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Original poster

To think he shoud be here ASAP

33 replies

Fishwife1949 · 25/10/2012 17:02

Right looking after my DN as my sister has just oved and here and my bil cannt take anymore time off and DN wont start here new day care for 3 weeks

I am nor charging as this is family the agrement is that sister drops her in the morining and bil pickes her up

The issue is he is going home first getting a shower and a bite to eat before coming to get her i think this is a bit of a piss take and think he should come stright from work He gets home about 3 but is not getting here till about 5 um i live 20 minutes down the road ffs

Lso its not as if hes a lumber jack and needs a shower after work he works in a bank ffs

Aibu

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Original poster
Fishwife1949 · 25/10/2012 17:07

We all get on fab but this is starting to erk me

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EarnestDullard · 25/10/2012 17:07

YANBU, you are doing them a favour and he's taking the piss by leaving his child with you for 2 hours more than he needs to every day.

TennisFan42 · 25/10/2012 17:14

Cheeky bastard! I would have a word with him (or your sister if you feel more comfortable doing that) and say this isn't on.

EuroShagmore · 25/10/2012 17:19

Yep, that's cheeky.

MrsTerryPratchett · 25/10/2012 17:20

If he had asked you and arranged it like that, fair enough. But two hours 'off' at your expense? Cheeky sod.

Original poster
Fishwife1949 · 25/10/2012 17:21

I think seeing as there are only 4 days left just to keep the peace i will say nothing and quietly seethe

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HeinousHecate · 25/10/2012 17:24

no. Tell them both that he has to collect their child on his way home or you aren't going to be able to have her.

Tell them that you feel taken advantage of!

HeinousHecate · 25/10/2012 17:25

Xpost.

I still think you should tell them you feel that you have been taken advantage of. Keeping the peace is not the be all and end all. Resentment can spoil relationships.

MrsTerryPratchett · 25/10/2012 17:26

Annoying since I bet he wouldn't do it if they were paying you.

StuntGirl · 25/10/2012 17:31

I would definitely have a word, 4 days left or not.

It does not take 2 hours to have a shower and a bite to eat, besides which he should be doing those things after he's collected her. He's taking the piss and I suspect he's just enjoying 2 hours of doing fuck all and having the house to himself.

Politely ask him to collect his daughter straight from work tomorrow as you can only look after her 'til 3.30pm (or whatever time he gets home). Cheeky git.

JustFabulous · 25/10/2012 17:35

If he had asked first..

spicandspan · 25/10/2012 17:35

arrange an appointment, shopping gtrip, whatever, and tell him you cant have the child for the extra time cos ur going out.

complexnumber · 25/10/2012 17:40

He gets home about 3

Is he p/t?

FlobbadobbaBOO · 25/10/2012 17:51

It's only 4 days this time, bet they try it again if you don't say something.

BadgersGhostlyRetreatWoo · 25/10/2012 17:54

depends on the type of banking complex - i work in finance and do 6.30 am to 2.30pm to keep up with certain stock markets

Ithinkitsjustme · 25/10/2012 17:59

YANBU but I think that in your situation, as it is only another 4 days I'd let it go, but make sure you say something if you are ever asked again. I wouldn't see it as a big enough deal to ruin an otherwise good relationship over, but if it happened again I'd say something pretty quick. (I'd also be asking a few favours myself in repayment - like babysitting in the evenings etc Grin)

SauvignonBlanche · 25/10/2012 18:19

Yanbu

complexnumber · 25/10/2012 18:34

i work in finance and do 6.30 am to 2.30pm to keep up with certain stock markets

Fair enough, I just wondered

pictish · 25/10/2012 18:36

Very cheeky and liberty taking. Get him told.

BitOutOfPractice · 25/10/2012 18:42

What a bloody liberty!

Some people have absolutely no fucking idea about the value (monetary and otherwise) of good quality, loving childcare do they?

DontmindifIdo · 25/10/2012 18:45

Call your sister tonight, say you're finding it hard looking after her, so you can do until 3:30pm but need some time in the early evening for your own DCs, so can she tell BIL to come over on his way home from work.

It'll stop you wanting to help again in the future, it's best you're honest about what you're prepared to do.

MrsTerryPratchett · 25/10/2012 19:03

Does your DS actually know he's doing this?

Shutupanddrive · 25/10/2012 19:05

YANBU, he is taking the piss

HandMini · 25/10/2012 19:11

He is absolutely taking the piss and YANBU. I would look him straight in the eye and tell him "you have to pick up your DD at 3.30 tomorrow because I want a couple of hours to myself, you know, to have a shower and a bite to eat and relax in an empty house". See how he reacts. You're already doing them a very kind favour...they should not be abusing your generosity.

Tuttutitlookslikerain · 25/10/2012 19:15

He's taking the piss. And I bet he isn't going home for a shower, I bet he is putting his feet up with a cuppa and watching the TV for a couple of hours in peace and quiet!

You have to say something though, regardless of the fact there are only four days left, because next time they need a favour he will do it then too!