26/10/2012 07:52

My brother managed to ski for 2 hours with his ski boots on the wrong feet and he was over 30yrs at the time! Save getting upset for important things and not trivialities.

greensnail · 26/10/2012 08:03

My dd came home a few weeks ago with 2 left shoes on. Her friend was wearing the two right ones

stretch · 26/10/2012 08:04

Boomerwang - shoes on the the wrong feet is NOT the same as an incontinence pad on inside out. At all.

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