I probably am being unreasonable, plus I know this is very trivial etc...
I moved to a new town a year ago, my neighbour moved in not long after me. We introduced ourselves and discovered that we have quite a bit in common plus have young children. She didn't know anyone so I told her about the toddler groups and she came along with me. I introduced her to any other Mum's I had met. This went on for a while, coffee visits, toddler groups and trips out. I was quite pleased I had found a friend. I introduced her to another family on the street who are lovely and their children play with my child. Neighbour seemed quite uncomfortable with it all then admitted to me next time I saw her that she didn't want to socialise or be friendly with this family. The reason? They don't own their home, in fact it is a HA house. I was really shocked at the attitude but have gradually discovered it is quite prevalent around here.
Then I was ill for about two weeks and couldn't get out and about very well. On returning to toddler groups, neighbour's attitude seemed to change towards me. I was sort of left smiling and waving at her when she walked through the doors only for her to blank me and go over to another bunch of mums. When I went over to chat her at the groups, she would be polite but would often turn her back to talk to the other mums. As my garden backs onto hers, I couldn't fail to notice she began to invite the other mums back to her house after toddler groups and all the kids would play outside. I felt quite bad for my little one as she wanted to go and play as well. Clearly I wasn't invited.
Confused, I assumed I had done something to offend her so left it to just being polite when I saw her. It became summer holidays, groups stopped and clearly neighbour had nothing to do so suddenly very friendly with me again, inviting me round and telling me she had nothing to do so maybe we should hook up? Nevertheless I did go round for coffee and felt we got on quite well. Over the holidays she repeatedly said 'come round, we can catch up' so I would knock on her door and we would arrange a time. This was sort of never reciprocated. When I invited her round I didn't hear anything.
So, after the fourth time of me knocking on her door like a wally, I decided I would just leave it and see if she came knocking on mine.
Three months passed...
Nothing until today. She has knocked and informed she is bored and can she and her child come in and play.
I said no politely as we have plans later (lie, I am actually feeling quite run down)
This obviously annoyed her and she pressed for a time next week.
AIBU to bloody upset and feel a bit 'used'?