To object to my money being spent this way

[kurlykatie]

A neighbour of mine has started a small ironing business. I give her an order every fortnight or so costing approx £20 a time. Every single night there are takeaways being sent to her house, she lives with her 4 children. To be honest I am really annoyed at the fact that I am out working 45+ hours per week and she is spending my money on takeaways every night. I would not object if she was actually spending the money on her children but WIBU to stop giving her orders seeing as she is just wasting everyones money.

I do feel like shes trying to make me feel like shes doing me a favour Henious, what she doesn't know is that I have had to turn away work because I am so busy.

Beetroot I would tell her to shove her ironing up her arse the rude,lazy bitch! You are doing her a favour not the other way round
Maybe word it as "I no longer wish to provide you with my services" to keep it on the polite side. And tell her why if she asks.

Hec is right, I am sure of it.

Would you rather she spent it on clowns and jugglers?

How dare she patronise you like that.

How very noblesse oblige of her

Tell her to stick her ironing up her fucking arse pay someone else to do her ironing then as you will be spending your rightfully earned money as you see fit!

No, her exact words were 'I am not too sure if I will be getting you to do my ironing again as I notice that every night you seem to be spending my money on rubbish'.

*Its not her fucking money, its mine now, I'll do what I like with it
*I don't 'waste' it 'every night', maybe 2 or 3 at the most
*She isn't 'getting' me to do anything, she seen my advert in the shop and came to me

I'm just worried about what she would say to other people if I tell her to do one.

are you in south wales, could do with someone to iron for me < stares up DC uniform>

I no longer wish to provide you with my services

That is perfect!

I'm in Scotland McHappy, sorry!

May i just point out that £20 will not buy even 2 nights worth of takeaways, never mind a week!

Fucking hell.

She sounds like a patronising cow.

How rude of her! I'd tell her to get lost. Or maybe she should pay you in improving books

What does she spend her money on?

What did you say to her OP?

I think I'd have smiled at her and said 'Ok', then closed the door and never ironed for her again.

I think you need to tell her that ironing is your job and as with any other person who works, how you spend your wages is nobody else's business.

And if she wants to say anything to other people, what's she going to say?

Oh, Beety was SO rude to me. I told her that I don't like her spending the money I pay her for ironing on takeaways and she told me that she'll spend her wages on whatever she wants.

She would look a total twat.

Or you could just put them straight.

But most importantly, you need to tell her that she is not doing you a favour. you are a self employed person and your earnings are yours to do with as you please.

Since when was it an employers business what the employees spent their money on.

I would just remain calm and aloof and tell her it is not her money you are spending on rubbish, it is the money your husband/mother/whoever gives you.

I would start a whispering campaign now to get in first. Talk to people you know who dont use your service (but hopefully know people who do) and laugh about your client that said this. Word will get round how mad she is so if she starts gossiping people will be thinking "oh, here we go..."

:( shame

wow perhaps you could let a baby accidently sit on her ironing (joke)

Was just about to say the same thing myself bogeyface, also how the hell are you supposed to cook with all that ironing to do, tell her she's doing you a service, at least you can now cook yourself and your kids a proper home cooked meal once a fortnight now that you dont have to do her ironing. [hgrin]

sit or shit sock?

Totally didn't mean that to sound as bitchy as it did sorry, was supposed to be jokey [hhmm]

Oh wow, can't believe she said that!

I would have told her not to worry, it's the child benefit being spent on takeaways - you save her money for your crack habit

well i ment sit but without a nappy

You have a few options, I'd go with:

Playful shove/poke - "oh you, you're so funny".

And laugh uproariously. Repeat ad nauseum.