To think dh should have some perspective?

[Hidethecrisps]

First time in AIBU so please be gentle but honest....

Pretty annoyed with my dh but emotional and hormonal (38 weeks pregnant) so need to check if IABU.

Friday night my uncle passed away, he was in hospital seriously ill but everyone thought he had months if not years. My father (his brother) and my grandparents are of course heartbroken. I was not that close to him but am still devastated for my father, grandparents and cousin (who is in her 20s and has already lost her mum, so this is extra tragic). We were at my parents and then grandparents today, very emotional for everyone of course, felt drained and so sad for them.

When we came home my dh decided to work out our family budget, I'm pregnant with ds2 and we had been thinking we might need a bigger car. Dh works away in the week very long hours and was upset to see that we only have about 250 a month to put in savings/towards a new car (after taking out some money for disposable income).

I know he works really hard and has a point but I was so annoyed at his bad timing and lack of perspective! We are fit and healthy, can pay all our bills, are surrounded by loved ones, we have all the things that money can't buy. I just wanted to shake him! I am a SAHM at the moment and will go back to work in a year or 2 when it makes financial sense with childcare costs etc. so if this is the worst (touch wood) we're going to have it I think we are pretty damn lucky!

Could really have done with a bit of a cuddle/support this evening instead of dh feeling sorry for himself. So AIBU to be pissed off and in the spare room?

Ear plugs excellent idea. I'm going to pop my real life ones in and try to get some sleep.
Good luck hidethechips, really hope it all goes ok for you x

I've logged in just to report b**u's posts. Vile and tedious.

O.P, I think it's one of those crossed wire situations, as odd as it might seem, him checking the budget and worrying about savings is his way of saying he cares.

Meh, I forgive beitou, opposition and unreasonable behaviour can be helpful sometimes in a discussion, would be dull without it.

I didn't give a fuck about my Great Uncle wotsit, I didn't much like his wife, my granny's sister, but I loved my Granny, and my Mum and it was really draining and emotionally tough to be there for them. Watching someone truly grieve does affect you, and at 38 weeks pregnant, after a day of it, a chat about finances is bad timing. Whether the op is attention seeking or not, and so what if she is (!) the fact is, her DH wasn't unreasonable but a little out of touch with empathy. Hug, make up, and beitou has one good point at least, you needed to get it out (therefore seeking some form of attention) and I can't think bad of you for that. YANBU.